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Original poster

If you're still sticking to ALL the rules/guidance - why?

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RaspberryCoulis · 27/03/2021 10:50

Will start by saying I am not sticking to the covid rules any more. Obviously I can't go places which aren't open. But we have had people in the house, kids are going out with friends probably in larger numbers than are permitted, we're crossing local authority boundaries which is supposedly illegal in Scotland. Why? Because we've been in lockdown for a year, cases here are very low, and some things are more important than Covid.

But on every thread there are people claiming that they are sticking rigidly to every single rule and guideline, never breaking ANY rule. They would probably say I was a selfish covid-denier who was hellbent on murdering their granny.

So if you're sticking to all the guidelines and rules, without fail - why? People who are clinically extremely vulnerable (officially) I can understand in part if they're not vaccinated. But the rest of you? Is it because you're scared of Covid, or scared of your neighbours, or scared of breaking the law by mistake?

OP posts:
dontsaveusername · 27/03/2021 12:02

Because everywhere is shut. My family live miles away (3-4 hour drive), I'm not able to do my hobbies, where i meet friends as they are shut too, working from home, kids go to school, quick chat to other mums and thats it.

I have my family and one sister locally in my bubble, with their children. thats it. Basically no opportunity to be naughty.

Chunkymenrock · 27/03/2021 12:02

Oh for God's sake. Why on earth would you ask this? Obviously it's because I'm not a totally selfish twat, I don't want to catch it or spread it. How thick must you have to be to ask this?

OneTC · 27/03/2021 12:02

and we don't get to choose the laws that we obey.

Of course we do

Okbussitout · 27/03/2021 12:03

@SoddingWeddings

Because I'm not an arsehole.

It's the right thing to do. It's not hard.

It's not hard.

I think millions of people would disagree with you hun.

JinglingHellsBells · 27/03/2021 12:03

You've not been locked down for a year anyway @RaspberryCoulis
Last summer, it was possible to travel and see people outside.

All the people I know are following the rules AND MORE in fact.
Many friends of ours went beyond the actual rules, playing safe.

Not sure why you want to 'boast' about your non-compliance, unless it's to seek approval or encourage other people to follow your behaviour?

user1471539324 · 27/03/2021 12:03

[quote SpringTimeDream]@SurferRona

It isn't 5 in 10K though as you say - it is 5 in 100,000 in my area - yep 5 in ONE HUNDRED THOUSAND PEOPLE...... think on that for a bit

That's despite many people mixing households now! Time for people to act normal again[/quote]
These numbers are BECAUSE we’ve been in lockdown for three months. If we ease restrictions too early and too far ahead of herd immunity, we will end up in a similar situation with exponential growth of the virus. Please listen to experts and not your own flawed logic.

Movinghouseatlast · 27/03/2021 12:04

Because we are trying to get out of this mess by slowing the virus down.

If someone passes the virus on to you, then you could go shopping and pass it on to a stranger in Tesco and they could go home and pass it on to their clinically vulnerable husband who could die in agony in ICU.

But it seems to me that half the world is made up of selfish thick cunts who don't understand this because they are so fucking self centred and stupid that they have failed to grasp the basic facts of how viruses are spread.

JinglingHellsBells · 27/03/2021 12:05

Children are meeting up outside - does it really matter if there are 5 or 6 13 year olds rather than 4?

Yes. Read the science.

Jocasta2018 · 27/03/2021 12:05

I'm not breaking rules even though I live alone & it's been f-ing tough at times.

Other than lockdowns I have been able to visit my Mum in her care home & we've gone for walks in the home's garden, me socially distanced in a mask & a masked carer pushing Mum's wheelchair.

I want to get to the stage that Mum & I can wander around the grounds together, no carer hovering around, no masks, me pushing her wheelchair.

Rarotonga2 · 27/03/2021 12:05

I work with clinically vulnerable children and I am unwilling to put them, their families and my colleagues at risk by breaking the rules. I am doing all I can to keep my family safe, some of whom are clinically vulnerable. I am fed up of the restrictions but feel I have responsibilities and I am going to meet them.

Unsure33 · 27/03/2021 12:05

Yes sticking to rules and not going mad when they change .

You might get it mildly but when you get it bad or your whole family end up in hospital at once or you have long covid then you appreciate that this is a very dangerous and random virus .

LizzieVereker · 27/03/2021 12:05

Because I’m thinking of others and not terminally thick.

Calpolforever · 27/03/2021 12:06

Because it is selfish not to.

Because I want to protect my family and our community.

Because I understand that if we want schools open in a pandemic, other social contacts have to be limited.

Because we all need to follow the rules if we want this over quickly.

Unsure33 · 27/03/2021 12:06

@Jocasta2018

That sounds like a good thing to look forward to .

Fingers crossed it won’t be long .

RebeccaCloud9 · 27/03/2021 12:06

I got covid when there were less than 3 cases in my area. Just because rates are low, doesn't mean you won't get it. Oh, I'd had the jab too.

sweetgingercat · 27/03/2021 12:06

@Chloemol

Because
  1. It’s the law
  2. I don’t want to get it
3 I don’t want to pass it onto my family and friends, or indeed strangers 4 because I am thinking bigger picture, and am prepared to do what’s necessary for the good of all of us 5 because we are nowhere near out of this, and people like you make me cross
THIS...
ByTheStarryNight · 27/03/2021 12:06

Because there were 3 positive cases in Y7 at school this week, and my son now misses half his Easter holiday as a close contact, he's not allowed out of the house. But we will respect this rule to protect others. Just wish everyone else was so we didn't have an 11 yr old who is crying because all his friends can go out next week and he can't.

This thing is not over yet.

Wide · 27/03/2021 12:07

What's funny is on another thread someone posted not happy that a family had driven to a seaside town 2 days before the rules are lifted and everyone commented saying have a rest it's only 2 days etc yet on this thread everyones bashing breaking rules

megletthesecond · 27/03/2021 12:07

I've got better things to do than prolong this bloody situation. That's why.

You might fancy a third school lockdown next winter but I'd like my dc's at school and a functioning NHS while we find out how effective the vaccines are.

And I'm a lone parent so I can't get ill.

Mumof3girlsandaboy · 27/03/2021 12:08

@FFSAllTheGoodOnesArereadyTaken

Because the more that people mix, the more that the virus spreads. You're seeing people indoors, so massively increasing your chances of getting it. If everyone was doing that, we'd be in a right mess. I know everyone is fed up but we are weeks away from getting vaccinated so why not just hold on a bit longer rather than risking a huge spike and delaying coming out of lockdown just people like you think you can decide whether to follow the rules or not
Agree
AlexaShutUp · 27/03/2021 12:09

The thing is, OP, if you want to be selfish and you're prepared to risk the fines, then nobody can stop you. It's your choice.

There is no point in trying to justify that choice, though, nor in trying to convince yourself that everyone else is doing it.

Why not just own the fact that you don't give a toss about other people and that you'll do what you want because it suits you?

Original poster
RaspberryCoulis · 27/03/2021 12:09

@Wide

What's funny is on another thread someone posted not happy that a family had driven to a seaside town 2 days before the rules are lifted and everyone commented saying have a rest it's only 2 days etc yet on this thread everyones bashing breaking rules
Nah it's not funny at all. The whole raison d'etre of AIBU is for people to pile in and give the OP a kicking, whatever the argument. Kinda expected.

I do object to being called "terminally thick" however.

OP posts:
Carouselfish · 27/03/2021 12:09

Asymptomatic is a thing OP.
Yes it's been hard, but a lot of people in the world have it harder. We really are pathetic.

Kazzyhoward · 27/03/2021 12:10

@RebeccaCloud9

I got covid when there were less than 3 cases in my area. Just because rates are low, doesn't mean you won't get it. Oh, I'd had the jab too.
We shouldn't forget the latest Isle of Man outbreak where a single ferry worker led to over a thousand people infected. It's what exponential growth does. There's always a "person zero" who's the first.
Judystilldreamsofhorses · 27/03/2021 12:10

I am. I figure I will hopefully be vaccinated in a few months, so I can hang on until then. However I am also weighing up risk - v - personal gain and very, very excited to get my hair done on 5 April (also Scotland)!