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AIBU to warn DD she might get travel sick?

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FireBelliedToad · 18/03/2021 15:45

DD9 is going on a coach trip next week. She has never been on a coach before.

She always hated the car as a baby and as a toddler was often sick in the car. She has got better since she was forward facing; when she was around 4 we would have to break the 35 minute drive into the next city else she would throw up. Now she can manage an hour or two if the roads aren't too winding. The last time we had to stop was in last January (2020) on the way back from our holidays. We've barely been anywhere since then.

I called her teacher to warn her that DD gets travel sick and I'd be sending spare clothes with DS, but not telling DD that he had them incase thinking that she might be sick might make her feel sick.

DH thinks I'm making something out of nothing and I shouldn't have said anything to the teacher and that she'll probably be fine.

The trip is to the neighbouring city 35 mins away.

I bought some sea bands, planning to hand them to the teacher in case required. DD saw them and asked what they were.

When I mentioned to DH that I'd bought some and she'd seen them he said "oh fgs don't you start on her now".

I now don't know if I should say anything else to DD or not. As in tell her what to do if she does feel sick. Show her how to put the bands on before she goes. Suggest she tries to sit near the front of the coach (the teacher said she would try to engineer this).

AIBU to warn DD that she might feel sick?

OP posts:
YukoandHiro · 19/03/2021 09:21

Coaches are sometimes worse because of the lack of ventilation and not being able to see the road ahead. Ask the teacher if she can sit in the front seat. Put the wrist bands on her a minimum of an hour before she has to get on the coach and, as a PP said, tell her it's to stop her feeling sick so she'll have a lovely journey. Give her a snack to eat on the coach

Moirarose2021 · 19/03/2021 09:25

There's no point giving things to the teacher incase she feels sick, it's too late by then. Just give her the tablet before she leaves the house. Your partner sounds odd, if he doesn't want medication, he doesn't need to take any but denying your child is wrong and you would be wrong to go along with it. Stand up for yourself and your child

Spied · 19/03/2021 09:25

I think your dd will pick up on your anxiety and it will cause issues in itself.
Your dd will be chatting with friends, excited about the trip and being on a coach for the first time and very likely would never have thought about feeling sick if you hadn't mentioned it or bought the bands.

YukoandHiro · 19/03/2021 09:26

I do agree with posters saying take the tablets because the thing about the feeling is that if she gets it on the way she'll feel like absolute crap all day as it takes quite a while to wear off

shouldistop · 19/03/2021 09:28

DH has had to pick me off the floor many a time due to period induced vomiting & fainting so has no issue with me being on super strength painkillers for that.

It's awfully kind of your dh that he has no issue with you taking painkillers for painful periods....

Honestly, give her the anti sickness meds. If she's already being picked on she'll never live it down if she's sick everywhere. Your dh has no compassion if he can't see that.

shouldistop · 19/03/2021 09:32

I think your dd will pick up on your anxiety and it will cause issues in itself.
Your dd will be chatting with friends, excited about the trip and being on a coach for the first time and very likely would never have thought about feeling sick if you hadn't mentioned it or bought the bands.

I don't think that's true. My dh gets travel sick unless he's the one driving. I just read this thread out to him and he physically winced and said he used to hate travelling on coaches for school trips. He's sociable, lots of friends and would have been excited about the trips themselves.
I don't suffer from travel sickness thankfully but I doubt it's mind over matter. I had terrible nausea / sickness in pregnancy and nothing took my mind off it.

Silvercatowner · 19/03/2021 16:10

It's not nice for the adults in charge having to deal with vomiting children.

katy1213 · 19/03/2021 16:15

Why do you have to run ever minor decision past him?

WhoWants2Know · 19/03/2021 16:50

I have a puker. That's what they make travel sickness tablets and bands for!

PoptartPoptart · 19/03/2021 19:10

”I think your dd will pick up on your anxiety and it will cause issues in itself.
Your dd will be chatting with friends, excited about the trip and being on a coach for the first time and very likely would never have thought about feeling sick if you hadn't mentioned it or bought the bands”

So you think travel sickness is all in the mind?
Think again.
It is a very real and genuine condition for some people.

InglouriousBasterd · 19/03/2021 19:16

DD gets horribly travel sick so she knows any trip is a risk - surely your DD knows if it happens regularly? She takes the travel tablets and knows to face forward, not read, keep cool. I think it’s worth reminding her of this - although I always say to DD now that she’ll be fine as she’s had antisickness tablets, which reassures her and she hasn’t puked since she started taking them.

Coaches can be awful - I accompanied a school trip a couple of years ago and so many kids threw up, and I wasn’t far off!

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