Shopping in pyjamas

[radiateforme]

I know, this has been done to death, but just went to the supermarket and saw a full family out shopping in their pyjamas. It's the first time I've actually seen a fully grown adult out in a full set of pj's (dressing gown, pyjama top, pyjama bottoms, fluffy socks and sliders). More curious to know exactly why people find this so unacceptable, because essentially they are just clothes. For me it is just slovenly and lazy. But maybe I'm being too judgemental. Opinions?

Does it really matter?

It takes a few minutes to put on clothes, less effort than going out shopping. I have seen it a few times and it occurs out of place.

My mum would be horrified. Only tarts went outside in their dressing gown and rollers in her day . If I ever forget to put the bin out I put my longest coat over my nightie and wait until there is nobody around to run out.

It’s slovenly. There, I’ve said it.

My mum would be horrified. Only tarts went outside in their dressing gown

Your Mum sounds a delight.

My mum died over 20 years ago but she was brought up in a strict Catholic family with strong views about behaviour. Her aunt turned up one day and my mum was in her dressing gown and her boyfriend had called round. . Her aunt never spoke to her again !

@speakout

My mum would be horrified. Only tarts went outside in their dressing gown

Your Mum sounds a delight.

You missed out the "in her day" part. And it was probably true of women in her day.

women in her day

When was that?

Speakout in the 50s, 60s, 70s. Not that long ago really.

Stratfordplace

I was born in the 60s, my mother was born in the 1930s, and even then calling another woman a tart would be a nasty thing to do.

I’m sorry but for anyone who isn’t unwell (either physically or mentally) or out in some sort of emergency it is just lazy and a bit grim. It takes 5 minutes max to put some clothes on.

We do have certain implicit standards as a society in terms of clothing.

You don't wear white to a wedding if you're not the bride.

You don't wear ripped jeans to a work interview.

You don't wear your swimming costume to school (swimming lessons excluded obviously).

You don't wear Hawaiian t-shirts to a funeral.

You don't wear pyjamas in public and when you go out you should be properly dressed.

No, it doesn't actually hurt anyone if you wear your dressing gown round Sainsbury's or wear an old band t-shirt to work or turn up to a wedding in white.

It's not respectful of those around you however.

A mum and DD of about 8 were in our local shop one day in pink pjs and fluffy dressing gowns.
I thought to myself I bet the DD grows up to always be well dressed as an adult.

@Stonerosie67

I judge. I think it looks really chavvy and grubby.

Same here. Grim.

Beyond a baby in a onesie that is

I've been in the depths of depression and struggled but have always managed to put on clothes to go out. Even if it has taken me hours. My guess is these people don't see it as a problem and honestly don't care what others think. Fair enough but others WILL judge because wearing pyjamas in a shop IS weird.

@Lockheart

We do have certain implicit standards as a society in terms of clothing.

You don't wear white to a wedding if you're not the bride.

You don't wear ripped jeans to a work interview.

You don't wear your swimming costume to school (swimming lessons excluded obviously).

You don't wear Hawaiian t-shirts to a funeral.

You don't wear pyjamas in public and when you go out you should be properly dressed.

No, it doesn't actually hurt anyone if you wear your dressing gown round Sainsbury's or wear an old band t-shirt to work or turn up to a wedding in white.

It's not respectful of those around you however.

Well exactly.

I’m on my way out to a funeral and whilst I could wear some beach attire, a Minnie Mouse dress or my pyjamas. I won’t as it’s not socially acceptable. Same as PJs in the shop. It just looks lazy.

Standards are sliding and continue to slide every year. Historically this would be unheard of. Nowadays people have an attitude that things we used to value are no longer important. We also must not judge others for being slobby, greedy, dowdy etc. Anyone with class wouldn't be seen dead in pyjamas.

Just been to the supermarket and two women doing their shopping in PJs, fluffy dressing gowns and socks, no shoes. This was around 6.30pm. So stylish

That's awful. They wouldn't go into the office like that, you wouldn't turn up to dinner party like that ( or maybe they would) so why do they think it is ok? Its lazy, tacky and inappropriate. Judgemental? OK I will take that but personal standards are slipping. In no way am I saying they should be formally dressed casual is fine but seeing this makes me wonder. They had to get dressed to leave the house so the same way they put on pajamas and a dressing gown the same effort could have been used to put on a jumper some jeans and a coat. If they rolled out of bed, put their dressing gowns on and went out then leaving the house without washing is an even worse issue. In a word inappropriate and gross. Yes I said it. Lack of pride and what message does that send to their children.

@speakout

Stratfordplace

I was born in the 60s, my mother was born in the 1930s, and even then calling another woman a tart would be a nasty thing to do.

Supposing said women really were 'tarts', i.e. prostitutes? Why shouldn't women pass comments about other women - we do about men!

On another note, my mother always got 'dressed up' to to the shops, always in clean clothes, heels, etc. When we went to London shopping, we always wore skirts and heels! It is a shame that standards have dropped SO far - hardly anyone looks smart any more (me included) and I deplore the fact that men don't wear suits any more - I love a man in a suit!

Well if "dropping atandards" means not wearing high heels- then bring it on.

@Speakout - that was an extreme example! I haven't worn high heels for years, not because I don't want to - my feet cannot tolerate them!

Maybe the mother is doing a 'YES' day.
Children can do and where whatever they want (within reason) for one day. They can also dictate what parents wear, do mum's make-up, ice cream for breakfast, takeaway for lunch and cake for dinner.......

I also think this is really chavvy! Im all for a lazy Sunday in PJ'S at home with movies. But it takes two seconds to put a pair of jeans and a tshirt on to pop to the shop 🤷‍♀️

I always see teens at our local co-op running in for chocolate on a Friday evening in their PJ's. It's totally attention seeking if you ask me.

On the other hand; if as a PP stated, it was for comic relief and they were doing a sponsored PJ day - I'd be all for that. Sounds like fun!

A different take on this. (I haven't read the thread yet so this may have already been said.) As someone who suffers from Fibromyalgia, Sciatica and about six different severe mental health conditions, just getting dressed can be like climbing Mount Everest, let alone leaving the house. Pyjamas are much more comfortable for me than regular clothes too.
Being able to wear PJs and a dressing gown outside or on a Zoom call would make the difference between me actually doing those things and not doing them and I imagine many, many people with similar or other health conditions must feel the same. If others do it, we feel we can do it too without the fear of being judged and then we would then be likely go for more walks or more Zoom calls which could help our mental/physical health. In fact, I really really wish wearing PJs and dressing gowns outside could become a thing and I now feel tempted to start some sort of campaign to make this a thing!