To ask what your biggest regret in life is?

[SylviaPlath1984]

Or even what you feel you might regret in the future if you don't do it soon?

I regret not taking school more seriously or trying harder, not making more of myself.

What about you?

Not sleeping with enough men!

I wish I'd known that I could have gone to drama school and that acting and singing was what I really wanted to do. Moved to another area in my late 40s and heard about a local amateur dramatic group. With no confidence at all, I asked if they needed someone to stack chairs. They pulled me in and over the years I played Julie Jordan in Carousel, Anna in The King and I etc. Then I joined a different group and loved playing comic roles. With proper training I might have been half way decent...

Feel sad for you all and your regrets. Depressing reading

Suggesting to someone that they should get a penis reduction, it turns out that it wasn't as big as it appeared. Clearly the camera DOES lie...

Not having a holiday without in laws who needed a lot of care for the last 15 years.

@viccytwiffy

what is an emetophobe?

someone who is scared of vomit (I think)

@notanothertakeaway

I knew what I wanted to do for a career, but was persuaded to go into something else instead

This 100%

I wish I had done a different GCSE subject.

And I wish I had chosen a different career as I've not been that successful at it, although I've managed to earn enough to be comfortably off so if it went pear-shaped tomorrow and I never worked again I could probably live off savings and then pension.

And maybe I should have stayed in Germany and married a German so any kids would have remained EU citizens after Brexit - didn't see that coming back n 1996.

But as someone said on the very first page, something changed might have changed your life very significantly. That might be a good thing like not marrying an abusive partner, but it might also mean you never met the partner you like!

It may well have already been mentioned but "The Midnight Library" is a great read or audio book for anyone thinking about life regrets.

And needing IVF is not karma for an abortion. Never.

I should add I definitely regret my marriage.

if it went pear-shaped tomorrow and I never worked again I could probably live off savings and then pension

that is live very frugally

I used to tell my Dad I love them everyday and then for some reason on the day he died I didn't say those words now I know he knew but it still comes back to me. Also so maybe a smaller one but there is a day they were filming a big big movie only two or three hours from us and I sent my kids into school instead of just calling road trip! Now with covid it seems like one day off school wouldn't have killed us and I would have given them a fantastic memory for life!!!

Marrying my first husband at 18. He was 12 years older and I suffered 5 years of DV, culminating in him throwing me over bannisters at the top of a flight of stairs. This was the late 70's and I was pregnant. Even then being a single mother was frowned upon. Although my parent really didn't want me to marry him, I thought it was fir the best. Soon found out it wasn't.

I wish I'd had the confidence to travel alone, before I went to university or just after. I got straight on the property ladder, which is paying dividends now but I feel I missed a big chunk of opportunity when I had no responsibilities. But the reality is I was too shy and insecure to travel independently at that age.

Many.
My biggest is getting married so young. I wish I’d had more fun before I took the plunge.

I'm not sure.... I've lost friendships for petty reasons, wish I had been more patient with some people. Wish I had started paying small amounts in to a private pension when I started working.

Overall I'm happy with my life choices even though they weren't always the best ones. It took me a long time to figure out what I wanted in life.....failed my first uni course and ended up working minimum wage in a supermarket for years before finally retraining in my late 20's. I'm at a really happy place now so I don't care what messy route I took to get here.

Not having many videos of DH - I don't think I have any where he is speaking and I'm starting to forget the sound of his voice he was always behind the camera.

Not following my heart. On my ucas form 5 of the 6 choices were for the one career degree that I really always wanted. My parents didn't support this and basically I was stuck going to a university I didn't want to doing my 6th choice on the form because that was what my parents had decided was a good career path for me. I absolutely hated it. I somehow passed my first year exams even though I used to cry every night because I was so unhappy. Second year was worse and I eventually decided to take a year out and got my parents to agree. Although the feeling of relief I felt as I left university, I knew I would never go back. I didnt and I am now too old to retrain for the career I really wanted so I have been stuck. My biggest regret is not doing the course I wanted and having the career I wanted.

Going on an all expenses paid holiday with an ex we were on good terms and he'd won the holiday through work. I turned him down as I had a newish boyfriend and it wasn't right. Turns out that newish boyfriend wasn't right, he'd been cheating on me all through and we broke up the day I would have been flying if I had agreed!
I know it sounds shallow but truly my only regret!

I wish I’d had more sex! I’m a widow now and I wish I’d had sex with my husband every chance I got, I miss him and that intimacy and closeness. All that wasted time and those wasted opportunities!

Being generous with money to waster of men leaving myself in debt years and years after the relationships had ended. Also not paying attention to red flags and ending up in an abusive relationship leaving me a single mother and stuck with a nasty man for the rest of his life.

"Dont regret what you did but just do everything you want to and start planning for it now. Take a few risks.
Ive just read some of these & some are quite sad, like people have written their lives off. I'm 59 & living the best years of my life right now. Not much money but living every moment as best as I can. My kids have grown up, most have left (1 24 yr old son remaining!) I did loads of unskilled jobs in the past - carer, office worker etc..an art degree at 45 (didnt need it but enjoyed most of it) now paint & teach for a living (before covid) learning art restoration now as a new income stream. I think I look my best ever now after 4 kids, not bad going! It could all go t*ts up tomorrow but doing my best. Basically Im saying never give up ladies & only ever "look forward"

WhenPushComesToShove
Hoping it all came good for you? How are you? Hope you're okay

Try not to regret anything and generally don't.

The only thing I can think of is that I spent 5 years teaching in different countries in my 20s - which was amazing and I still teach the same thing now - but I was never paid well.

Long story short I was only able to buy a place at the grand age of 45 and will be paying a mortgage til 67.