To be fed up of my neighbours

[Cherrydown]

Name changed as I don't want to be recognised.

I am so fed up with my neighbours and if you all tell me to get a grip I shall honestly try. I doubt things are going to change, so maybe I do just need to look at it a different way.

I live in a semi on a quiet road, been here 20 years, I like it.

My adjoining neighbour moved in a few years ago and don't use their back garden at all, ever. They have table and chairs set out on their driveway, paddling pool and sun loungers in the summer and bbq with loud music about 4 times a week.

They sit there most evenings and have loud voices, we hear them over our tv and our lounge is only about 10ft away from where they are sat, we have one through room, so can't change where we sit. It has started up again this week and will likely go on until about October.

To be fair music is usually turned off by 10pm but they can sit out there talking until the early hours.

Last summer was just awful, I can't bear the thought of it being the same again this year. It just feels so intrusive. We can hardly hear our own tv/music. I just find it very rude. We're very quiet, private people, so perhaps that's why it bothers us so much.

I know them to say hello to but no more than that. They are shouty people, I'm not and hate confrontation.

AIBU to think this behaviour isn't okay?

Any suggestions of how to handle it? Do I just need to get a grip, it makes me more annoyed than it probably should do?

Not going to lie that would annoy me as well especially as they have a garden! Is there a reason they don’t use it??

Yep this would drive me mad aswell, when we had noisy neighbours we ended up moving.

Move. They will never change. I couldn’t live with that either.

It would annoy me too. I probably would have moved by now.

Do they not get sun in the garden? Or why is the drive the preferred option? It would annoy me too

That's..... well it is weird. Are they chatty with people walking past?

That would kill me. Can you approach them and tell them they’re disturbing you? I bloody hate inconsiderate neighbours. Staying outdoors talking to the early hours is surely annoying others?

Get out first with speakers playing the opposite of their music taste...

Is it the case they use the front of their property rather than the back garden because it gets the sun?

Sun maybe?

If I were you I'd move. You'll not change them.

Well it’s a bit weird (and chavvy) but what difference does it make to a neighbour if next door use their front or back garden?

What about the other neighbours? Could you team up to approach these anti social idiots?

That's so annoying. I would hate that. Especially on a quiet street.

How do they not realise it is disturbing for others. I would absolutely be having a word, but then I don't mind a bit of face to face confrontation if it's needed.

Perhaps they assume that since no one has said anything, it's not a problem.

Oh god I almost wanted you all to say it was normal and I needed to just get a grip!

Yes we get more sun at the front but there is some at the bottom of the garden and no one in the other 40 houses on this side of the road feel the need to sit in the front.

They occasionally say hello to people.

Moving isn't an option unfortunately. I keep hoping they will.

To be fair, if they've been there a few years and no one has said anything they probably think it's fine? Have you not told them it disturbs you?

My next door neighbours only use their front garden too. The kids are out now playing cricket and screaming right by my living room window which is where I'm sitting. The ball keeps coming over and nearly hitting our car too which then involves them all traipsing over to recover it. Its driving me mad.

No I've never said anything, I'm a bit scared of them tbh and worried it will make them worse.

Other neighbours have mentioned it to me, but seems like no one wants to tackle it.

It bothers me as they are 10ft away from where we are sat, it's like they're in my lounge with me! If they were in the back it would be a lot further away due to the house configurations.

I need to say something I know 😬

Regardless of where they were Sat that would be bloody rude. I don't have any advice I'm afraid, we moved to get away from our noisy neighbour too

Classical music loud volume will see them retreat to back garden. They dont sound like classical music lovers... or opera.

Feel for you,our neighbour changed a window to a door that's in constant use,inches from our lounge window.we can hear everything,what they have for tea,what they talk about,music,sex,the lot from 0600hrs to night.
Speak to the neighbours ,tell them how it's impacting on your life.if they are unreasonable you could put a fence up that blocks the sun/get a new hose and accidentally soak them,😀 speak to your council for advice?
I hope the neighbours are receptive though and you have some peace.

I believe you need 5 neighbours to make a complaint to the environmental noise people to get anything done

I don’t really see how it will get better without saying anything? If you aren’t prepared to politely speak to them about it then you’ll just have to put up with it.

You could say it to them about being out there late at night but other than that, they are doing nothing wrong by using their front garden at all during the day time. Hearing other people is a hazard of living in close proximity, if you want silence you need to move more rural.

Install a few really bright flood lights that will light them up like New Years Eve. Maybe it will make them move to their garden. I'm being lighthearted here, but honestly, I would go mad.

If they were doing it in the back garden though wouldn't it disturb you when trying to sleep at night? If my bedroom was at the back I think I'd feel relieved!