Making Love

[ProcrastinationIsMySuperPower]

My DH insists that the term "making love" is romantic.

I think it's cringe-y and old-fashioned. I think having sex is just that, why call it something else?

Really interested to get some other opinions... Also hoping to prove DH wrong (in a totally light hearted way).

So - YABU - Making love is oh so romantic
YANBU - call it what it is!!

Not DH but a previous boyfriend once corrected me whilst I was trying to do a bit of dirty talking. We were snogging and it was all getting a bit hot and heavy and I suggested he might like to fuck me but he was all affronted, pulled his head back, held my face in his hands, looked deep into my eyes and said he would never fuck me but he did want to make love to me.
I'm afraid it totally killed the mood for me. I didn't want to be adored tbh I just fancied a good shag.

making love is a bit Barry White

@Easterbunnygettingready

Recent thread heard a ndn call it having his pipes cleared....

😂😂

I think the idea is sweet as it says he doesn’t see you as a quick shag ONS and that’s it’s much more special.....but still makes me bowk

This thread is hilarious - although I never realised I knew all of the words to ‘I Swear’ until this earworm started

I sort of get the idea that 'make love' might indicate slower more emotional sex. It's not that I don't have that kind of sex or don't want to have it (sometimes) but the idea of a man setting out to 'make love' to me does kind of conjure up satin sheets, Barry White and a general self conscious, trying too hard to be romantic vibe that really doesn't do it for me.
If it's going to be slow and passionate then actions speak louder than words there is no need to telegraph your exact intentions.
I think it's the make love TO you thing that I don't like either. Like it's going to be done to you rather than be something you do together.

Shag immediately makes me think of that old show Two pints of larger and a packet of crisps, with Sheridan Smith.
As a teen i remember a lad telling everyone we slept together, because we literally slept in the same bed.
Everyone in my friend group in school called it boinking haha, boffing sounds like vomit.

All this fuss about how to describe a good knobbing!

Although I think the worst I've heard was a bloke eyeing up an attractive girl: "Phwoar! I could do that some damage!"

I’ve just realised what my husband says...

It started as a joke, but now a proposition of sex is ‘you're on top’.

Nob!

Extreme snuggles here

How about "mating"?

OH will message me during the day saying I'm going to fuck you stupid later or you're so getting it tonight he has never once said to me I'm going to make love to you.

"Comrade Wobbly hides his helmet"
Young Ones/Alexi Sayle reference, anyone? Or am I the only old one around here?

Mmmm now I'm going to go against the grain a bit on this one! I'll start by saying that if someone told me they wanted to make love to me I would instantly feel sick!
But I also think there are times when you fuck and times you 'make love' in that sometimes it's like a horny getting your needs met action and sometimes it can be an expression of your feelings and something more than the meeting of body parts!

I don’t mind making love, if used sparingly. I don’t like shag (or snog). Bleurgh.

I had an ex who sometimes called it “the process”. Condoms could enhance the process, apparently. He also said our relationship had the potential to grow into something amazing ... like a basil plant

I quite like the term Rutting.
All sex is so different (hopefully!) why not have different terms for different kinds.

Does no one “get their leg over” anymore!?

We mostly say “doing it”. Sometimes “are you going to take clothes off/get naked.”

Would have posted sooner but was laughing too hard at @Sunshinesky1981's story to do so. Dear God!

Isn't there a bit in Pride and Prejudice where Mr Bennett says of Mr Wickham, "He simpers and smirks and makes love to us all"? Meaning must have changed somewhat...

@Wishingwell75
🤣🤣🤣...Jesus effing Christ!!

My ex before my DH used to call it "Snuglly Wuggly" but amazingly it was the hottest sex I've ever had.

I think he was in some sort of denial...

Am I the only one who likes it? I think it's romantic, a lot better than the usual 'fuck'

If Marilyn Monroe sang the original song to you, wouldn't you...um...want to give her one?

Cripes no. That scene appears regularly on my Instagram suggestions and I always hurriedly skip. The poor woman was at the end of the line mentally and it showed - she looked about ten years older than she was. Whenever I see it I just think she ended her life soon after.

Agree OP, the term 'making love' feels cringy to me (though I don't judge others for saying it).

I would probably say ' going to bed with each other' in most situations (although have been known to say 'rubbing uglies' for laughs when in less polite company ).

@NomDePrune

It's cringey to me - but when we first met DP would say "when can we be intimate?"

Which is much much worse as I'm sure you'll all agree, so I have accepted his use of "make love" as a compromise

Yikes!

@Ippygirl

Just imagine if your other half says - “how about some rumpy pumpy”?! That’s what I have to put up with....

I was just reading an Agatha Raisin where that phrase was bandied about quite a bit.