OH swanning of for dinner

[nomoreginforme]

AIBU?

Oh has a parcel being delivered at 5 to his parents house which he needs to post but he can't post it today anyway so I said why don't you just wait until tomorrow to go and get it. (My day off aswell)

He said I may as-well just go get it now me and the kids can just have dinner there aswell.

I said so what about me am I just cooking a full on dinner for myself? So you can just sit at your mums all evening and have dinner done for you.

AIBU? I am working from home until 8 but I still cook and do dinner everyday.

All he likes to do is it go to his parents sit there all evening let them watch the kids and have all his dinner done for him winds me up!

I would relish the opportunity to be by myself, surely you've made dinner just fir yourself before?

Surely you just get to order take away for yourself if he's out with the kids?

@LagunaBubbles yes normally I don't mind but they was just there a few days ago didn't come back with the kids until 10PM

I’m not quite sure what the problem is. Do you want to go with them and have dinner all together?

I think I’d relish the house to myself for a few hours, and not having to cook for everyone.

I’m confused, would he have done dinner if he was at home or would you have finished work at 8 and cooked?

Where are you that having dinner in another house is even allowed right now?

YABVU. Why is it a problem?

Just get a takeaway or have cheese on toast if you don't want to cook anything fancy and enjoy the peace and quiet!

Is the problem that you won't to see the kids? Wanted to go with them? Wanted him to cool dinner? He visits too much?

Really missing the problem. If it's genuinely about you cooking for one person, then get a take away.

He just always has an excuse why he needs to go over to his parents their is always something, and he will organise it with them before even speaking with me.

I've had dinner in the slow cooker since this morning and now saying he's off to his mums.

Assuming a support bubble with OHs parents, whilst in theory OK, seems unreasonable to not want to have an evening meal with you on your day off.

I don’t really see the problem; tell him the kids need to be home for bedtime on a school night but I don’t think you can tell him what to do when you’re working. If DH got funny at me taking the kids out when he worked late it’d annoy me.

Surely dinner will keep and they can eat it tomorrow?

I suspect there's more of a back-story here though. Should he even be going to his parents at the moment?

[quote nomoreginforme]@LagunaBubbles yes normally I don't mind but they was just there a few days ago didn't come back with the kids until 10PM[/quote]
I honestly wouldn't mind that every few days. A bit of peace would be welcome any time.

If he wants to go, don't try and stop him. Have an evening to yourself.

Let him go and have some time to yourself! I don't see the problem personally.

Slow cooker dinner for tomorrow and have take away for you tonight.

Is the anger about his lazy parenting?

Maybe I just need to chill out then, I don't know it just annoys me I haven't seen any of my family for months and he's always just going off to his for dinner whilst I'm always working.

Let him go, he's taking the kids, even better!

I'd be delighted, I hardly ever get the house to myself. Serve the slow cooker dinner tomorrow!

I couldn't get worked up about this

I get you OP. If he knew you were preparing the meal it would be common decency to discuss plans with you.

It would have been even more decent for him to offer to cook the meal as you are working late .

Seems his parents is a convenient way for him to get out of his home and parental responsibilities.

YABU. You're working anyway, why shouldn't he bring the kids for dinner at their grandparents?

You would think you would want a quiet house to work anyway.

This seems like its a case of if you can't do something nice no one can.

That sounds absolutely glorious. I'd love a couple of hours by myself, and for my kids to return fed and ready to go to bed. Heaven!

What are you moaning about?

(1) We are in Lockdown so children should not be visiting their grandparents for dinner
(2) The OP now has a pretty-much wasted effort on a day she is working with the meal prep - sure the meal can be eaten tomorrow, but if that was the case perhaps it would have suited the OP better to prep it tomorrow
(3) Why isn't the OP's partner offering to cook meal whilst she's working rather than going and breaking lockdown rules? He's neither contributing to helping the OP when she's at work by preparing the meal, contributing to the house, or from what the OP has written, raising his children if he's leaving it all to the grandparents.

Sorry but I do think YABU. He shouldn't need to "find excuses" to go see his parents. My DP goes to his parents 3/4 times a week normally, they're close, I have no issue with this.

Yes it's annoying you've had dinner cooking but surely it could be kept for tomorrow night? Saves you cooking again tomorrow!
Enjoy the peace and quiet to get on with your work then relax with some time to yourself after

he's always just going off to his for dinner whilst I'm always working.

Is that the crux of the issue?

Does he work? If not; why doesn’t he cook?

(1) We are in Lockdown so children should not be visiting their grandparents for dinner

a - not everyone lives in England and is impacted by our COVID rules.
b - OP's issue isn't that they're going for dinner in general, more the timing of it all.
c - not everything has to be linked back to bloody COVID.