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Why do people need to show off gifts on Facebook?

362 replies

1AngelicFruitCake · 14/03/2021 12:16

I don’t get it. Lovely seeing photos of people with Mums, messages etc. But why brag ‘I’ve been spoilt with my many presents’ then post photos of them? It just screams ‘Look at me!’ which I know Facebook is all about that but come on, it’s so needy!

YABU-people should put photos of their presents
YANBU-there’s no need to post photos of your presents

OP posts:
LucieStar · 14/03/2021 23:24

@SchrodingersImmigrant

It will be Easter eggs next month😁 "Who needs to post pics of all the easter eggs fgs🙄 hello! Mid of pandemic, obesity crisis, nhs❤️. So insensitive. My DH was killed by an Easter egg when it fell of the wardrobe onto him! So insensitive. Shsme on you"

😂😂

Blockedoff · 15/03/2021 05:29

@peak2021
If they are an expensive present or show off something else of value in the photo, a nice invitation to a burglar

You've been watching too many reruns of Heartbeat! Grin

garlictwist · 15/03/2021 05:55

That's what social media is for - showing off. I have hidden every single person on my Facebook so I don't see anything now and only use it for groups and messages. It's very refreshing.

Rimmer08 · 15/03/2021 05:55

@NerrSnerr

Mother's Day is a difficult day for so many people for so many different reasons. Everyone knows this and many people share posts about it being tough. I think the gushing Mother's Day posts can be really insensitive (and pointless when the person isn't even on Facebook). I know many don't agree with me but I think you should do it all in person. Give them a call and tell them or thank them in person. Saves the risk of causing upset for others.
Completely agree. I do not post the things I get/ do on Mother’s Day as I know there are people on my social media who have suffered losses or have a difficult relationship with their parents. I tend to talk about what I got / did with my best friends instead via text .
AStar1994 · 15/03/2021 06:05

FFS, I get so sick of these threads Hmm As somebody who has low self esteem and lack of self confidence... It makes me happy to post on Facebook such trivial little things that I'm proud of and happy with.

Tomorrow I'm sharing a memory of when I had to leave my job 3 years ago along with picture of the leaving gifts I got because those gifts meant the world to me. What people post has fuck all to do with you. There are these 4 magic buttons called Block, Unfriend, Unfollow and Snooze

Leave people alone. Honestly, this place!

gingganggooleywotsit · 15/03/2021 06:47

I agree op it’s tacky and boastful.

LucieStar · 15/03/2021 07:29

@AStar1994

FFS, I get so sick of these threads Hmm As somebody who has low self esteem and lack of self confidence... It makes me happy to post on Facebook such trivial little things that I'm proud of and happy with.

Tomorrow I'm sharing a memory of when I had to leave my job 3 years ago along with picture of the leaving gifts I got because those gifts meant the world to me. What people post has fuck all to do with you. There are these 4 magic buttons called Block, Unfriend, Unfollow and Snooze

Leave people alone. Honestly, this place!

👏🏻👏🏻
SoupDragon · 15/03/2021 08:00

I avoid this problem by only having people I like as friends on Facebook.

LucieStar · 15/03/2021 08:32

@SoupDragon

I avoid this problem by only having people I like as friends on Facebook.

So do I. It's surprisingly easy once you get the hang of it. Grin

PhatPhanny · 15/03/2021 08:33

Its up to others what they post, you can hide people from your time line if it bothers you

SchrodingersImmigrant · 15/03/2021 08:44

@SoupDragon

I avoid this problem by only having people I like as friends on Facebook.
I can vouch for that strategy😂
Livelovebehappy · 15/03/2021 08:46

Reason why most people I know, no longer use Facebook. It’s just used as a bragging wall, a lot of which is exaggerated anyway. It used to bug me too, which is why I’m no longer on it. If it bothers you, just remove yourself from that paticular platform, or be a bit choosier about who you have on there as ‘friends’.

lljkk · 15/03/2021 08:46

If posting pics of your nice life events is tacky & boastful... what should be posted on Facebook?

Friend recently posted a lot about his cancer diagnosis & impending chemo. Is it tacky & boastful if he boasts about full remission in 5 yrs time especially if includes anything nice he does to celebrate -- or not simply because he "suffered" first?

LucieStar · 15/03/2021 08:59

@lljkk

If posting pics of your nice life events is tacky & boastful... what should be posted on Facebook?

Friend recently posted a lot about his cancer diagnosis & impending chemo. Is it tacky & boastful if he boasts about full remission in 5 yrs time especially if includes anything nice he does to celebrate -- or not simply because he "suffered" first?

Thanks for your friend.

Someone on here would no doubt find a way to make it "boastful".

Honestly I have no idea why some people use an online platform designed to allow you to see others' lives, then come here to complain that they're sick of seeing others' lives online. 🤦🏼‍♀️

LucieStar · 15/03/2021 09:00

@Blockedoff

@peak2021 If they are an expensive present or show off something else of value in the photo, a nice invitation to a burglar

You've been watching too many reruns of Heartbeat! Grin

😂
SchrodingersImmigrant · 15/03/2021 09:03

@lljkk

If posting pics of your nice life events is tacky & boastful... what should be posted on Facebook?

Friend recently posted a lot about his cancer diagnosis & impending chemo. Is it tacky & boastful if he boasts about full remission in 5 yrs time especially if includes anything nice he does to celebrate -- or not simply because he "suffered" first?

I agree with pp. Someone here would bloody well moan about it.🙄

Hope he will keep celebrating for a VERY long time!

FearlessSwiftie · 15/03/2021 09:22

It doesn't bother me, many people use social media as their own photo albums and places to store their memories in, I'm fine with that. if I don't enjoy the content from any of my friends, I just unfollow them or hide their posts from the timeline and I know that some people also hide my updates. Frankly speaking, I find it somewhat sweet when my friends share pictures of the presents I got them or post smartshow 3d videos that I've sent to them on their Birtdays, etc. It just looks nice to me but everyone is different [flower]

FearlessSwiftie · 15/03/2021 09:23

*Flowers

FearlessSwiftie · 15/03/2021 09:24

@SchrodingersImmigrant

It will be Easter eggs next month😁 "Who needs to post pics of all the easter eggs fgs🙄 hello! Mid of pandemic, obesity crisis, nhs❤️. So insensitive. My DH was killed by an Easter egg when it fell of the wardrobe onto him! So insensitive. Shsme on you"
That made me laugh out loud, thanks!
LagunaBubbles · 15/03/2021 09:29

To be honest, I think less of people who do such blatant showing off ‘look at my pile of presents’, just like I would if do if they did it in real life

And Im sure they will really care about that. Hmm

Will never understand why some people on MN seem to care so much about what others post on their own FB, but its been at least a week since there has been a FB bashing post.

ekidmxcl · 15/03/2021 09:31

If you use Facebook, then you will see this kind of shit. Facebook is a narcissist’s paradise and I suggest you delete it. I am utterly gobsmacked that so many people use it.

B33Fr33 · 15/03/2021 09:35

Because they are shallow and materialistic people easily impressed by stuff and they associate stuff with affection and status.

greeneyedlulu · 15/03/2021 09:36

@lljkk

Why can't you gals just be happy for your friends who are having a nice day? Their nice day isn't why your day is bad or good. Sheesh.

I have no idea why you keep someone in your facebook feed if you dislike what they say. If you can't be happy for them, you aren't actually a 'friend' are you.

Totally agree!
ginghamstarfish · 15/03/2021 09:43

From my limited experience of FB, isn't that what it's for? I have in the past joined groups related to sewing etc, thinking it would be good to share links, suppliers, news etc, but it all seems to be people posting photos of the parcel of fabrics they have just received, talking about how much they spend on them, photos of them wearing said fabrics made up. Nice for them but not very useful or helpful to anyone else. I don't bother any more.

BogRollBOGOF · 15/03/2021 09:45

I do a lot of scrolling by on mother's day and father's day. My own parental relationships are complicated and yes it's my issue that some years a great string of extravagant posts can sting a bit.
DH is not imaginative in the celebrations department so there's not much to flash off in our household, but I love the handmade cards by the children the best and am happy with some token acknowledgement.

Yesterday was a bit better than usual as the more lavish end of champagne breakfasts type celebration didn't happen and what was shared was more personal and less corporate.

I'm not generally churlish at people showing off nice things and usually enjoy seeing holidays, new cars, things that people do. But my family history is something that I can't change and have had minimal choices about.