Horrid, cringey things people say

[SmidgenofaPigeon]

I nanny for a family that call dinner ‘sup sups’

It makes me feel ill. I’ve tried and tried to get the kids to stoppit and almost succeeded but due to lockdown, their mum is at home constantly and feeding them these twee little sayings as apparently it’ll be ‘a shame when they grow up and don’t say them anymore’

Sup sups is the absolute worst but we also have ‘beddiebyes’ and ‘pop pops’ (I can’t even write what that one means because Its nauseating but it’s a bodily function)

The children are 6, 9 and 11, not babies.

It sounds dramatic but the thought of hearing these stupid phrases again tomorrow for another weeks is spoiling my Sunday

Anyone got any to add to make me feel better?

I fucking HATE “give over” as well.

Whit? Don't speak for all Scots

I'm a Scottish person and I agree with that poster

Agreed.

DH and all my ILs are Scottish and they’ve never said my boys or this one. “The lauddies”, “the wains” and “this yun here eh?” definitely.

We agreed with that poster too. The only people I’ve heard saying the boys for sons and “this one” tend to be English or American and I see it mainly on Facebook or Instagram.

Detest little man and little lady too.

'folk' especially when it's used at work. 'the technology folk' or 'the folk on project X' or 'give the finance folk a ring' as examples. Literally can ring the sayer's neck.

I call my small puppy’s penis his pee pee — is that awful.

Oh dear. In our house we have various twee-isms, usually from things the children used to mispronounce when learning to talk.

Geck is cake.
Gubbady is a cup of tea.

The Business is a set of automatic doors.

@honeylulu

Oh dear. In our house we have various twee-isms, usually from things the children used to mispronounce when learning to talk.

Geck is cake.
Gubbady is a cup of tea.

The Business is a set of automatic doors.

See now I really like these quirky, personal words of silliness. Far better than some tired old social media catchprase for the terminally hard of thinking.

Most of these don't bother me too much - I don't particularly like 'holibobs' or 'famalam', but I wouldn't drop someone as a friend or get my blood pressure through the roof for using these words!

Words that really do get me (apart from the obvious insults) are:

Generational terms like 'millennial' or 'boomer' when used to dismiss people on grounds of age. Most people would pay at least lip-service to the idea that one shouldn't sneer at people because of where they were born, and I don't think it's really that different to sneer at people because of when they were born.

'Nazi' when used in a trivialized way about anyone who is seen as too bossy: 'smoking Nazi', 'grammar Nazi', or worst of all, 'feminazi'.

'Woke' when used sneeringly of people with whom you disagree.

'Shitty'' - I don't know why I hate this so much - I mostly don't mind a bit of swearing but that one really irritates me.

And 'Brexshitter' - I'm an ardent Remainer/Rejoiner, but that word is just nasty and contributes nothing.

'Resilience'. Well, I don't really mind the word; but I hate it when it's used as though it's a moral virtue, and to imply that anyone with mental health problems is just a spoilt brat who would soon become resilient if people weren't soft with them!

@ZaZathecat

Whatever twee expressions people use in their own homes is their business and no one else's.

But the fact we know them all is because they're evidently used outside of the family home, aren't they? Fairly obviously?

@queenMab99

It took me years to register that ballache, meant aching balls, I assumed it was a French word pronounced ballash, with the emphasis on the last syllable.

Ball-ash. Emphasis on the second syllable.

That's made my day! That's the sort of thing I might think! 😊

Incredibly petty since I live and was born in the North of England but every time my work friend asks “ooooooh what ya got for yer dinner?!” at lunch, I have to count to ten. I know it makes me a terrible person, but sometimes when she’s asked me “what are you having for yer dinner?” and I know she means lunch, I’ve said something like “I’m not sure, DH is making dinner tonight...” I don’t know why it irritates me so much. “I’m taking my Nan summat from the chippy for dinner so I won’t have to make owt for tea, hubby’ll just av to sort himself out.” genuinely makes my brain hurt as I’m thinking “right she’s going for fish and chips after work, around 6ish, oh wait no she’s not”. Pathetic, I know.

I take it you lived away from the North for a long time before returning? Sorry, but that just makes you sound quite foolish (and even somewhat arrogant) if you can't (or pretend not to) understand almost universally-used terms in the area where you live. I presume you wouldn't move to another country and 'correct' the people there with the English equivalent of the native-language word they are using correctly for the country/area they are living in?

Also, I wouldn't advise moving to Wales and 'helpfully correcting' people whenever they dare to use their own language in their own country.

@WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll

Incredibly petty since I live and was born in the North of England but every time my work friend asks “ooooooh what ya got for yer dinner?!” at lunch, I have to count to ten. I know it makes me a terrible person, but sometimes when she’s asked me “what are you having for yer dinner?” and I know she means lunch, I’ve said something like “I’m not sure, DH is making dinner tonight...” I don’t know why it irritates me so much. “I’m taking my Nan summat from the chippy for dinner so I won’t have to make owt for tea, hubby’ll just av to sort himself out.” genuinely makes my brain hurt as I’m thinking “right she’s going for fish and chips after work, around 6ish, oh wait no she’s not”. Pathetic, I know.

I take it you lived away from the North for a long time before returning? Sorry, but that just makes you sound quite foolish (and even somewhat arrogant) if you can't (or pretend not to) understand almost universally-used terms in the area where you live. I presume you wouldn't move to another country and 'correct' the people there with the English equivalent of the native-language word they are using correctly for the country/area they are living in?

Also, I wouldn't advise moving to Wales and 'helpfully correcting' people whenever they dare to use their own language in their own country.

Well I did say I felt pathetic about it.

Nope I’ve never moved, always lived here.

The thing is, not a single person in my family says breakfast, dinner, tea. Only one girl at my school said it. And apart from this colleague only one other person I used to care for said it. None of my friends say it. Even though it’s a Northern town (Lytham St Annes). It might be that this colleague is from Bradford and that’s what everyone she’s ever known says the same way it’s the opposite for me. I do have to continually readjust around her and I think it’s the having to switch and realise “what are you having for dinner?” doesn’t mean what I think it does initially which grates. It’s like a little brain zap where I have to go “Dinner...erm curry...no wait she doesn’t mean dinner, she means lunch, right sandwiches.”

And I don’t “correct” her. That would be a dick move. I just tell her what I AM having for my dinner. I’d never go “colleague,
you do realise it’s LUNCH not DINNER”. Don’t see what the relevance of moving to Wales is.

I fucking HATE, “are you being obtuse?” “You are being deliberately obtuse”. It sounds like something a spoiled 12 year old would rudely say to their mother and inevitably makes the poster sound like a joyless, withering workplace bully.

When people refer to their babies as 'my best friend' on SM

@NormanStangerson

I’ve got lots more:

Girl boss.
Lady boss.
Bossing it.
Girl squad.
Squad.
Team

Boom.
Mic drop.
Turnt.
Hubster.
Hubby.
Wifey.
Bae.
‘This one’.
Full time mummy.
Beaut.
Side hustle.
Bestie.
BFF.
Be kind (usually posted by the nastiest people.
Adulting.

Yes to girl boss / lady boss - makes me so angry

Fair enough, then, Sandgrown1970 - sorry if I misunderstood what you were saying. The thing is, though, even if you absolutely aren't trying to make it sound like you're correcting her, it sounds to me like it may well come across that way.

I'm not saying you're wrong for using the 'Southern' convention at all - it's normal for you and your family; but I'm surprised that you're surprised/not used to the very common Northern/Midlands way of referring to meals.

Maybe I was being unfair, but my Wales comment was based on the number of English people (for the record, I am English) who giggle when they hear Welsh spoken in Wales, treat it like it's a silly little hobby rather than a living everyday language and, instead of simply accepting that it's not a language they understand and looking past it for the English version, will insist on sneering at it as 'gibberish'.

I’m from the North (Cheshire) and work in Central Manchester, Chester and Liverpool. I never hear anyone say breakfast/dinner/tea here either. I sometimes think it’s a common misconception that all Northerners say it. The only people I know that have in the past are either very old or from Yorkshire. Of course I know it’s a Northern stereotype but certainly where I’m from it would be seen as a bit anarchic to say dinner/tea for lunch/dinner. My family never used it and it wasn’t used at school either (“dinner ladies” was banned in favour of “Welfare Assistants” or “Lunchtime Supervisors” ) and we had Luncheon or Lunchtime clubs at midday. If a tradesman is popping in round about dinner time locally, it’s accepted it’s around 5/5.30 ish for example. If I asked friends or colleagues what they were having for dinner, they’d refer to their evening meal. And we talk ALOT about food ! It is not a truth universally acknowledged that all Northerners say dinner for lunch ime. Even if we proudly own a whippet and a flat cap .

Having been to LSA a lot I’m surprised Sandgrown didn’t faint from horror at having lunch described as dinner! It’s very much a “ladies who lunch”/“afternoon tea/“supper club” demographic!

Another note, I’ve got a Girl Boss sweatshirt . In my defence, I was freezing and it was the quickest and warmest thing to hand at the shop next to the train station. Shall bin it immediately!

my dh from north wales says dinner for lunch-drives me mad but whatever

Maybe I was being unfair, but my Wales comment was based on the number of English people (for the record, I am English) who giggle when they hear Welsh spoken in Wales, treat it like it's a silly little hobby rather than a living everyday language and, instead of simply accepting that it's not a language they understand and looking past it for the English version, will insist on sneering at it as 'gibberish'.

Wow.

No, I’m not a racist. For what it’s worth, my DH and in-laws are Doric and Gaelic speakers.

Hope that helps .

FFS that’s hilarious - Anarchic = ARCHAIC

Though I’ve now decided when lockdown lifts I’m off to Lytham to incite Anarchy by arriving at The Deacon and saying “IYA! Just stopped in for some dinner, av ya got t’menu? Don’t want owt too filling. We’re off t’buy some black pudding and tattie cakes at t’farm shop after for our tea. Can I tie t’whippet up outside?”

I might even wear my Girl Boss sweatshirt to out the MNers when they make a catsbum face.

Ooft. There’s another.

Not a fan of the old catsbum face expression.

Or “ooft”.

'Twee' is gross.

Guilty of talking silly to my cat, but hopefully not within earshot of others

Agree with them all. Particular bugbears being should of/would of, etc., hashtag anything relating to toxic positivity/stealth boasting, holibobs, famalam, poorly, etc.

Hate all the twee (sorry for use of that word! ) nonsense around baking. Ooh, we've got a soggy bottom here! Ooh, needs to be more moist! Moist is a vile word. As is pantyhose, but thankfully not used here much.

'Awwww bless you'

Supsups is 🤮
Also all these very social media ones famalam, making memories etc - boak.

I used to work somewhere where our secretary only ever referred to her husband as hubby, which I also find very bleurgh. To this day I don't know what he's actually called.

That being said, my DP and I do have all sorts of ridiculous words and phrases that we use just the two of us which anyone else I'm sure would find completely and utterly vomit-inducing - we try very hard to never use them when anyone else is around! (Which is one of my fears for emerging from lockdown actually - finally being around other people, I'm slightly concerned I will refer to household objects etc by our stupid names and forget to talk properly but that's a whole other thread - the things you're worried you'll have forgotten how to behave / how to do when released back into polite society....)

I agree with the PP who said “let’s go Nando’s”. Some people go one step further and say “let’s go Nando’s Friday night”. I thought this was an Americanism, but it might not be. It does remind me of toddler speak.

@contrary13

My ex used to use 'famalam', 'holibobs' and 'bimble' (as in "I'm going for a bimble", meaning "I'm going for a walk").

Our son started to use them when he was young... and I quickly put a stop to it. None of his friends who're of the same class (and it is a class thing, I'm afraid) use the terms and I was worried he'd have the shit ripped out of him if he did. Ex thinks I'm unreasonable - but he's nearer 50 than he is 40, for crying out loud, and referring to a walk as "a bimble" still...!

My father called his grandfather "Gramps". Nothing wrong with that. It's a moniker/term of endearment. In my opinion, it's no different to "Gran", but each to their own (as it ought to be!).

Wow you sound like a delight - "Oooh you must not say that DS, somebody might mistake you for being [whispers] working class!"

Well my 'famalam' is as middle class as they come and we use cutsie & made up words all the time (sometimes indecipherable to others, kind of like a private language). My family growing up was the same - as somebody said upthread, it's a family bonding thing.

Kids know better than to say it at school though they're not daft, so I doubt the 11 year old in question would be going on about 'sup-sups' in the school canteen