AIBU knowingly not refunding all the money

[Jipterjames]

I had a nightmare lodger who I kicked out. Basically she was worried about her family members catching covid and started to be intrusive about my personal life. Cat vomited on the sofa (not the first vomit) and she decided to berate me about not taking pics/telling her. Final straw came when my bubble weren’t allowed in my back garden for birthday cake - yet she broke the lockdown laws by seeing her boyfriend all the time, and he would stay every other weekend.

Anyways, she wanted her deposit/rent back - which she asked for via email stating “I deem 7 days to be enough time and forward me receipts for any deposit money taken” told her to read the agreement (that she wanted) which meant I would send via cheque within 3 weeks.

The money went out of my account, however the amount is £100 lower than what I owe her. I didn’t take a pic of the filled in cheque and she’s not contact me.

I’m sure the banks didn’t make an error and she’s the type to follow up the money.
AUBU by just ignoring the short money?

16 years working for a financial institution they do 100% make mistakes. The actual cheque crediting and debiting process is separate so it is entirely possible that she has received the full amount of money and you have been debited the wrong amount.

You can ask your bank for a copy of the cheque.

Cheques are a valid way to pay people, why shouldn't she write a cheque as specified in the lease agreement

Because she did it to be a bitch and it take longer for her former lodger to receive the deposit back. Nasty.

@Chloemol

Just ask the bank for a copy of your cheque. If it’s been incorrectly debited they will sort it out

You don't even need to contact the bank. Just check your account and see how much came out.

@HundredMilesAnHour “bitch”? Lol thing is, you aren’t involved in the relationship so why start name calling ?

@activitythree it’s come from my account and it’s les than I remember writing the cheque for.

Surely if she cashed the cheque then she would have noticed if the cheque you gave her was wrong. Chances are she will call her bank to find out what went wrong if she notices.

I'd keep quiete unless she contacts you.

I think it's plausible that she is just used to landlords docking deposit for spurious reasons, and assumed you have done the same.

Ideally I do think you should contact her, otherwise you might as well be one of those landlords. But I bet most people wouldn't.

@roses2 yes exactly. You make a valid point, could be the bank has messed up - after all I thought I wrote it for the right amount, she perhaps would have queried the incorrect amount?

@NeedaLittleNap

I think it's plausible that she is just used to landlords docking deposit for spurious reasons, and assumed you have done the same.

Ideally I do think you should contact her, otherwise you might as well be one of those landlords. But I bet most people wouldn't.

This.

You are really not coming across well here. By the way you aren’t entitled to have a bubble unless you live alone.

@NeedaLittleNap nah, she’s been explicit in stating she wants receipts and was really demanding about how much she wanted back and when.... so I don’t think she would let the full deposit being withhold.

@RosieGuacamosie childcare bubble, for my single parent sister, who works in the hospital down the road, who was dropping of her kids, whilst she went to work, and she was dropping of my cake as well.

So yes, childcare bubble.

@RosieGuacamosie who cares if I come of well or not? You aren’t living my life, having my experience or in my shoes. I can judge your decisions as “not coming of well” but really who the f cares. You live your best life.

@ HundredMilesAnHour why are you being so nasty?

@HundredMilesAnHour no I didn’t do it to “be a bitch”. I was having terms out upon me by the other side that were against the agreement. I then realised we had agreed to refund via cheque so I stuck to the agreement.

@drpet49 why are you being so nasty?

@WitchesBritchesPumpkinPants

I wouldn't do anything unless she contacted me.

Nor would I.

If she contacts you, deal with it then.

[quote Jipterjames]@RosieGuacamosie childcare bubble, for my single parent sister, who works in the hospital down the road, who was dropping of her kids, whilst she went to work, and she was dropping of my cake as well.

So yes, childcare bubble.[/quote]
A childcare bubble is for providing childcare not attending birthday teas HTH

@RosieGuacamosie childcare bubble can spend as much time with each other as is required.

But who cares? She had her boyfriend at the house when he has a four bedroom house. She moved into two households during a pandemic. She would volunteer. She works in schools. We all take the level of risk we want.

@SchadenfreudePersonified thank you:

Bank said they can’t request a photo of the cheque

RosieGuacamosie childcare bubble can spend as much time with each other as is required.

Erm no....read the government advice

You take the level of risk you want but don’t pull the “they were in my bubble” card for sympathy when you’re not sticking to the rules either.

hurray, more offence being taken by some posters for 'name calling' back to the playground !

@rattlemehearties

Additional thought. Have you considered that Mumsnet isn't the best place to use sexist misogynistic language like bint and cow?

Or rip off your tenants.

[quote Jipterjames]@drpet49 why are you being so nasty?[/quote]
Someone stands up for you and you call them nasty? You seem lovely yourself...

YABU. Check with the bank. I can't imagine effectively stealing £100 just because I didn't like someone.

@HundredMilesAnHour

Cheques are a valid way to pay people, why shouldn't she write a cheque as specified in the lease agreement

Because she did it to be a bitch and it take longer for her former lodger to receive the deposit back. Nasty.

Are you the poster who objected to misogynistic terms?

Leave it, OP, she’ll soon contact you if she’s been underpaid.