AIBU to be uncomfortable about this kind of breastfeeding picture posted on social media?

[Swoonforpeterbishop]

I’m not going to post the actual picture as then I’d just be getting more people to look at it but a small time influencer has posted a picture of her and her baby breastfeeding, both very clearly naked, in order to advertise some breast milk jewellery.
You can barely see the jewellery but can clearly see mum and child are naked - very flattering shot of the mother and a lovely caption about how precious breastfeeding and how the jewellery is the perfect memento.

I am perfectly prepared to be told I am being completely unreasonable but I feel uncomfortable about the picture. The child has no say over this - anyone can now view this picture of them both naked. It’s going out to thousands of random followers.

I breastfed my child, am pro normalising breastfeeding but feel like I’m this context this picture isn’t about the breastfeeding at all despite the caption.

I also feel really uncomfortable about using a picture of the child in that state to advertise the jewellery?

Maybe I’m old and out of touch and I know, I know, I should mind my business but I don’t follow her it popped up as a sponsored post on my feed and it’s bothered me.

It's certainly not actually about the jewellery is it.

Who sits stark naked on their hall floor taking photos at the best of times???

Welcome to the Internet 😂

Fembot - you can't show nipples, vagina or penis out in public either (well I man's nipples is allowed) but it still wouldn't prompt anyone of sound mind to sit in the nude in a public place with the aforementioned bits modestly covered, whether that's with a baby or lettuce leaves or fruit baskets or whatever.

Posing nude for IG still makes no logical sense to me.

Anyone seeing this as sexual, on a site dominated by women is quite gross, really.

I don’t think anyone here is seeing it as sexual. Just a bit OTT.

@TheresAnEyeInMeSoup

Fembot - you can't show nipples, vagina or penis out in public either (well I man's nipples is allowed) but it still wouldn't prompt anyone of sound mind to sit in the nude in a public place with the aforementioned bits modestly covered, whether that's with a baby or lettuce leaves or fruit baskets or whatever.

Posing nude for IG still makes no logical sense to me.

I’d sit nude anywhere if it wasn’t illegal 😁

@justwaydamin

It's certainly not actually about the jewellery is it.

Or even about breastfeeding. Lol

@Fembot123 it must be the long weekend, it’s put everyone in a good mood

This is so going to end up in the daily Mail.

I’d sit nude anywhere if it wasn’t illegal 😁

Ah, fair enough , I would die of shame if anyone caught me in the nude. Plus I wouldn't be able to afford the therapy they would need afterwards 😂

I’d love to see copycat photos of people posing kneeling on the floor doing random things whilst holding a phone.

I literally cannot think of any situation which would require me to be fully naked, kneeling in my hallway holding a phone other than if I’d set up an Only Fans page.

@TheresAnEyeInMeSoup

I’d sit nude anywhere if it wasn’t illegal 😁

Ah, fair enough , I would die of shame if anyone caught me in the nude. Plus I wouldn't be able to afford the therapy they would need afterwards 😂

😂😄

God that second image is awful. I imagine that kid will be very embarrassed when they’re older

@ShirleyPhallus

God that second image is awful. I imagine that kid will be very embarrassed when they’re older

It is, also the dc looks huge not that I'm against extended feeding of course but the whole thing with both of them naked just looks attention seeking and so unnatural. Who tf breastfeeds kneeling down naked .

@UnlikelybutTrue hope not!

Was the picture deleted or did I miss it?

Swoon. It has everything the Mail feeds off (pardon the pun): IG culture, breastfeeding, MN being full of women daring to have opinions and the perils of social media 🙈.

She's not 'promoting breastfeeding'. That's a red herring. She's promoting herself and breastfeeding is the means to an end. If anyone thinks that influencer has posted a photo of herself naked to encourage others to breastfeed their child, they're sadly mistaken. If she didn't have a baby, she'd have found some other bandwagon to jump on.

I've absolutely nothing against breastfeeding, talking about breastfeeding on SM or even showing a photo of yourself breastfeeding a covered up child on your feed. What I do have something against is using your children as a means to get Insta or YouTube famous. If the photo being discussed is the one of her naked in the hall (I mean, really?!) feeding her also naked child, then it's a beautiful shot, but one that should have been kept as a private moment for her to look back on. It's exploitation to plaster it all on SM, especially when the child can't consent. When people talk about seeing naked babies in media ads, there are strict rules around what can and cannot be done, including where and who the money paid goes to. None of that exists for kids on IG or YouTube. It's not the same.

It really is a beautiful shot isn’t it.

Each to there own, Fembot! Looks bloody uncomfortable to me; not just the knees but also the position of the baby. Who does that when the baby wants a feed? Thinks, “I know, I’ll just strip off all my clothes, better strip of his clothes as well, and what better place place to feed but kneeling on the hall floor outside the downstairs loo door!”

'It really is a beautiful shot isn’t it.'

Oh yes so very beautiful if a bit awkward looking tbh. One for the parents to cherish, not the whole world. Which is kind of the point of the thread. Maybe they could frame it, I bet their house has similarly tasteful prints.

@CecilyP

Each to there own, Fembot! Looks bloody uncomfortable to me; not just the knees but also the position of the baby. Who does that when the baby wants a feed? Thinks, “I know, I’ll just strip off all my clothes, better strip of his clothes as well, and what better place place to feed but kneeling on the hall floor outside the downstairs loo door!”

I agree that it’s definitely posed and non spontaneous 😁

YANBU. Breastfeeding jewellery 🙄 and how will the baby feel as a grown man/woman with a photo of them naked and breastfeeding as a baby all over the internet? It’s so intrusive yet painted as some kind of amazing Earth mother thing.

@SoMuchBadInfo

Yes yabvu.

Why do you care what another woman does with her child, her own breasts?? Are you jealous that yours don't look as good?

Get over it and stop bringing women down fgs.

You have no right to call yourself "breastfed friendly" or whatever other silly term you used in your OP when your obviously not.

Women have fought for hundreds of years to have their bodily autonomy and you don't get to decide that yours is okay but hers isn't.

Well her child doesn’t have bodily autonomy with his photo being splashed all over the internet does he? It’s a really embarrassing photo and vulnerable to people using it for nefarious reasons.

I knew exactly the picture you were describing. It's a beautiful shot and I can see all sides of the arguments for and against. At the end of the day she has chosen to share the picture. Would I?Probably not, but it's her child, her body, her choice. As the child gets older she may choose to remove it. Who knows, but in the meantime it's a precious, albeit posed, moment. I've followed her for a long time now and she very much normalises breastfeeding with the daughter pulling her top down constantly on her stories etc too so I can't say that I think it is particularly abnormal given her social media presence.

I agree. I feel deeply uncomfortable with making pregnancy, bf etc into yet another arena where women have to look glamorous. An American model recently had a baby and her 'pregnancy shoot' was frankly creepy. If I'm old and out of touch on this then fine, I'm happy being old and out of touch.