to roll my eyes at those who are living in sin?

[sceptic]

I have five children, all by the same father, all in wedlock. And no, we are not on benefits, not even tax rebates.

Why do so many mumsnetter thinks this is totally uncool, and then whinge about their broken relationships?

i read marital arse banditry as martial arse banditry

i was trying to figure out how that worked

I have hundreds of children all by the same father, although he questions this as none of them look like him .

Being married means jack sh*t.

Having kids is the commitment not a piece of paper.

you mean this thread was started by a troll?

there was i finally thinking i was cool after years of feeling like the scurge of society

i disagree about having kids being the commitment.just because somebody knocks you up doesnt mean you are commited to them.or even that you ever have to see them again....

i dont see marriage as a piece of paper,it is a legal document stating that two people are husband and wife,and have have made legally binding vows in front of witnesses.

and it only costs £100

i did laugh though when i had to re-register my youngest 2 following marriage in order to 'legitimise' them

Since when was getting tax rebates a sin? Or benefits? What church do you go to?

dont quite understand the point to the thread, if indeed, there is one
i have 2 kids (same father), both out of wedlock and its likely to remain that way for any future lo's.
and?
'jog on' ...... i really am cool, my 13 yr old says that

Well bully for you. I don't see my married status as being something to crow about. It was my personal choice, others make different choices. And the great thing about mumsnet is that it is a safe place to "whinge" about broken relationships - it's so that we get support, not so that we feel "cool". Whether or not you are married has very little to do with the chances of your relationship breaking down IMO.

DBSS, obviously your experiences would show the opposite to be true of my experience!!
I think if men are going to bugger off being married makes it a little harder to do, that's all.
If a chap's decent then his commitment will be to his children married or not. If he's an arse being married isn't going to make any difference iyswim.

In an ideal world everyone would meet and marry their true love have children, enough money, be healthy and happy, there would be no divorce, no wife/husband beaters no affairs no hurt no addicts no problems in a marriage at all, no child abuse, no scared hungry children, but alas we live in the real world where things don't always turn out as we would like them to.

I believe in marriage, but even I know things don't always work out how they should, as much as I wish they would.

oh by the way, my mum and dad were not married, Where do I fit in with cool???

roll your eyes this way and I'll catch them and roll them back

Maybe I could roll back a couple of quail eggs instead?

kimi, your PARENTS were unmarried?? What were they HIPPIES?? OMG - you are beyond cool. LEM is awed by kimi's coolness

I am still laughing at living 'betwixt the pages of a catherine cookson novel' 2 pages later

MrsSlocomb, why do people always assume its the MAN who runs off or mucks up??
i know 2 families where the woman upped and left, and i am also totally responsible for the breakdown of my marriage, not my ex dh.

No guilty men here.

Do you have any friends? With your judgemental attitude, I certainly wouldn't be interested in befriending you.

allgonebellyup yes that can happen, of course! I adn't considered that when I wrote. I suppose it is that in the majority of cases it is the woman who remains with the children.

mrsS-in my case i remained with the children but the men in question didnt bugger off-they were told to feck off or be forcably removed.

i was married to one,we had a child in wedlock,and now its a total PITA as i now need the psychopath's 'permission' for my son to be adopted by his stepfather.

you know,i know a fair few people who are on benefits,unmarried,different children by different men etc,who moan about 'middle class southern snobs' who easily get cushy high-paid jobs and live in big houses,so threads like this make me laugh every time.

i think everyone should stop judging each other and turn on the government,who are the real baddies in all of this

did the uncool half wit ever come back?