Last night dp and I were watching a lecture on the science of attraction. The lecturer showed a slide of a questionnaire used in a study. There are five categories: legs, arms, eyes, face and body size. In the study they asked people to rate their partner out of 5 for those categories. The lecturer says that we can try it at home. Dp writes ‘5, 3, 4, 5, 5’ in his notes. The slide changes and I can’t remember the order of the questions so I can’t work out what part of me is a 3. Dp refuses to tell me. We joke about it but he still won’t tell me. I ask him again today, making clear that I know it’s not a big deal but that not knowing is bugging me. Dp still won’t tell me and says it doesn’t mean anything. I’m not going to bring it up with him again as it will end in a fight but I’m feeling a bit sad and can’t let it go in my head.
I’m not sure if it’s relevant but I drew a big 5 in my notes.
So help me reach some resolution:
YABU I’m being neurotic and need to get a grip.
YANBU If you’re going to rate someone’s body parts in front of them, knowing full well they’re watching be prepared to have a two minute discussion about it especially if you rate some part 40% less than other parts.