Sorry not 100% sure this is the right thread but advice greatly appreciated
My DH and I have 2 children our DD is 2 and our DD is 3 weeks old.
Before our DS was born DH and I discussed visiting, holding the new baby etc and our concerns around COVID. Now neither of us are the biggest COVID believer's, but given all the new strains etc we didn't want to risk our newborn getting unwell, or indeed ourselves as it would make looking after our children very difficult and not what you want in the first few weeks of a new baby. We agreed no visitors for a few weeks and no holding the baby until they had at least had their first set of jabs at 8 week's.
My PILs were round in our house twice before DS was even 2 weeks old. I wasn't happy and it sent my anxiety through the roof. MIL also works in a large supermarket and I consider her to be very high risk.
A few days before DS was born we found our dream house, purely by accident. We were planning on moving, and moving to another country in the very near future but thought we had a year or so left. It's now likely our house will be sold by June, and very possibly before the 'end of lockdown restrictions'.
I think it's important to say that MIL and I are not each others biggest fans, in fact it wouldn't bother me if I never saw or heard from her again. But I still appreciate that it's a bit of a shock and with the crap COVID restrictions over the last year and until June she won't have much of an opportunity to spend time with her only 2 grandchildren.
However because of our rather sudden upcoming departure she and DH have just decided lockdown rules don't matter and she should be able to come round as she pleases. And you know what, if I didn't have a newborn I probably wouldn't even care that much.
But they both can't see my issue with her hugging and kissing our DD. I keep saying it's the risk of transmission, especially as she is always kissing and cuddling DS.
it has been announced that she's coming round tomorrow. And I said fine but she's not coming in the house and she must keep her distance.
It's resulted in a huge argument and I will be made to look like the "bad person' tomorrow when I enforce these rules.
So AIBU? I do appreciate that current lockdown rules mean she shouldn't even be coming round (and I would prefer she didn't and suggested we wait until next weekend) but I think that's a lost battle.
But any advice is welcomed