BOF's Big Bucket List Trip To Anglesey! *MNHQ editing title to say that there is some very sad news contained in this thread. Sending love to all*

[BitOfFun]

AIBU to ask for some help planning this?

I've been on mumsnet almost forever, and it's my go-to place for wisdom, help and advice. I don't really have a long time alive, as my cancer treatment has stopped working, so I'm hoping that some of you can help me plan a trip to Anglesey, so that I've seen somewhere that isn't these four walls during my Liverpool Lockdown!

I don't want to go much further afield, as I would feel better being easily accessible to medical care if necessary. The plan is to hire a car with my husband, who'll drive, and stay a night or two in B&Bs, taking in some coastal views and sunsets.

I'd love to trawl antique shops.
I'd like to take the dog, if possible, though this isn't really essential.
Outdoors is good, but I'll have to use a wheelchair for more than short distances.
I like the idea of "hidden gems" in terms of places to visit (who doesn't?) but comfort is good too.
I'll wait for the weather to warm up a bit, so in a few weeks is fine (I hope!).

I don't want to annoy anybody, but I'd like to use this thread for a bit of support and encouragement, and keep bumping it for more ideas and suggestions.so I can make this trip as special as possible. As Anglesey isn't all that far from where I live, I could split the trip into a few parts.

So, can you help? AIBU?

[quote Blondeshavemorefun]@SunshineCake thank you

Still seems a lifetime since dh was here but also no time at all

But

I met a wonderful man 9mths later, without even looking. Just happened , kissed , after wine lol

Moved in together 6mths later , years of ttc and 4 failed ivf , Engaged 3yrs later, should have got married may 2020, then last weekend and now July 2021

But the 5th ivf worked , we have our miracle daughter baby blondes, now toddler blondes who starts school sept

Life is good, miss dh but life goes on. Has to

Sorry for derail on bof thread x[/quote]
That is lovely to read

[quote Reality]It’s very touching to see so many people who didn’t know her wanting to donate in her memory.

Could I gently direct you towards one of the hospices that looked after her?

www.woodlandshospice.org/donate-to-us[/quote]
I agree with Reality that a hospice donation is the way to go, however lovely (and it truly is) the wreath idea would be.

Fuuuuuck, I see this moved on (though I did laugh at “griefwankingtourist” )

@FunnysInLaJardin

am loving Grief Wanking Tourists.

Ah this is so apt that this thread feels like mumsnet of yesteryear, with proper grown up conversation and humour and at the risk of being accused of being a royaltyesque arse licker, some of the old names I haven't come across for years

[wistful]

[just looking for pointy brackets, which I couldn't find and remembered scottishmummys hatred of pointy wee brackets]

I do coding at work, so have to use them all the time and every single time without fail my brain goes "creepy wee brackets" 😂

Lovely to read your update Blondes. I remember when your DH died. So pleased you found such happiness. And congratulations on your IVF miracle.

It’s lovely to see old names on this thread. I’ve been around for years - was Buda.

I keep thinking about BOF’s DDs. I hope they are ok. It’s never easy to lose your mum.

Buda! I wondered where you were. I knew you'd changed your name but couldn't remember what it was

@AmazingBouncingFerret

That’s the nicest kind of derail Blondes.

I second this.

As others have said, either donate to the hospice or to Woolly Hugs. If you have any other ideas, ask yourself very sternly, if you are doing this for Bee, or for your potentially griefwanking self, if you weren’t one of her close friends.

Wow some real old timers on here. How lovely. Look forward to contributing to a hug.

@BIWI

Buda! I wondered where you were. I knew you'd changed your name but couldn't remember what it was

Oh thanks BIWI! Nice to be remembered like that. I see you around often.

Baby Blondes is going to school this year? I knew you'd had a baby but no idea she was so grown up already . Mind you, I've been on here since pregnant with my youngest and he is 16 next month .

It is great to see so many people from days gone by.

Blondes, I saw on FB that she was starting school. That’s bonkers. FeralBoy LEAVES school on the 28th to start college in September. He’s fucking 16. I’m convinced my baby is still in there behind the nirvana records and doc martens

Don't worry all, I've been well and truly told, I won't be getting any wreath, feel like a right utter gobshite!

As for being called a grief wanker tourist, I think that's desperately unfair, it was just an idea with no malice or hurt intended,

I'm really sorry to hear this news. I didn't "know" BOF but always recognised her name and knew that we had the same outlook and values and so enjoyed her posts.

My condolences to her family if you're reading this

That’s so lovely to hear Blondes. The nicest of derails

Chicchicchicchiclana

Yes, Ive have also spent the last few days reading most of my message thread with Bee going back years. I think it’s lovely that they’re sitting there .

@Lissiel0u

It is great to see so many people from days gone by.

I assumed a lot of the old posters had left as I hadn't seen them about, so it's good to see some familiar names, though I wish it wasn't because of something so sad. I used to be MurderOfGoths/Kaloki

@MedusasBadHairDay I did leave, but it felt more appropriate to pay my respects here.

I remember you! How are things?

@fightingirish

Don't worry all, I've been well and truly told, I won't be getting any wreath, feel like a right utter gobshite!

As for being called a grief wanker tourist, I think that's desperately unfair, it was just an idea with no malice or hurt intended,

Please don't feel bad. You wanted to do a nice thing and BOF clearly wanted to meet up with you. While I think some of the things said were quite forthright I also think they had a point but that doesn't mean I want you feel awful. You wanted to do a nice thing and have graciously accepted it isn't what BOF would have wanted. Take care.

Ah BoF, RIP.
Condolences to her family and friends.

Lovely derail Blondes!

It’s going to feel like a proper tribute if there are lots of posters, lots of sadness and fond recollections, a ruckus, a few deletions, some old timers turning up, chats about mumsnet royalty before someone flounces and someone else heads off to start a ‘who is your favourite mumsnetter’ thread
If we could then get the thread frozen, Justine turn up to sort it out and finally the boxroom troll unveil themselves as Jason Manford

That’s would be fitting

@fightingirish

Don't worry all, I've been well and truly told, I won't be getting any wreath, feel like a right utter gobshite!

As for being called a grief wanker tourist, I think that's desperately unfair, it was just an idea with no malice or hurt intended,

Hey, fightingirish, it was a marvellous thing you were going to do for BoF to make her Anglesey trip the best it could be. Don’t feel bad that your gesture isn’t what her close friends think is appropriate. The hospice and Woolly Hugs legacies will be long lasting and wide ranging, that’s all.

Pagwatch
Don’t forget the “it was better back in the day”
All we need is Cod’s artful misspellings of various insults and swear words.

I will be digging out my crochet hook as soon as K&P request.