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To spend every evening in bed dreading work the next day

101 replies

Whatapalavaa · 07/04/2021 21:57

Does anyone else do this? Full of dread and panic at the thought of another day at work to get through. Wanting to sleep to escape that feeling, but at the same time, not wanting to fall asleep because it means the next day comes faster. Just awful.

OP posts:
freeandfierce · 07/04/2021 22:40

I'm in this situation (teacher), can't sleep, wake up in very early hours panicking about how much there is to do. I've worked solid for a year, all through last Summer, got a few days at Christmas. Took one day off this weekend to try and sleep. It's relentless and now being pressured to get them completed earlier than normal. Feel like I'm running at 100mph a the time. I know I'm going to crash soon. Told today to expect to work all Summer, been authorised one week off. Job hunting desperately.

SpudsandGravy · 07/04/2021 22:41

Not any more, thank goodness.

The sooner you can change jobs the better. I hope things improve for you Thanks

Mydogmylife · 07/04/2021 22:46

Sadly yes, been there and it truly is awful. I would leave work on a Friday, and if you asked me at any stage over the weekend I could tell you immediately how many hours I had before I was back there. My health suffered, my relationship suffered - nightmare . My advice , first your GP , then gird your loins and sign up to various recruitment agencies - even being a bit proactive looking for done thing does help
Chin up op

Vivana · 07/04/2021 22:46

My old job yes I hated it so much I once had a anxiety attack and couldn't face it. So rang the doctors and they signed me off work for a month. This was because it was in a care home with a covid outbreak and I just couldn't face it anymore. The manager didn't care at all about the staff and that made matters worse

But now a few months on I found a lovely job I look forward to going in and happy to Do 12 hour shifts. Still in social care but more happy now

midsomermurderess · 07/04/2021 22:49

God yes, back to work tomorrow after a few days off, a mild dread and anxiety. I think it's quite normal, not being sure what you'll have to deal with, not looking forward to picking something up again.

normalsaline · 07/04/2021 22:52

I’ve experienced this and it’s truly a life ruiner. Hope you find a way out Flowers

Hesontrial · 07/04/2021 22:55

Been there, didn’t think I could leave, left, it all disappeared overnight as others would say.

Flowers
Forgothowmuchlhatehomeschoolin · 07/04/2021 22:57

@Pinkchocolate your dh was spot on - what a lovely thing for him to say.
Op can you tell why you are so unhappy?
I have been in that situation before and honestly life is way too short.

Ninibest · 07/04/2021 22:59

I think it is time for you to change job. I like going to my job, colleagues are nice and boss is great and I do my part too by working hard and be nice with them. Hope you will find something nice too

Iminaglasscaseofemotion · 07/04/2021 22:59

I uses to be like this with school. I felt sick at the thought of going, but then I was being badly bullied for a good chunk of my life. Also had it with a placement I used to do for college. God I dreaded that. There was just so many things I hated about it. It was only 2 days a week but it took over my whole life, dreading going, hating being there, clock watching the whole 7 hours.
I gave that up and started working for myself from home. I'm so much happier doing that. I quite look forward to my days most of the time.

onemorerose · 07/04/2021 23:05

I’m experiencing this too, dreaming about work, waking with an anxiety knot of what I need to do and what I have not done yet. I believe it’s wfh related. People are working random and holiday hours that they would never have done before. There feels like so much pressure.

Stroller15 · 07/04/2021 23:09

I'm feeling like this OP. It's not worth it. I am exhausted but can't get into a deep sleep. Can't breathe deeply. I have an interview on Monday but my confidence is shot. And also not even sure this will be a better job. I hope you get a good opportunity OP!

SusannahSophia · 07/04/2021 23:11

Started feeling anxious every Sunday, then that dread moved onto Saturday and would spoil the whole weekend. I had to change jobs.in now do something much less well paid but I’m a lot happier.

newyeardelurker · 07/04/2021 23:12

Your post leaves a few questions

  • you have dread of work - why?
  • how is your job when you are doing it - is it as bad as you fear?
  • whatever you are worrying about do you get any support eg from your line manager
  • do you get formal reports / appraisals that tell you how you are doing - what do they tell you?

Answers to the above might help you to decide whether your work is something you can tolerate.

Best wishes.

SheilaWilcox · 07/04/2021 23:17

This is my life, not about work, just life.
Struggle to get to sleep because I know the next thing I'm aware of will be morning and I hate facing the day.

WerkWerkWerkWerkWerk · 07/04/2021 23:24

Yes, and had a near breakdown as a result.
Anxiety meds, panic attack, and 2 stone weight loss.
Why do you feel this way

looselegs · 07/04/2021 23:28

Been there. Done that.
I'm 52 now.
Life is too bloody short to lay awake not wanting to go to work next day.

unchienandalusia · 07/04/2021 23:29

What do you hate about your job so much OP? The people? The actual work itself? Politics? Insecurity?

Watermelon1234 · 07/04/2021 23:34

I don’t know if anyone else feels the same but since getting nearer 50 I’ve noticed subtle changes at work- not being taken as seriously by colleagues (professional role), being talked down to a bit by more junior or older male colleagues....?

normalsaline · 08/04/2021 00:40

@SheilaWilcox

This is my life, not about work, just life. Struggle to get to sleep because I know the next thing I'm aware of will be morning and I hate facing the day.
Flowers
DramaAlpaca · 08/04/2021 00:43

Yes in my previous job. When I started feeling that way I knew I had to get out of there. It's not always easy to get out though, especially when you feel dragged down, so I sympathise.

WeWereOnABreak10 · 08/04/2021 00:46

Yes!! I totally understand. I'm hoping to 'ride it out' though. 🤗

SionnachGlic · 08/04/2021 00:54

I knew that feeling. My profession is known by those of us in it to be extremely stressful...there just are never enough hours in the day. I am very good at my job and love the kind of work I do...but the stress if it amplified x 100 dealing with a workaholic employer who would 'do whatever it takes to get it over the line'. I had to stick it out during recession & recovery given that lots were out of work & I had a job that I needed to keep, bills that needed to be paid. But it just allowed employers to heap more on, on the basis that you will take whatever they throw at you. So many nights awake dreading the next day...delirious with joy on a Fri & then worrying w/e ...& the fear from about 5pm on the Sunday. I left the first chance I got for a job with work/life balance & much much more happiness & contentment. No more fear & stress...well, some good adrenalin stress the odd time...but def def not the fear! Lots of people told me they could see the change in me.... apparently I always looked wrecked/stressed before.

OP...find another job as soon as you can...life is too short.

maybelou · 08/04/2021 01:08

This is me right now, I don't want to sleep because it'll bring work back around, but I need to sleep to be able to deal with work 😩

Ploughingthrough · 08/04/2021 01:20

You've got to make an exit plan for that job. I have a family member that has been made physically ill by the stress of their job and this person has always been the picture of strength. She had to leave.

I had a job that made me feel like that once. I always said I would quit with nothing to go to by the end of the year - fortunately I found something but I would have followed that through.
Take care of yourself.