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Cheeky tourist used my address for their takeaway!!

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WellLarDeDar · 04/04/2021 18:06

I live near a park, so we get a lot of tourists in the area.

Today, some girl visiting the park ordered herself an uber eats delivery to specifically my exact address so I had a driver knocking on my door. I thought he must be in the wrong place so asked to look at the address so I could direct him, as that sometimes happens, but it was my full address on there! It's quite an obscure address as well as it has a different postcode to the rest of the street and the house has a name instead of a number, which we don't display so you would need to look it up to get the whole thing. There was even a description in the delivery instructions.

She wasn't close by to receive the delivery either and the poor driver was really confused and awkward and was trying to call her and she didnt pick up her phone, and he was stuck waiting there for quite a while going are you sure it's not yours, you dont know anyone called name that could have sent it, it's been paid for so I have to deliver it, the person who ordered it needs to be at the address it's ordered to. I felt so bad for him.

AIBU to think that is blo*dy rude?! I might not have minded if she had asked first or had been around to receive it but to me I just think its really inconsiderate. When she finally turned up I asked her if she didnt think it was a bit inappropriate and rude and told her not to ever do it again and she just acted like I had been super offensive and sarcastically told me to have a nice day.

Some tourists can be so lovely and others are just so self absorbed.

OP posts:
PurpleCrocuses · 04/04/2021 21:40

I didn't mention able-bodied people.

If you want to dictate to disabled people that they "stop being offended" then maybe you should stop being ableist?

StanfordPines · 04/04/2021 21:41

Sometimes you want an M&S ladies Prosecco lunch, other times you just want a big warm takeaway. Dutifully carting hummus doesn’t make you morally superior

I’m not claiming to be morally superior.

saffire · 04/04/2021 21:41

If it had been paid for I would've taken it!

Ohnomoreno · 04/04/2021 21:42

I thought there was a what3words API to get stuff delivered to any part of parks now.

StanfordPines · 04/04/2021 21:42

@PurpleCrocuses

I didn't mention able-bodied people.

If you want to dictate to disabled people that they "stop being offended" then maybe you should stop being ableist?

The paragraph I quoted literally started ‘even if you are able bodied’.
GreyhoundG1rl · 04/04/2021 21:44

butwasittheirdriveway
You sound so desperate to be told it's ok to do this Confused. Why?
You pop up every six or so posts to say "Me! Me! I do this!". God almighty, what's wrong with you? 🤣
Are you desperate for attention, or what?

Butwasitherdriveway · 04/04/2021 21:45

@GreyhoundG1rl

butwasittheirdriveway You sound so desperate to be told it's ok to do this Confused. Why? You pop up every six or so posts to say "Me! Me! I do this!". God almighty, what's wrong with you? 🤣 Are you desperate for attention, or what?
Yeh!

It's lonely here, on this street, waiting for my takeaway 😭

PurpleCrocuses · 04/04/2021 21:47

So? It's true. And doesn't excuse the nasty abeism in the posts about how anyone who orders delivery is just lazy.

Dutifully making sandwiches at home doesn't make you morally superior to someone ordering food from a cafe or restaurant. You can order salads and green tea on Deliveroo, so why are the virtue signallers defaulting to "greasy pizza"? You can order food from a vegan healthfood cafe just as easily as you can a greasy pizza joint.

People clutching their pearls over the concept of delivery need to get a grip.

Kettledodger · 04/04/2021 21:48

@Butwasitherdriveway make sure you have your chalks, can never be lonely if you have chalks. Sorry couldn't help myself 🤣

Onjnmoeiejducwoapy · 04/04/2021 21:49

For the posters who are horrified at the idea of takeaway being delivered to near their house—genuinely curious, does the same apply for people getting an Uber? If so why/why not?

LabbyNoona · 04/04/2021 21:49

Agree with you @PurpleCrocuses . So much judgement. But that’s MN for you!

ClafoutisSurprise · 04/04/2021 21:53

Fair enough @Kettledodger. Doesn’t sound like it would be problematic where you are. I don’t think I’d get bothered about this happening outside a house screened by hedges either. Many properties aren’t like that, though. All the houses near the parks where I live are Victorian semis or terraces with little or no front garden, and standing around outside them would not go unnoticed if the inhabitants were at home.

From my own experience of having kids hanging about outside a similar house, I can say it’s not at all pleasant and for this reason I sympathise with what the op is describing.

StanfordPines · 04/04/2021 21:53

@PurpleCrocuses

So? It's true. And doesn't excuse the nasty abeism in the posts about how anyone who orders delivery is just lazy.

Dutifully making sandwiches at home doesn't make you morally superior to someone ordering food from a cafe or restaurant. You can order salads and green tea on Deliveroo, so why are the virtue signallers defaulting to "greasy pizza"? You can order food from a vegan healthfood cafe just as easily as you can a greasy pizza joint.

People clutching their pearls over the concept of delivery need to get a grip.

I don’t imagine that everyone who orders a takeaway to the park is disabled. Some are I’m sure, but far from all.

It would never occur to me to order a takeaway to the park. I don’t think I’m somehow better than people who do, I just wouldn’t want to and moreover it simply wouldn’t occur to me.

I think that people who are thinking that those of us who wouldn’t do it are projecting somewhat.

Cornishclio · 04/04/2021 22:01

That is incredibly entitled, rude and lazy of anyone to use someone else's address rather than organise themselves to get a takeaway delivered to their home rather than some random strangers or take a picnic. I would not have given it to someone who used my address to get it delivered. Just claimed ignorance and say I thought it was a gift as no one I know would have the audacity to get a takeaway delivered to a strangers house.

PurpleCrocuses · 04/04/2021 22:05

I don’t imagine that everyone who orders a takeaway to the park is disabled.

My comments weren't about the park specifically, but were in response to the posters who had derailed the thread with comments about how ALL delivery food service is a sign of laziness. Disabled people rely on food delivery far more than able-bodied people, and it's rude and ableist to post that anyone who gets their food delivered rather than collecting it is just being lazy. It's also ignorant and privilege-deaf because I bet anything the "getting your food delivered is lazy just go collect it ffs" posters have cars and drive to collect their food.

Personally I wouldn't have food delivered to a park unless I was working in the park and therefore would be there all day without any other means of getting food. But I don't judge anyone who fancies nice food with their park outing. The same as I don't judge anyone who orders a "greasy pizza" even though the food I had delivered was a green tea and a tofu bowl from a vegan restaurant.

Viviennemary · 04/04/2021 22:05

It is an absolute cheek and fraud to use your address. What if it's drug dealing next. I'd report it to the police.

Onjnmoeiejducwoapy · 04/04/2021 22:06

@Viviennemary

It is an absolute cheek and fraud to use your address. What if it's drug dealing next. I'd report it to the police.
This is brilliant satire (I hope...)
Devlesko · 04/04/2021 22:06

My dd and her friend did this, but in a residential area.
They did receive the takeaway and eat it though.
I told her how rude it was but nowhere was open, only deliveries and they were hungry.

LabbyNoona · 04/04/2021 22:16

@Viviennemary

It is an absolute cheek and fraud to use your address. What if it's drug dealing next. I'd report it to the police.
@Viviennemary I’m assuming/hoping that’s a joke?! Ah the slippery slope from ordering takeaways to ordering some nice drugs Grin
Viviennemary · 04/04/2021 22:17

No it wasn't a joke. I'd be furious if somebody fraudulently used my address.

LabbyNoona · 04/04/2021 22:18

I meant that the next step could be drug dealing!

Onjnmoeiejducwoapy · 04/04/2021 22:20

I hate when i order takeaway and then accidentally end up with a giant bag of coke

StanfordPines · 04/04/2021 22:31

My comments weren't about the park specifically, but were in response to the posters who had derailed the thread with comments about how ALL delivery food service is a sign of laziness.

Did they? I haven’t noticed those posts.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 04/04/2021 22:45

Can’t believe that people do this, or that some pp are saying that they do it/ think it’s ok. Of course you can’t use someone else’s address for a delivery / takeaway/ whatever. The homeowner/ tenant is very much within their rights to just keep it z

And for those saying “oh but I was hungry/ they were hungry” as though that makes it ok - the mind boggles!

Artesia · 04/04/2021 22:49

@GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing

Can’t believe that people do this, or that some pp are saying that they do it/ think it’s ok. Of course you can’t use someone else’s address for a delivery / takeaway/ whatever. The homeowner/ tenant is very much within their rights to just keep it z

And for those saying “oh but I was hungry/ they were hungry” as though that makes it ok - the mind boggles!

People keep saying this, but no one has explained why! If the person is there to collect it, and has paid for it, what harm has it done to the person who lives at the address??