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This little comment in the school newsletter.
Is it me being over sensitive or is it a bit passive aggressive?
Our family was working full time plus throughout as frontline NHS so home school for the four year old was learning through play, we didn’t log her into the online sessions as she was in childcare and explained to her teachers why.
I’m a bit frazzled so could be me being over sensitive. I just feel it’s a bit of an unnecessary dig. AIBU?

That's a horrible comment.

For background I’m not a moan parent AT ALL, I tend to trust the schools judgement on things and take what the kids say with a pinch of salt. I have older children at the school.
It’s not the first time I’ve raised my eyebrow about this teacher but kept schtum.

It’s an unhelpful comment and I wouldn’t allow it to go out in a newsletter from my school. Designed to cause guilt and worry with no thought into why some parents may not have been able to offer as much support as others.

That's shit. (Ex early years teacher) learning through play is fine at four.

It's unnecessary. I doubt that comment would have got through the senior leaders if they'd had it checked. It belittles situations like yours. I'm a teacher and wouldn't publish that. I would imagine it's more passively aggressively trying to address the parents who were at home but did nothing. But even then....it was awful for all. Give them a break.

Ignore it! Ignorant comment from a teacher.

Ouch! Yeah, that’s not a good comment

Oo I wouldn’t like that either. Very passive aggressive. YANBU

It's not nice to read if you were one of the parents struggling with the home schooling.

I think it was probably not intended as a dig, but intended to thank all the work those parents put into homeschooling. It's very hard to do that without making it sound like a dig though, I'm not sure what wording would be better.

I think our school said similar.

I'm a teacher and I think that comment is grim. Not on at all. YANBU

It's an awful comment. They shouldn't say a single thing about the outcomes of home learning because they have no idea about the challenges faced by individual families. Thanking parents for doing their best to get through difficult times is all that was needed.

I would have thought it was nice to be recognised for home schooling as it was awful to do! But I can see why you are offended.

It is true but it’s not something I would put on the news letter.

Yikes. It's a horribly tactless comment.

Ok, good not totally me then.

I'm a teacher. That's a nasty comment.

That is a vile comment. Bullying edge to it. What's the culture like in the school in general?

Oh I take it back. I didn't realise it was directed purely at reception children! Ours were junior children where they've said to the children that they can see whose done a lot of work on the topic etc. I had initially assumed it was a primary letter.

Its so tricky isnt it. I would have just played with a reception child if I had one over the pandemic - but the leaps they make in that year in school are so great. Mine went from not reading and writing to reading and writing in a year so I imagine the intention was to say "Wow! Look at all the progress we can really see the work you've done has paid off!" But I can't see how you'd express that better. Of course they will work over the next year or two in cathcing up those that weren't able to.

Generally really good.
But I’ve been a bit hmmm about this teacher before and I usually like everyone.

It's the "which"that makes it a shitty comment. Also I call bullshit that you can see which children had more input. Surely the results take into account the resources at home, education level of parent, capability of child etc. You could have a parent who put loads of input for little return or some who put little to no effort but the child excels academically. I think it's a really shitty comment. I do think parents who put in effort should be commended because I imagine it's not easy, not I certainly don't think parents for whatever reason didn't do as much should be vilified.

As in I think its probably true - but very tactless rather than intended to be nasty.

Oh dear, I don't like that comment.

Teachers are meant to be inclusive to all; ensuring equality and not making comments like that.

Me personally, I'd be raising it with the head .. but that's probably just me.

Thanking parents for their work over the home learning period is all that was needed. The last sentence is uncalled for.

Although tbf I had to pull them when they sent me an attendance letter saying she had less than a certain percentage attendance and then laid it on very heavy with legal consequences if attendance continued to slip. She had impetigo caught from school, had to be quarantined, and is actually not legally obliged to be at school aged 4. I think perhaps the management need a closer eye on communications.

That is a horrible comment. I would hate to have received that. Our school have been very good and just said thank you for all the support they have received. No comment on spotting any differences. I am sure they can but their job is to get every child where they should be, not insinuate some parents have failed. I would be upset and angry.