Not a stealth brag... Tips on raising an exceptionally beautiful child.

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I know. I'm cringing at the thread title too.

I'm absolutely average, so is her dad. She happens to have an aunt who is an outlier in their family that looks like Claudia schiffer, and seems to have inherited all of her looks from her.

She's all rosy cheeks enormous green eyes and a mass of curly blond hair that never seems disheveled. She chooses her own clothes, keeps them nicely and puts them together so she looks fabulous every time. She is that child and this is through no effort of my own - I was more of an awkward indie kid through my tweens and teens. I can see other girls want to be her friend cause she's fun and kind but then look decidedly jeolous and irritated at dds clothes, hair, general oh wow look I'm so perfect and yet so pretty unspoken general vibe.
She's 12 and we've noticed teachers, club leaders, family members do seem to give her some kind of preferential treatment and I think it's becuase she is very compliant to adults and also very pretty she is.she is also genuinely good hearted and we've never had any reason to think she is unkind to others.
I want to guide her as best I can, as having an opposite experience of my looks growing up and generally being fairly invisible, I don't really know what you to help someone not place too much worth in their looks while acknowledging it's a lovely thing to be beautiful. Any advice on how to raise a particularly good looking child??

Well I think Sam B did it as a clickbait article to make some money. But was a great example of outing yourself or your kid as being exceptional but its totally subjective

As i say I have never met anyone who is exceptionally beautiful. So what do I know?

@imnotateacherbut

I was that beautiful child. Not bragging, it's just a fact.

People would stop my parents and I on the street to comment on my looks, the number of grown men who approached me as a child was ridiculous, and I definitely got things in school etc because of how I looked (not only that but def a factor).

The number of people on here telling the OP to not talk about her daughter's appearance worries me. My parents did that (or my mum really). She would say how wonderful my sister looked after a haircut or a new outfit, and for me all I got was you look nice. I could always tell the difference in how I was treated regarding my looks compared to my sister. It almost made me feel shame to look the way I did, or if I got attention it was my own fault. I never went to my parents when I got unwanted attention from men as I thought I would get in trouble. And this led to me not telling anyone about my sexual assault by a grown man when I was a child. There are consequences to not acknowledging something that everyone else goes out of their way to comment on. And that was incredibly confusing for me.

If your child was super smart you would praise them, acknowledge it etc...why not looks? Don't make a huge deal but also please do not ignore either.

I am only getting to grips with how I look now in my 30's, I never really understood when I was younger...I wish it could have been something I could have talked to my mum about honestly, rather than feeling it was something I had to play down so as not to upset my sister or because if my parents acknowledged it I might become arrogant?

And let's be honest...big brains can get you far in life, but so can looks..why jot prepare her for that an focus on her being well rounded..

lovely post thank you x

DD and I follow a young woman called Grackle on You Tube, mainly because she is fun and has good baking tips. She was a young relatively successful model for a short time, because she is naturally very slim and quite tall. No way would she or most other people describe her a 'exceptionally beautiful'. Quirkily attractive, yes. No doubt she would have been scouted because of her body type. So being scouted by modelling agencies does not necessarily make you 'exceptionally beautiful'.

Treat her normally. Beautiful people who are normal and not arrogant arseholes are the best. I think it's a bit weird to see a child as exceptionally beautiful tbh.

One of the most gorgeous girls I worked with when modelling would never get approached by men when we were out, I think she was way too imitating. She had to date other models as they have the ego for it!😆

@bbbbbbbbbccccc I agree as I used to model & whilst i'm attractive I look much better in photos.

I was constantly nagged to lose weight though despite being skinny but alas it was the 90s.

Ironically, the many many negative posts on this thread, indicate precisely how difficult it is to be beautiful. Not only do you get far more harassment from men, but also many many women can't handle it either.

I'd be talking to her about GCSEs and A levels and what she wants to do in life. And what she wants from school including academic, sports, music or art. And have a frank conversation about relationships with her peers and adults and social media.
Much the same as for any child.
My first red flag is that you seem to suggest she's biddable either because she's naturally that way or because beauty does give people leeway male or female and - as long as it lasts - she's getting a free pass. That's not a great way to fight your way through life.
My second red flag is this is such a concern for you.

My children are both stunning!! Georgous.

So are everyone’s.

Some of the most beautiful children turn out to be ugly adults and vice versa

Ironically, the many many negative posts on this thread, indicate precisely how difficult it is to be beautiful. Not only do you get far more harassment from men, but also many many women can't handle it either.

😂 I could believe that, if we had seen a picture of a knockout beauty. As it is, we haven’t, we just have to take the OP’s word for it that she-
A) has a daughter
B) has an exceptionally beautiful daughter

As there is no way of proving this, I for one am basing it on the wording. “Exceptionally” is over egging the pudding imho 🤷🏼‍♀️

True - some child actors who have been cute as buttons grow up to be ... normal looking. It must be a bit of a blow to have been constantly told that you are beautiful, the next Marilyn Monroe, etc and just not ‘growing into your face’.

Photos of mum as a small child - she looks like a little boy. However she did grow up to be absolutely lovely (modelled a bit too). Sadly I look like dad (down for a man...).

One of my daughters friends was really quite strange looking when they were at infant school. She won't mind me saying this as she always jokes about being an 'ugly' child. She's now in her 20s and is absolutely stunning and beautiful

I think it’s because dainty little features suit a child’s face, whereas adult faces suit stronger features. Both look odd on the other.

@ArseInTheCoOpWindow

My children are both stunning!! Georgous.

So are everyone’s.

Comments like this, showing absolutely zero empathy. The op is not talking about normal looking children, who are indeed beautiful to their parents and grandparents and friends amd neighbours, she's trying to discuss the problems extraordinarily beautiful children face. The ones who cannot walk down a street at 12 without men gawping at them, who in year 7 get catcalled words they've never heard of from the year 10s, who have to fend off males at far younger an age than the children who are beautiful to their parents. They can't be treated like other children, because I don't need to particularly (thankfully) tell my 12yr old dd how to respond to 'I want to fuck you' because she doesn't hear that yet. Get some empathy people.

Well I guess beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
Currently accepted standards of beauty are westernised, European but the most

Hmmmm

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The most beautiful girl/woman I have seen was very dark African I think East African with huge eyes, legs that went in forever and thick hair... I think she told me she had a hard time generally.

You know it when you see it. Some people are ridiculously gorgeous. I remember going to see some clients, both perfectly nice average looking people and their teenage daughter wandered in who was a Greek goddess. Friends older son is the same he is beautiful. So is DD2. I know we all think our DC are gorgeous but a rare few actually subjectively are!

Dd2 is 12 and came home baffled the other day that her primary school friends who are boys who she knocked about with when younger now when they see her go bright red and cross the road !

Wait? What? Beautiful children need to be raised differently? Wow. I’d have thought teaching children that looks aren’t in the least bit important was pretty universal. Seems that message would be important for some adults to remember too.

The ones who cannot walk down a street at 12 without men gawping at them, who in year 7 get catcalled words they've never heard of from the year 10s, who have to fend off males at far younger an age than the children who are beautiful to their parents.

Yeah because sexual harassment only happens to those “exceptionally beautiful” children 🙄

The ones who cannot walk down a street at 12 without men gawping at them, who in year 7 get catcalled words they've never heard of from the year 10s, who have to fend off males at far younger an age than the children who are beautiful to their parents. They can't be treated like other children, because I don't need to particularly (thankfully) tell my 12yr old dd how to respond to 'I want to fuck you' because she doesn't hear that yet. Get some empathy people.

This is just a fundamental misunderstanding of why men harass women and girls. It’s not about attraction. I very much hope your 12 year old never has that shouted at her in the street, but if she does it will be nothing to do with how objectively attractive she is at any given time.

Ahhhhh! Bangs head against wall. Of course it doesn't happen only to beautiful children. But it sure as shit happens far more, and from far younger an age.