Would you choose money or love

[kylie122]

Just that

I have been thinking about this old proverb.

In a lot of cases, this is true.

When money worries come in the door, love goes out the window.

Depends on the amount of money. I would choose love if the choice was a comfortable amount of money and love, over being a millionaire. But would choose money if the alternative was living on the breadline.

Fairyliz

"Back in the real world how do you do that? The average U.K. salary is what £28k? So as men generally earn more than women I would imagine the average woman is on about £25k.
Not a lot for a lovely life and children and I don’t even live in London."

Better £25k p/a of your own money, earned on your own terms and not subject to someone else's conditions and stipulations. Every single time.

Financial dependency on a man is seductive (and God knows its built into our social fabric) but very rarely worth the trade-offs.

Love. I'd rather spend the day outside on a picnic blanket with cheap sandwiches, water and a football with DH and DS than being alone and rich

Money every time

Love. I can make my own money. My DP is priceless to me. I couldn’t feel more loved and it’s the best feeling in the world, just completely knowing that someone has your back.

Money. With enough of it you can buy love (sort of) 🤣

Usually I'd say love every time. But today I saw that thread title and thought 'love is hard work. You don't end up as carer for your money in its old age.'
So love. Unless I'm tired and achy and need some time to myself, in which case money.

I'm not actually a carer, btw. Just a mum with a husband and a job I should start now!

Tough one. I'd love some money! But love, if it were genuine and lasting, and presumably happiness,would be amazing.

Love.
I have my own money and investments and have always been financially independent since leaving home.
"Financial dependency on a man is seductive" Yuk to this.

Why are they mutually exclusive?

Having gained the knowledge I have now, money. I would also make darned sure that I had a Running Away account.

I chose love. I don't believe money makes you happy. Yes it can make life easier and less stressful, but if you're with a person you don't love, what's the point?

I wonder if all the people saying money have experienced real, deep love for a partner?

I thought I’d hit the jackpot with DH, I adore him and when we married, he had a great job, salary and prospects. His industry took a massive downturn and eventually he lost his job. Things have been very different money wise since then. If we didn’t really love each other we would not have made it through that time.

I have a friend who chose a lot of money over love. They have a stunning home and go on holidays I could only dream about. Her husband is progressively becoming more distant, controlling and cruel. She is deprived of physical affection. He is sometimes lovely to her and sometimes awful. There were hints of this before they married, but he offered a lifestyle she aspired to. She won’t leave him because she will lose her beautiful home and lifestyle.

I’d take my lot over hers any day.

@cookiecreampie

I chose love. I don't believe money makes you happy. Yes it can make life easier and less stressful, but if you're with a person you don't love, what's the point?

Because some people value companionship as much as love, it's a form of love. Poverty really sucks.

@hilariousnamehere

Money over romantic love. Every other sort of love over money.

Same here. I think that a lot of people who say they'd choose love and poverty over money and stability have never actually been poor before.

Familial love, self-love and friendship I could absolutely never live without, though.

Money for sure

Of course, as PP have mentioned, as long as there is no abuse involved.

Money.

I couldn't be happy living with no money. Even in love it would be an enormous strain.

I really want to say love, but in view of all the shit that i have to put up with I have to say money.

I had that choice. Chose love. Have never regretted it. We earned money.

I had a rich boyfriend for 6 years but ended the relationship because I wanted to find true love.

I have been poor and extremely happy now for 19 years and know I made the right choice.

Love. I make my own money!

@diamondpony80

Love. I make my own money!

But what if you could only have one in your life? The question doesn’t say would you choose a man for love or money?

Maybe I misinterpreted but I certainly thought it was a “you can only have one of these” type questions. I also make my own money but still chose money. 😊

Money. Love can be found multiple times in life, when you are not even looking for it. Lottery wins aside, money doesn't just turn up and change your life.

Take the money now and hope that love comes later - it is more realistic than the other way around.