Would you choose money or love

[kylie122]

Just that

not a real life one

We’ve had money and then not. And been close to one another and then not. And back and forth in both situations.

No money and lots of love is easier than lots of money and no love.

Love. Make your own money.

@Kanaloa

Well, love, because money can always run out/be lost etc and it’s easier to be poor with someone you love. Also, you can be very unhappy even with lots of money. I think most people would think the same.

Love can run out too. It's not an ever fixed mark. A decade ago I would have said love everytime. Right now baring abuse I'd say money, at least then I could get my kids the support they need and have a home just for kids and me

It’s not just a relationship question, though.

Often it’s a choice you make about your career too; Follow your passion, or follow the money.

Love.

Husband and I were very hard up for a long time - too long. It was dreadful. Things did improve when we moved out of our first shoe box into a three bed semi, then we were poor again for a few years. I have never been particularly money orientated but I used to daydream about money and not having to worry about bills.

Everything comes to those who wait, or so we are told. All came good from a financial point of view eventually but I don't forget the hard times and wouldn't wish them on anyone.

For the last few years we were very comfortable. Then he died.

It was right to marry for love and we did love each other very much but there needs to be careful thought about finances; looking back we didn't plan very well.

If you chose money over love there would be grave deficiencies - though love does grow in some cases.

Both would be best :-).

Work for money, relationships for love.

The question isn't applicable to real life.

Hypothetically, would I choose "eternal romantic love" over "a relationship with a person who I didn't like but was rich" or "a large sum of money". Yes.

In real life most of us get neither. There is no such thing as lasting love (imo). Also marrying a person without money doesn't guarantee they are an awesome down to earth person who will love you forever.

Money
In the words of Gwen McRae ‘ No romance without finance’

Oops Gwen Guthrie not McCrae

It depends, on the man and why I would need to choose between them.

If I choose money, would the money be ill gotten? Will dh need to die? Or would he pick up a dreadful attribute? Can he afford to hide affair & keep me safe from std? Can I make the money instead of him?

Love wise, would he honorable but poor? Or spend his money stupidly? Have a gambling addiction that turns him destitute?

I would prefer an honorable man that is content with life and was loyal to me.

Money. As long as I liked the person as a companion I could happily live with that.

Being with someone who seemed a go-getter, then revealing after we were married he had no ambition & didn't want to leave his comfy, one horse town & poorly paid job, saying 'it's only money' kills the love anyway. I'm tired of having to be the breadwinner or live on crumbs.

Love, in any form. When I die I want to be surrounded by the people who love me and not people wondering how long it will take to sort out the estate.

I chose money and regret it.

My first husband was a wealthy man who turned out to be a very controlling narc. He didn't know the meaning of love. My life was awful and very, very lonely.

My current husband earns not a huge amount more than minimum wage and loves and supports me 100%. We work as a team and I feel valued.

Definitely love. Without hesitation.

Money. I'm happily single and don't want love.

I assume the question relates to love vs money as a basis for choosing to be in a relationship, which is depressing as it suggests that a lot of women still see marriage as a financial life goal.

If this is the question the answer is love because choosing to marry someone for financial security is basically prostitution and a woman should NEVER aim to be dependent on a man.

That said, marrying for romantic love is a very high stakes game and if you’re a woman with her own money it’s probably a bad idea.

Real orgasms and fake jewellery vs real jewellery and fake orgasms.

@SionnachGlic

Love. Make your own money.

Back in the real world how do you do that? The average U.K. salary is what £28k? So as men generally earn more than women I would imagine the average woman is on about £25k. Not a lot for a lovely life and children and I don’t even live in London.

@Coronawireless

Real orgasms and fake jewellery vs real jewellery and fake orgasms.

Most people can give themselves real orgasms but can't afford real jewellery. I know which I'd choose.

Money. I'm a bit of a hermit, and don't plan to get into a relationship again.

I chose love, now wishing I had gone for money!

Love

I married for money first time round. Very happy now. We’re skint but we really do love each other haha

Love, but it didn't work out for me and I was treated horribly, whilst money has proved more reliable!

Money