Are you letting your primary aged DC have play dates?

[LockerandKey]

DD8 has been invited over to play at a classmate’s house after school tomorrow along with another child.

The other child’s mum has confirmed and said it’s ok. The host parent’s view is that they are in the same bubble at school so it makes no difference. I haven’t responded yet but I feel slightly uncomfortable about it.

I’m not worried about getting covid but it does send the wrong message to DD; she is well aware of the “rules” and knows it’s illegal. The school are desperately trying to keep the bubbles open and have requested parents limit contact outside of school to help with this.

Also, I know this family are also mixing with other parents and children from school. I’m not judging them, it’s their decision but WIBU or over reacting to say no DD can not go?

DD wants to go and says she feels sad because the other DC is going but she also recognises that if I say no (which I’m planning on doing) it’s because we know we’re not supposed to.

But part of me feels I’m being a bit silly as logically it makes no sense .

AIBU to say no she can’t go?

No.

I'm a teacher and I'd rather my class didn't either

No, YANBU.

Yes, same bubble. But I'm in a bubble with about 8 other members of staff and 55 children. That doesn't mean we're all allowed around each other's houses outside of school.

Your daughter sounds sensible that she recognises it's not allowed.

I am definitely not allowing this to happen. The bubble thing I irrelevant. We are supposed.to be limiting the number of people we see so if your Dd and her two friends all mix with her parents and her siblings that's a lot more chance of spreading than simply being together at school. Plus it's illegal and as you said sends a bad message to DD. They'll be allowed after Easter hols anyway!

No, although I did have classmate of DS round the other day for an hour after school as his mum had some work come up at short notice and couldn't pick him up straight away.

Of course not.

@Feelingconfused2020 that’s exactly how I’ve explained it to DD and she understands it’s not just about “us” but also about protecting others. But she’s still only little and I can see she’s upset about it .

It just feels so frustrating having to explain to my child why she’s not allowed to go when others are.

Only with the friend we are in a childcare bubble with and only once when it wasn't strictly for childcare

You do realise come Monday this would be totally legal right? They are the same bubble at school. The parents obviously live with the children so it’s no more risk than sending to school but hey ho you do you I wouldn’t be saying no for the sake of a couple of days.

Nope. No one is around here as far as I can tell. We do stop at the park (its on walk home) and they will play for a bit with friends if they happen to be there.

@Alwaysandforeverhere it’s not legal from Monday.....

Indoor mixing (outside of school) is not allowed.

Nope. It's not allowed.

I know of many people using the 'same bubble at school' bollocks though.

Not allowing either

@Alwaysandforeverhere

You do realise come Monday this would be totally legal right? They are the same bubble at school. The parents obviously live with the children so it’s no more risk than sending to school but hey ho you do you I wouldn’t be saying no for the sake of a couple of days.

Are we allowed in each others houses from Monday? I thought it was up to 6 people or two households outdoors only?

Nope. Siblings aren't in the same bubble at school, neither are parents. And kids don't wrestle or play so closely at school.

Sorry I missed the inside only part. However childcare is legal so as long as none of the other parents are in the house it could be classed as childcare.

Our DS (Y6) has been meeting with one friend from his school bubble to walk together outside and play in the woods near our village. We would not allow any indoors meet-ups, though.

In the time I’ve posted, the other mum has cancelled too saying “something has come up” so I wonder if she’s concluded it’s probably not a good idea .

The most we have done is arranged to go for a walk in the same area as another family with a child in DD’s bubble. We were outside the whole time.

You are completely right that logically the rules make no sense. But since your DD feels she would be doing something wrong, probably best not to. (I do worry that about all the illogic being passed down to kids, with their still-forming brains at the moment. Argh.)

Nope.

Yes they are in the same bubble at school. That is for education purposes.

Going into someone else’s house is completely different, you would be exposing your DC to that family. If any of the DC then tested positive, they should isolate. If either parents tested positive you would need to isolate.

It’s also not legal come Monday, outdoor missing is however.

Following the rules is how we keep our schools open which is what everyone wants despite how hard it is.

Does anyone else feel intense mum guilt about it ? My DD says she feels excluded because she’s the “only one not allowed ...” .

Going by this thread it’s not the case, but it can feel that way at times .

No. I’d allow outside now as it’s allowed here (I’m not in England) but not indoors.

@LockerandKey

Does anyone else feel intense mum guilt about it ? My DD says she feels excluded because she’s the “only one not allowed ...” .

Going by this thread it’s not the case, but it can feel that way at times .

I felt guilty when my only DD saw no other child for months on end and when a school letter was sent out admonishing parents (who had their children in - which 50% of parents did) for letting their school-attending children have sleepovers together over half-term. So I was here keeping my my child at home, like a complete sucker, while all the children at school were seeing each other outside of school on a regular basis. I felt very fucking guilty that day! Oh well.

@MonsterKidz

Nope.

Yes they are in the same bubble at school. That is for education purposes.

Going into someone else’s house is completely different, you would be exposing your DC to that family. If any of the DC then tested positive, they should isolate. If either parents tested positive you would need to isolate.

It’s also not legal come Monday, outdoor missing is however.

Following the rules is how we keep our schools open which is what everyone wants despite how hard it is.

I did correct myself however the ops child could of been going to okay in the back garden for all we know and childcare is perfectly legal inside and out.

Nope mine not allowed.