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Would you choose money or love

153 replies

kylie122 · 25/03/2021 22:16

Just that

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Changemaname1 · 25/03/2021 22:38

If you mean romantic love ...
Then money all day long !

RebeccaCloud9 · 25/03/2021 22:39

Depends on the context. Sweep you off your feet but you know deep down he's flighty, I'd go with my head and choose the money. Security with a good, honest, loving, kind man who loved his children, I'd choose love.

Babyiwantabump · 25/03/2021 22:39

Love

My DP certainly has no money.

You could be the richest person in the world and be alone .
Money doesn’t buy happiness

Bopahula · 25/03/2021 22:41

Money.

I'm single and very happy. Me and DD could have more cats with the money. 😺😺

NormanCornerstone · 25/03/2021 22:41

Money

en0la · 25/03/2021 22:42

If I had to be in a relationship it'd be money. Love doesn't happen in relationships.

PurpleFlower1983 · 25/03/2021 22:42

Love every time.

Strangekindofwoman · 25/03/2021 22:45

Money.

Love is overrated.

Hankunamatata · 25/03/2021 22:45

But it's not an either or question really. You can love someone but if they refuse to work or support themselves then love will doe pretty quickly. Same as if someone is rich - the money can disappear just as easily.

shivawn · 25/03/2021 22:47

Love!

No amount of money could ever replace my husband!

daybreakpurple · 25/03/2021 22:58

I chose love.

But luckily he has money as well.

Nannyamc · 25/03/2021 22:58

Love. Money can come eventually to a good partnership. Covid has taught us lots. As long as you can pay your bills you are winning. It also helps that you are both on a good vibe

Thepennyhasdroppedq · 25/03/2021 23:04

Love

FinallyFluid · 25/03/2021 23:07

@RebeccaCloud9

Depends on the context. Sweep you off your feet but you know deep down he's flighty, I'd go with my head and choose the money. Security with a good, honest, loving, kind man who loved his children, I'd choose love.
@RebeccaCloud9

You have saved me a very long post, I had flighty, great fun love, I loved him, I never heard I love you from him, but kept revisiting the situation, me, sooo invested, ...him.... well hey lets roll with this for a while.

I met someone, solid, dependable, and a good laugh, not the flighty love of my life, but he always, always has my back.

Sometimes his reaction to an ah feck it, lets just make it up as we go along situation makes me roll my eyes.

But the flighty one, is knocking on retirement, permanently in debt, has an alcohol problem, has never settled, single, never owned a house, never learned how to drive, never, well just never anything.

My Dh and I work really well together and are to quote friends of ours, at times a force to be reckoned with.

I would take him over Mr Flighty in a heartbeat every day.

We are together 32 years this year, I could not have done it without him.

BoomTastic1 · 25/03/2021 23:12

Ah security over flighty for sure.

I can't imagine being trapped in loveless marriage for money but I'm talking about slow burn love.

PicsInRed · 25/03/2021 23:19

I would choose MY OWN money.

Relying on a man to love you and financially support you and the kids is one hell of a high stakes game. Love yourself, pay your own bills, that's where happiness lies.

Ilovegreentomatoes · 25/03/2021 23:20

Money because it's very hard to find genuine love.

unforgotten23 · 25/03/2021 23:21

Love every time

JaceLancs · 25/03/2021 23:21

Love all the way
Wish my head overruled my heart as money would be so much more sensible

Happycat1212 · 25/03/2021 23:23

Lol surprised how many are saying love I’m guessing we are talking romantic love? In that case money. Every.single.time

WithTeaTree · 25/03/2021 23:25

Money over romantic love, but not over my kid.

CovidCorvid · 25/03/2021 23:26

Money. I could quite happily be single for the rest of my life.

shivawn · 25/03/2021 23:28

I think all the people saying they would choose money must not currently be in love.

I'm lucky with both but I know which I couldn't live without.

Happycat1212 · 25/03/2021 23:29

I’ve been in love and it didn’t last 🤷‍♀️ I could now happily stay single and have been for 4 years. Not fussed on a new relationship.

Stationfork · 25/03/2021 23:31

Oh my god Love all day long if I could have it for real.

Tried to settle for money, not knowingly and not big money in any way but just being solvent and it wasn't enough

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