To just be SO BORED in the evenings?

[Athenaena]

As title.

DH and I have just ended up going to bed every night at 9/9.30 the last couple of weeks (even on the bloody weekend!) we struggle to find things to watch on TV that we both enjoy. We’ll find a series and then binge watch because it’s something that we both actually like. Then we’re back to square one.

Honestly, I’m just so bored in the evenings now. I’m fed up of winter, at least if it was summer we could be sat out in the garden with the chimnea of an evening, or go for a nice evening walk somewhere, or if in normal times, out to dinner/ cinema/ have friends over.

I’m just so fed up of sitting in every.single.evening. It’s like Groundhog Day. We’re both fed up and by the time 9pm comes round we don’t have anything else to say to one another as neither of us are really doing anything/ seeing anyone atm, therefore going to bed just seems like the best option.

Anyone else starting to feel similar?

Baby keeps us busy tbh.

But have started ‘date night’ on Fridays. Dh and I make a themed dinner together, wine, set table up fancy... it’s nice. Baby often crawling around still but it’s fine

I like a nice evening bath also if baby plays ball and goes to sleep around 8pm. Nice long bath with music, candles, tea.

I find I haven’t patience for tv that often now tbh. If I find a good series I will do the same and binge watch evenings for a few days/ weeks until it’s finished, then I lose interest and wait another few weeks before starting something new

You need a hobby that can be done online

Good idea for some but that isn't the answer for me. I'm online all bloody day looking at a laptop screen on Teams call. The last thing I want to do in the evenings is go back online whether for a hobby or a Zoom call...

Not exactly what I am doing to be fair, but starting some kind of project is probably a good way to pass the time, and see the progression.

Knitting, upcycling something, building something... the list is endless.

I was looking at an article about an artist who just painted her entire house during the lockdown - painting, as in decorated with intricate designs, including her stairs.

she wasn't bored.

Same story here. Sitting around, drinking tea or wine, watching random stuff and reading. But getting very bored of it.

Mind numbing agree. Only so many dog walks.. I walked once week but the girls didnt commit to start it up.

Yep I agree OP.

Hard to find anything to enjoy or look forward to at the moment. Have gained so much weight from takeaways being the only thing I actually do look forward to.

My DP is one of those people who always has the TV on in the background as well, which I hate, so I feel like I've got TV coming out of my ears. We both wfh all day every day at the moment so it's non-stop.

Life just feels like work, bed, back to work at the moment.

It's not as simple as finding hobbies as some people suggest. I love reading. I love watching movies. I enjoy cooking. I just don't want to do them all the time. I want to go swimming. I want to have a wander round the shops and have a coffee, I want to go to a restaurant, meet a friend for a glass of wine, go to an art gallery or a museum, get a train to the coast.....

I love my home and I love staying in. But not all the time!

I’m bored as well. I used to love the time I had after work before DP got home to chill out watching trash tv and making dinner. Now he’s here all the bloody time and it feels like the evenings go on forever.

I’ve taken to leaving him watching TV and having a bubble bath every night and reading my book just to pass the time. We also bought some new games to play together which are nice at the weekend. We may have a slight addiction to the monopoly card game

I love my home and I love staying in. But not all the time!

My home is my favourite place to stop over between holidays as far as I am concerned. This lockdown is miserable.

But yes, it's about finding hobbies. Life is short. The point is not to look back and realise you wasted an entire year feeling miserable or not accomplishing anything.

Evenings are so dull. I'm looking forward to getting the babysitter over and then going out for dinner or drinks at the pub with friends.

@joanna67

It's not as simple as finding hobbies as some people suggest. I love reading. I love watching movies. I enjoy cooking. I just don't want to do them all the time. I want to go swimming. I want to have a wander round the shops and have a coffee, I want to go to a restaurant, meet a friend for a glass of wine, go to an art gallery or a museum, get a train to the coast.....

I love my home and I love staying in. But not all the time!

I think this sentiment sums it up well for me. What good is a new hobby or learning a new skill if you're still doing it in the same 4 walls (user name irony intended).

What good is a new hobby or learning a new skill if you're still doing it in the same 4 walls

when the alternative is to do nothing and be miserable within the same 4 walls, it's better than nothing

Yes bored too and SO bored of my house. I feel very restless at the moment.

@earthyfire I hate my house these days, used to love it but it gets right on my pip now.

when the alternative is to do nothing and be miserable within the same 4 walls, it's better than nothing

But there's no garuntee it will make you less miserable. Will learning spanish or how to crochet for example make me any less bored and fed up than watching mindless crap on netflix. If I'm good at the new skill then yes it will probably give me a positive boost if I struggle then chances are its going to make me feel even worse.

But there's no garuntee it will make you less miserable.

it does make you less bored

Looking back and having nothing to show off for the previous months or year does depress me.

Oh yes, 100% this except that husband goes to work all day and is too knackered to talk or watch anything in the evenings and just wants his own space for a bit, which I totally get. I go to bed early and read or watch something on my own. It's too much of a drag to stay up in the lounge on my own. Glad it's not just me feeling like this. It's like in December when the period from 4-8pm just went on for what felt like days! Now it feels really long and draggy because it's lighter longer but still chilly, and on those evenings when we might fancy a walk and a pint, well - that's not happening, is it! I felt like this a year ago too when everything shut down. We'd just moved in (luckily!) so had no broadband or anything, no furniture to speak of - I was in bed at 7 every night! It will get better once things open up. Everything feel hard now, and every little niggle is amplified. Chin up!

I’m amazed people really do watch telly all night, every night. I stopped in 2015 (still watch about 4 hours Netflix a week snd maybe 1 film) but hours of telly every night sounds incredibly dull. Couldn’t you:
Look for Podcast
Books- there’s literally millions
Films
Hobbies- start one?
Duo lingo
Phone a friend
Netflix, IPlayer
Progress your career/ qualifications?

We are just out walking every night to break the night up otherwise it’s sooo boring!!!

I'm bored but content. Shattered on an evening but physically tired rather than sleepy.
And I love TV, not gonna lie!

I could have written your post it applies so exactly.

Nope, there’s loads to do, I generally read, I’m doing some free OU courses, I do yoga online 2xper week and online exercise classes, call my family and friends. Listen to my son read, look up interesting documentaries on you tube.

DH watches some stuff on TV does exercise etc

dS has a couple of online classes a week, FaceTimes his friends, plays online with them.

Weekends we’ve been doing similar, going for walks to the supermarket, cleaning etc

I'm so bored - for most of last year we stayed with our parents/in laws as they had more space, so I didn't get so bored as there were more people to interact with, we each had different shows or activities we did together, it was summer so we could go out in the evenings etc. But we moved to our new place in early January and I'm already bored of the evenings - I look forward to finishing work all day then think 'but what on earth am I going to do this evening except watch another episode of xyz'. I'm madly planning all the social things I'm going to do once it's allowed and getting in all my friends' diaries as a way of getting through this...

Yup I’m feeling this too- it’s killing my motivation as well. Even my desire to read and stuff seems stalled.

I live alone and although I go out to work I have turned into a sloth. Its freezing cold here, I can't be bothered to do any of my previously riveting hobbies - I've had a half spray painted dollshouse on the kitchen floor for the last three months (I make them), my usual social life has gone because of lockdown.
I just get my PJs on and quite often just get into bed and veg all evening.
I've got my new cat coming easter weekend so hopefully that will jerk me out of my chronic inertia.