AIBU to be uncomfortable about this kind of breastfeeding picture posted on social media?

[Swoonforpeterbishop]

I’m not going to post the actual picture as then I’d just be getting more people to look at it but a small time influencer has posted a picture of her and her baby breastfeeding, both very clearly naked, in order to advertise some breast milk jewellery.
You can barely see the jewellery but can clearly see mum and child are naked - very flattering shot of the mother and a lovely caption about how precious breastfeeding and how the jewellery is the perfect memento.

I am perfectly prepared to be told I am being completely unreasonable but I feel uncomfortable about the picture. The child has no say over this - anyone can now view this picture of them both naked. It’s going out to thousands of random followers.

I breastfed my child, am pro normalising breastfeeding but feel like I’m this context this picture isn’t about the breastfeeding at all despite the caption.

I also feel really uncomfortable about using a picture of the child in that state to advertise the jewellery?

Maybe I’m old and out of touch and I know, I know, I should mind my business but I don’t follow her it popped up as a sponsored post on my feed and it’s bothered me.

Also the kneeling in the hallway shot isn’t the one the OP is about anyway.

As a side note I don’t think it normalises or promotes breastfeeding at all, quite the opposite actually. Rather than making it look convenient and seamless, it makes it looks frankly inconvenient and quite uncomfortable, and like something only ‘crunchy’ mum types do. Some women aspire to that but a lot of women don’t and find it quite cringey. I think the whole ‘natural parent’ types claiming breastfeeding puts some women off as it just isn’t their sort of thing.

Naked baby breastfeeding is a invite to end up covered in wee.
It happened to me every time.
Post shower feed then stuck with an asleep naked baby and need another shower shortly after.

www.thecut.com/2013/08/naked-breast-feeding-yoga-mom-instagram-banned.html

How about that one? I came across it while trying to find the one under discussion and could hardly believe my eyes.

Some people are just exhibitionists.

I imagine the men who usually gawp at naked women love anything like that.

@jessstan2

www.thecut.com/2013/08/naked-breast-feeding-yoga-mom-instagram-banned.html

How about that one? I came across it while trying to find the one under discussion and could hardly believe my eyes.

Some people are just exhibitionists.

I imagine the men who usually gawp at naked women love anything like that.

😂😂 I like it, you can barely see anything! Doesn’t seem to me like the kind of image men would particularly ogle at. I was expecting legs akimbo or something

@Fembot123 it is that one, I missed that it had been posted!

@Nottoday1

That isn’t the picture. I’ve attached. I follow her and knew straight away which picture she meant. It’s a beautiful photo but I’m not sure I’d share it.

All that makes me think is no one wants to be cleaning surprise baby shit off the carpet in the hall, not breastfeeding is so glamorous I think I want jewellery made.. I mean there isn’t even a savage baby finger eye wateringly sudden nostril stabbing and no breastfeeding Olympic level contortions.

[quote Swoonforpeterbishop]@Fembot123 it is that one, I missed that it had been posted![/quote]
Sorry I’ve gotten confused 😂 I thought your one was the one someone covered up with daisies. I apologise.

No don’t worry @Fembot123 I should have just posted the photo to begin with then there wouldn’t have been any confusion

That second picture makes me wince for other reasons. The baby looks like they're about to slide backwards down her legs. Anyone who's BF knows how ouchy a suck-yanked nipple is (maybe some non BF'ers do too, what you and dh get up to in your bedroom is no business of mine )

@Zancah

@Zancah

That second picture makes me wince for other reasons. The baby looks like they're about to slide backwards down her legs. Anyone who's BF knows how ouchy a suck-yanked nipple is (maybe some non BF'ers do too, what you and dh get up to in your bedroom is no business of mine )

😂😂😂

Good job she wasn't full frontal in the Reclining Bound Ankle Pose
(Sanskrit: Baddha Konasana)

That child is old enough to be potty trained, hence she's able to feed naked in the hallway without any worries.

I think it's a pretty hideous photo to be honest. If both she and the child had knickers on it would be slightly better. But fundamentally it's wrong to use your child for self promotion in this way.

It’s a beautiful picture and let me tell you as someone who is still bf a 15 mo - we often still bf like that when it’s hot or DS needs comforting because skin to skin seems to regulate his temp and calm him. On my part I don’t wear underwear to bed and as it’s a lot easier just to take my pyjamas off - we do often fall asleep like that. Not sure what the problem is here.

@jessstan2

www.thecut.com/2013/08/naked-breast-feeding-yoga-mom-instagram-banned.html

How about that one? I came across it while trying to find the one under discussion and could hardly believe my eyes.

Some people are just exhibitionists.

I imagine the men who usually gawp at naked women love anything like that.

I stopped doing yoga because ds would pounce when I was doing downward dog or planks. That pic actually makes me want to restart

@GrumpyHoonMain

It’s a beautiful picture and let me tell you as someone who is still bf a 15 mo - we often still bf like that when it’s hot or DS needs comforting because skin to skin seems to regulate his temp and calm him. On my part I don’t wear underwear to bed and as it’s a lot easier just to take my pyjamas off - we do often fall asleep like that. Not sure what the problem is here.

There is nothing wrong in doing that but why post pictures of yourself doing it?

‘It’s a beautiful picture and let me tell you as someone who is still bf a 15 mo - we often still bf like that when it’s hot or DS needs comforting because skin to skin seems to regulate his temp and calm him. On my part I don’t wear underwear to bed and as it’s a lot easier just to take my pyjamas off - we do often fall asleep like that. Not sure what the problem is here.’

Do you have a photographer and a photoshop editor license to hand?

The problem is posting it on Insta, not the photo itself. Though it is odd.

@GrumpyHoonMain nothing wrong at all but tell me, when you do this do you whip out a camera to take a picture of the moment and post it on a public forum for 20k+ followers and how many other randoms to see? That’s the bit I have a problem with

@MinnieMous3

As a side note I don’t think it normalises or promotes breastfeeding at all, quite the opposite actually. Rather than making it look convenient and seamless, it makes it looks frankly inconvenient and quite uncomfortable, and like something only ‘crunchy’ mum types do. Some women aspire to that but a lot of women don’t and find it quite cringey. I think the whole ‘natural parent’ types claiming breastfeeding puts some women off as it just isn’t their sort of thing.

You're right. I'm pregnant again and I'm not sure if I'll even mix feed this time because the thoughts of being involved in and having to listen to all that twattery is not appealing.

@GrumpyHoonMain do you mean the first picture? Surely not the black and white one? On your knees in the hall, that’s it’s hurting my knees looking at it
Her baby, her choice someone said. True, however that child doesn’t get a say in it and it can never be removed once it’s out there. I wouldn’t want a pic of me as a toddler breastfeeding on the net and I don’t have an issue with breastfeeding at all.

If I'd known my third child would still want to BF like a 6 month old at 3.5 years I may have attempted to introduce a bottle long ago 😂

[quote SoMuchBadInfo]@MNWorldisCrazy

"Stop trying to twist her words to fit your own narrative"

Like everyone here is making the woman in the post into a dirty porn star? 😅
For being naked?

No wonder so many of you have shit husbands and get scared when a dog wees on your fence.

Got forbid a woman delivers your post and smiles at your husbands![/quote]
I'm not married! Don't class me like everyone else!

@GrumpyHoonMain

It’s a beautiful picture and let me tell you as someone who is still bf a 15 mo - we often still bf like that when it’s hot or DS needs comforting because skin to skin seems to regulate his temp and calm him. On my part I don’t wear underwear to bed and as it’s a lot easier just to take my pyjamas off - we do often fall asleep like that. Not sure what the problem is here.

good for you?

We are discussing it being photographed and put on social media for the world to see, so unless you do that as well, what you wrote was pretty irrelevant really.