To just be SO BORED in the evenings?

[Athenaena]

As title.

DH and I have just ended up going to bed every night at 9/9.30 the last couple of weeks (even on the bloody weekend!) we struggle to find things to watch on TV that we both enjoy. We’ll find a series and then binge watch because it’s something that we both actually like. Then we’re back to square one.

Honestly, I’m just so bored in the evenings now. I’m fed up of winter, at least if it was summer we could be sat out in the garden with the chimnea of an evening, or go for a nice evening walk somewhere, or if in normal times, out to dinner/ cinema/ have friends over.

I’m just so fed up of sitting in every.single.evening. It’s like Groundhog Day. We’re both fed up and by the time 9pm comes round we don’t have anything else to say to one another as neither of us are really doing anything/ seeing anyone atm, therefore going to bed just seems like the best option.

Anyone else starting to feel similar?

We have binge watched everything from The Good Wife

Where is this on? @Knitterbabe

We have 3 dcs and jobs so we are generally really busy all the time. However now all of our dcs are finally sleeping through and after almost 8 years of frequent night wakes and having to be up and down all night me and my dh are absolutely loving this new phase of being able to actually chill in the evenings!!!!
It's fabulous and is just not getting old and being able to go to bed and actually sleep is also amazing so yea it's all about what you are used to!!! I run a few times a week and have lots of hobbies from pre kids that we'll gradually pick up again once we gave caught up a bit on the years of sleep deprivation. I absolutely love our evenings though but that's because we had years of having to go to bed v early in order to vs able to function the next day or also up and down settling kids so we are just enjoying the novelty of chilling on the couch again as we can't do it during the day.

Try reading - you'll never run of of books!!

Sigh. Some people don't like reading, some people find it tedious.

I used to love reading. I find it just as tedious as everything else now. I've three books I really want to read at the moment, but I sit all day at a desk, I really don't want to sit all evening reading.

At least in the UK you have hope of things opening, I'm in Ireland and there's no roadmap at all just constant reference to that very little will change in the coming weeks. A lot of plp I know here are beginning to really struggle. We have a very harsh lockdown too , schools just back and can't go further than 5km from our houses.

@PattyPan

Yabu, tv is not the only thing to do. Get a hobby, read a book, play a game, learn a language/skill etc. We have no tv and aren’t bored! We read, play instruments, do exercise, I’m doing an online course, we zoom friends etc.

So many hobbies and so so busy that you have no time for empathy. Go you! Busy bee.

TBH my life pre-Covid wasn't so different... I'm not a big socialiser. I'd occasionally meet up with a friend or small group for dinner and/or cinema, theatre or an exhibition (which are the things I'm really missing), but I don't drink and would rarely go to a pub or anything. I didn't tend to do much exercise in the evenings either.

Honestly, by the time I've downed work tools for the day, thought about/shopped for dinner and done a couple of things like laundry/tidying/general life-sorting, all I want to do is chat to DP and the lodger over dinner and then lounge in front of the box. I always find plenty to watch. And bed at 10 with a good book and a herbal tea is my idea of a good time too.

I know, it's tragic. But true.

@Arrowheart just pointing out that there are plenty of things you can still do. I think a lot of people get sucked into just watching tv by default and tv is boring, so that would be understandable. But no one has to just sit and twiddle their thumbs all evening. It’s not a binary between going out or being bored. I don’t see how a group moan about how crap life is makes anyone feel better.

I'm not bored. But I am having to think of something interesting every evening. I can't seem to relax now, I'm done with that. I'm done with quiet evenings in and am getting increasingly fed up of coming up with interesting things to do. It'd be nice to look forward to a quiet night in . .. again.

I've been learning Spanish using Duolingo. It is very gamified, like an educational candy crush. It is in no way the same as chatting with a Spanish speaker.

I was just thinking this morning that even my dreams have become boring, I lack new experiences and stimuli.

I'm longing for pubs and restaurants to reopen and the cinema. I met friends at least twice a week in the evenings pre covid. Now I'm wfh and have nothing to say to DH in the evenings … we've turned into one of those couples who talk about weather and traffic.

Oh and I'm absolutely sick of 'going for a walk'.

I'm actually concerned that I've lost social skills during this pandemic and when I'm allowed out again I'll be mute.

TBH my life pre-Covid wasn't so different... grin I'm not a big socialiser.

We're kind of the same, but finding it hard that we can't do stuff on the occasions that we might want to.

@MintyMabel

Try reading - you'll never run of of books!!

Sigh. Some people don't like reading, some people find it tedious.

I used to love reading. I find it just as tedious as everything else now. I've three books I really want to read at the moment, but I sit all day at a desk, I really don't want to sit all evening reading.

Fair enough - it was just a suggestion!

I sit at a desk all day looking at a screen which is why I have no desire to watch TV on an evening. I've not watched anything for months!

Oh and I'm absolutely sick of 'going for a walk'.

twitter.com/paulanthjones/status/1351555106882392066?s=20

Yep same here. WFH all day. Walk dogs. Make dinner. Watch news on tv. Then shower pjs and bed. Usually by 8pm. Listen to audio book and make a list for work tasks. Sleep. So dull.

We’ll find a series and then binge watch

You are clearly not binge watching properly if you are going to bed so early.....you need to be looking at each other at 1.30am and saying "Shit, we shouldn't have watched that last episode...it is now really late...but fuck it....there is only one left in this season...so shall we do it now anyway?"

I'm not bored, but to keep me from going bonkers I listen to a lot of audio books. I can potter around at the same time.
I also have a needlepoint on the go, a cross stitch I want to start, lots of jigsaws, and I run (that tends to be earlier, but pushes back the regular housework so I'm occupied in the evening).
I read in bed and am nearly on level 4000 on Candy Crush

Most of my hobbies are outside the home, so I have taken up exercising and watching rubbish TV at least I feel that I have done something productive.

The lockdown is nearly over, start planning BBQs and gatherings. Look beyond this week, the 29th is almost here!!! We are through the worst, the end is very much in sight

@MintyMabel love that

My son has a PS4 and I’ve recently started playing on one of his games for maybe 45 mins or an hour in an evening. It’s a platform game (sonic type game) and it keeps me entertained for a bit. It’s just a bit of a change for an hour.
I started doing this because I was so bloody bored!!

What about playing cards with your DH. I have to bribe my DH with wine/beer/gin as he’s not a big fan of cards but will play occasionally to keep me quiet as I really enjoy it

Sounds just like us @Athenaena Sick of being bored all the time.

@ClearMountain Solidarity. I'd love to have time to be bored in the evening.

I'm with you. Ignore all the the 'but get a hobby, read, blah blah blah' brigade.

Life is very boring right now and many of us lack motivation. Between work, volunteering and two kids I've no motivation left.

I'm single and trying to do OLD, but even then no one seems to have anything to say.

Roll on sunny days and being able to go out and see people.

I agree. Every day feels like Groundhog Day atm . Could you take up a craft? I started making papercuts last summer and then I taught myself to crochet in September. Sometimes I’ll have Netflix or the radio on in the background.

There are some amazingly supportive crochet groups on Facebook and the things you can make nowadays are just amazing . Not granny like at all .