Are you letting your primary aged DC have play dates?

[LockerandKey]

DD8 has been invited over to play at a classmate’s house after school tomorrow along with another child.

The other child’s mum has confirmed and said it’s ok. The host parent’s view is that they are in the same bubble at school so it makes no difference. I haven’t responded yet but I feel slightly uncomfortable about it.

I’m not worried about getting covid but it does send the wrong message to DD; she is well aware of the “rules” and knows it’s illegal. The school are desperately trying to keep the bubbles open and have requested parents limit contact outside of school to help with this.

Also, I know this family are also mixing with other parents and children from school. I’m not judging them, it’s their decision but WIBU or over reacting to say no DD can not go?

DD wants to go and says she feels sad because the other DC is going but she also recognises that if I say no (which I’m planning on doing) it’s because we know we’re not supposed to.

But part of me feels I’m being a bit silly as logically it makes no sense .

AIBU to say no she can’t go?

They are doing in my class at school which has caused some problems with a group of them now isolating as one of the parents tested positive as they had been in contact at each other's houses meaning there is more risk our class will close and more children missing education.

Of course not. Can't wait for it to be allowed though. I like having ds's friends round.

No. We live in a village and a lot of the children are playing outside after school with the children they go school with. I don’t see a massive problem with this as they are outside and spending the day together anyway.

But definitely not inside each other’s houses where risk is higher and other family members who could have or catch the virus.

No way. I respect my child’s unvaccinated teacher and other school staff too much.

@0gfhty

Haha, same happened here. It was sunny and we got ice cream and I heard my son telling the teacher (he’s 4) that we had been on holiday for the weekend..!

Sometimes I do wonder .....how much higher are risks are inside? disagree with Bbee29. So, these children have been in the school classroom together for months. Now they play outside in the fresh air. But say 2 best friends can't sit inside a lounge together watching a film, playing x box. No parents around. Sat at home, whereas earlier they were sat in a classroom together. I wonder what the higher risks really are?

Absolutely not. Our headmaster even stated in a letter that playdates are not allowed. School bubble only applies at school. We get invites - we decline.

@Iremembertheelderlykoreanlady childcare bubbles are fully allowed. You can look after someone else’s child in your house. Most people I know have one bubble like this.

What’s the headmaster got to do with what you do outside of school. None of his business.

YANBU.
My dc wouldn't be going to someone's house either.
Mixing at school is completely different to mixing in someone's home, using their facilities, drinking out of their cups and generally being around their family members.

I’d hang on a week and have a garden play date.

It did break my heart a bit this morning when my 3 year old said she really wanted her friend to come to her house “when the coronavirus has gone away”. What the fuck are we doing to them.

@Awalkintime

They are doing in my class at school which has caused some problems with a group of them now isolating as one of the parents tested positive as they had been in contact at each other's houses meaning there is more risk our class will close and more children missing education.

Perfect example why people are abstaining.. if my kids go to friends houses they are indoors with other people, siblings etc who they would not be in close contact with at school. Indoors & extra people means extra close contacts. Outside is totally different

@Runway

What’s the headmaster got to do with what you do outside of school. None of his business

It’s their business if it’s putting their staff and students at risk.

@Runway

What’s the headmaster got to do with what you do outside of school. None of his business.

You'd hope that keeping their staff, the children in their care and their families as safe as possible, would be the headmaster's business.

@Runway

What’s the headmaster got to do with what you do outside of school. None of his business.

Headteachers have a duty of care to their staff and children. That doesn’t stop when the school day ends.

I do wonder why its deemed safe for under 12s to mix freely in Scotland (no bubbles in school either) but terribly dangerous in England?

@GintyMcGinty can over 12s mix in people's houses in Scotland, or just outdoors?

HTs are trying their utmost to keep schools open and everyone well. Schools are a community not just a set of classrooms