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To spend every evening in bed dreading work the next day

101 replies

Whatapalavaa · 07/04/2021 21:57

Does anyone else do this? Full of dread and panic at the thought of another day at work to get through. Wanting to sleep to escape that feeling, but at the same time, not wanting to fall asleep because it means the next day comes faster. Just awful.

OP posts:
Merryoldgoat · 07/04/2021 22:00

Yes - in my old job. It was the worst period of my life. I left and have a job that I genuinely enjoy doing and haven’t felt like that in years.

Life is too short.

AlrightTreacle · 07/04/2021 22:01

I have in a previous job. Not in my current job. All that anxiety and panic gone over night, was amazing. Wish I had left sooner.

What is it about your job that makes you feel like that?

Heatherjayne1972 · 07/04/2021 22:01

You need a new job

No job is worth that.

Sloth66 · 07/04/2021 22:02

I used to do this and it was awful. I decided to have a complete job change, and although I now earn a lot less, I budget and can manage ok. I also sleep a lot better

Stuckhere2021 · 07/04/2021 22:02

I’m like this OP. Hate my job. I’m already dreading Monday morning as I leave work on Friday night. Saving like mad and planning my exit - can you do something like that?

allotmentgardener · 07/04/2021 22:03

Its called stress. :(

Original poster
Whatapalavaa · 07/04/2021 22:05

I know I need to leave. I don't have the emotional or physical energy to apply for other roles and everything sounds tedious. I'm in a shitty place mentally.

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ViolentVienetta · 07/04/2021 22:05

Oh god I'm doing this. Except instead of sleeping I watch total shite on the telly for hours trying to numb the anxiety.

I wake up stressed and exhausted.

Excited101 · 07/04/2021 22:07

Omg I feel like this at the moment. I’m hoping it’s covid related and temporary.

Original poster
Whatapalavaa · 07/04/2021 22:07

My stomach is always in bits. Constantly nauseous or in pain or that feeling of panic. Rarely have much of an appetite.

OP posts:
Merryoldgoat · 07/04/2021 22:09

I put on 3 stone in the 8 months I was there. I was beyond miserable.

Pinkchocolate · 07/04/2021 22:10

I was like this until my husband told me we could manage with less money but we couldn’t manage without me, I quit within the month and found a much better job. You say you aren’t in a good place mentally so start working on that first, do you have help/support in place?

2021youpromisedyoudbebetter · 07/04/2021 22:10

Had this in my old job, left and never looked back. It was like an instantaneous relief

Sloth66 · 07/04/2021 22:10

Think it might be worth talking to your GP if you are getting those symptoms Op.

Dangleclack · 07/04/2021 22:12

I don't have the emotional or physical energy to apply for other roles and everything sounds tedious.
Tedious is far preferable to where you are. 8 hours a day being bored but not stressed is worth it's weight in gold for your well being.

AChickenCalledDaal · 07/04/2021 22:13

I did, yes. Three weeks off with stress and a course of online CBT have helped a lot. I still get those feelings sometimes, but not all the time, and I have some strategies for managing it better.

Somuddled · 07/04/2021 22:14

I do the stare at the TV trying to block any thoughts out thing. Something needs to change. I thought I could limp on for another year but not sure I'm going to even make it through the week.

BigBlueDog · 07/04/2021 22:15

Changing jobs won't necessarily solve the problem. Is it the people you work with or is it the work you do that is causing the problem?

TooStressyTooMessy · 07/04/2021 22:17

I’ve had this before. It sucks the life out of you. Tedious might be better than stressed out of your head. Flowers

workworkworkugh · 07/04/2021 22:23

Yes I have this, every single night.

I left my extremely stressful job in 2019 as I was crying every night and now I'm back in the same workplace (different role tho) and starting to feel the same but for different reasons.
I know mine is a lot to do with my anxiety and honestly I'd rather just go back to work in a retail role rather than a professional role but the hours aren't suitable for our family and I'd feel like a right idiot leaving the same place twice, so I feel very stuck right now 😔

Happycamper78 · 07/04/2021 22:26

Every day at the moment. Can't face food all day. So relate to the sleep comments...dread going to bed. I am looking at other jobs but confidence is shot. Will look at anything at the moment. Has the job changed? Has it always been like this?

Watermelon1234 · 07/04/2021 22:29

Yes I can relate to this- I am off on leave for a week and already dreading going back as it’s worse when you’ve had time off as i don’t know what changes have been brought in which I have no control over.

For me it’s not the job, I actually enjoy the job- it’s the colleagues/toxic atmosphere/management (or lack of) .

I’d leave, but I’m quite specialist and it would mean a pretty big cut in income.

Unsuremover · 07/04/2021 22:33

I was 3/4 months into my last job before I realised the reason I was less tired was because I was going to bed, sleeping and waking up without hours of anxiety. Changed my life without me realising how bad it had gotten.

Cipot · 07/04/2021 22:37

Why do some jobs suck the life out of you? My last job was bad. I'm in a new one which is better. But it's still taking over my life. Don't let yours damage you any more op.

Longingforatikihut · 07/04/2021 22:37

I spent years feeling like this in my early 20s. It was a workplace that broke me. Eventually I went to uni to retrain and now I do a job I love. I don't want to get up because my bed is snuggly, not because I dread work.