Shall I take my daughter out of school for this

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Hi,
My dd is 14 and year 10, up
Until year 9 there were no problems at school, but in year 10 a girls who had previously left the school re joined again and started trouble. My dd was quite popular and had a good circle of friends and this girls took my dds best friend aside and started making up
Lies that my dd had been talking about her abs spreading rumours, which resulted in them falling out, dd was very upset. It didn't stop there, the 2 girls then went around yelling other people and they started ganging up on her. One day after school those girls were chasing her to say they were going to beat her up and luckily I got there in time and got in her in the car... she was terrified and shaking, next day I went in to speak the the head of year abs they then arranged a meeting with me and my dd and the other girl and her mum, abs we basically long story short managed to sort it out and the girls mum
Promises it wouldn't happen again.
Now after lockdown the other girls has taken the other best friend of my dd abs basically done the same in spreading rumours, for a few weeks my dd has been saying no one talks to her abs they all laughs at her and whisper about her, she's very upset, today the teacher forced them
To sort it out and then later at lunch the girls came over to her while my dd was eating and stayed shouting saying why are you talking about me to others, my daughter denied it but didn't get up to avoid confrontation the girl started throwing food at dd she still isn't get up. Teacher then took them out and out my dd in isolation and told her off and said she should have moved away but the other girls didn't get isolated. Ss called my crying frantically to come take her and she never wants to go to the school again.

I've made an appointment to see the head tomorrow. Dd has always been very very good and her study but recently her grades have dropped, she's now insisting she wants to leave the school. I can't bear to see her like this but I'm also worried about moving her in year 10 after already basically missing a yet due to lockdown, and what if she can't get her chosen subjects in another schools? Does anyone have any advice on how it works if I move her now? Should I move her ?

Sorry that was a long post

Give the names of the schools you think suitable to the head teacher. For all you know he might be planning a swap, if there's other schools with pupils who want to leave, or pupils who are terrorising others and the school wants to move them! Different environments suit different people. Let others worry about the schools being full, you just worry about what is suitable. If they can't offer you a place somewhere suitable then you can consider alternative methods of education.

If schools are full, you may be able to get a managed move.

@NiceTwin it's a managed move he's talking about. Usually it's fine for pupils close to exclusion but he said they can have it for mental health and students worrying about their safety too. So the likely chance is she will get one of the schools i out on my list.

@Tipsylizard that's wonderful to hear I'm so glad it worked out so well for her.

@SunshiningBetty I'll definitely have a look into that onlineschooling too. Thanks

Did you know you can get an early college placement?
I took my DD out in yr 10 under similar circumstances and she went to college and thrived there. She is now at university and loving life.
I'm so glad I made the decision.

@Ledkr no I didn't know
This. I'll have a look into it. Thanks

I’m so sorry your poor daughter.

This situation isn’t going to improve unless several of those girla are expelled, which seems unlikely.

I would move her asap and dereg in the meantime.

As someone who was bullied in school by my so called ‘friends’ and one that had a particular vendetta against me for no reason, I felt such reading that.

Escalate to the board of governors, these girls can’t get away with treating your daughter like this.

Sick not such

Yes. Look into it..DD did a BTEC level 3 and 2 GCSEs.
She got 3 unconditional offers for unis with this and is thriving and happy
I fought the school for a year and ended up out of my mind and DD was rock bottom and then one day I just thought, I've got to get her out of this before anymore of her life is wasted.

I suffered loads from bullying at my school, as she's the youngest I would just move her and get her to do year 10 again. If anything it's a positive even though her grades are a bit down now she will have some idea of the subject matter. My friend ended up being homeschooled because my bullies said she was gay and punched her in the face and her GCSE options were limited because of that but there is online schools now which look really good.

@Keepitnerdy it seems that repeating year 10 is not an option in my area which is a shame.

Thank you all lovely ladies 😊