To think hairdressers should try to make you feel good?

[Opal93]

Writing this thinking of how much I miss my hairdresser 😭 I’ve finally found one who does exactly what I ask and when I leave I feel really good. I can’t wait to finally go! But before I found her, I went to many who seemed to think insulting you is somehow a good business tactic! I also hate it when they begin to criticise the cut/colour you currently have. I once went to one and she said “your roots are a disgrace” erm, that’s what I’m paying you for! What’s your best and worst experiences of the hairdressers and are you excited to finally go after lockdown?

For the first time in my life, I actually look forward to going to the salon. My stylist knows what I like and has really helped me with suggestions. However I choose to finish my hair, she does a smashing job and I leave the salon swishing my hair like I'm in an advert lol!

I'm desperate for salons to re-open. I've been (badly) trimming my fringe meantime. Hope I haven't overdone it.

I cut my own now, I moved away from my lovely hairdresser! To a place where there's only one option and she's awful, I stuck it out for two hair cuts and always came out feeling awful after lots of snide remarks, so I do my own now.

Two bad experiences of hairdressers here but for different reasons..

Bumped into someone I knew and she said she had set up mobile hairdressing.I asked how she managed with having two little kids.She said her friend Julie looks after them.
I made an appointment to have my hair permed....long time ago.

Hairdresser turns up with her two young kids.I say couldnt your friend look after them today.Told Julie will be here in a minute.
Julie turns up with her own two kids and had been to the chippy on her way.
By the time they all left my house was a mess and full of greasy finger marks....never again.

I help out with an elderley neighbour.
I had arranged to meet a new mobile hairdresser there,let her in etc.
She finished my neighbours hair and asked for payment.
Soon as my neighbour payed the hairdresser handed her her childs sponsor form.
I handed it back.

Hairdresser turns up with her two young kids.I say couldnt your friend look after them today.Told Julie will be here in a minute.
Julie turns up with her own two kids and had been to the chippy on her way.
By the time they all left my house was a mess and full of greasy finger marks....never again.

OMG! 😅

Quote fail there!

I haven't been in a hairdresser's for 20 years, I found I was good at cutting my own hair once I went short.
My old hairdresser was great, in my early 20's I had a Louise Brooks syle of bob. She cut it really well but always insisted on drying it and rolling it under with a brush. I used to leave the salon looking like a Lego woman.
I used to let her do it because it was relaxing and I always went home and washed it again anyway.

@HeathIns
Defo had our wires crossed,never thought the babysitting was actually taking part in my house/or other clients.I bet that bussiness didn;t last long. Not relaxing in the slightest lol.

@cleanasawhistle I had a mobile hairdresser turn up with a young child and it was a disaster. The little girl was into everything, every time I turned my back she was opening a cupboard or trying to draw on something. She even wandered into my bedroom while I was getting changed. I ended up paying quite a lot of money for a very stressful evening and obviously never used the hairdresser again. Was a shame too as she was fantastic at highlights.

Before lockdown in December, I booked an appointment at a salon (my usual was overbooked) the hairdresser was SO bitchy and insulting. I knew if I stayed there, she would kept insulting my hair and looks for the whole hair cut/colour.

I actually told her she offended me and I didn't trust her to cut my hair. I got up and walked out.

I got a appointment with my regular salon inApril,looking forward to that!

My hair is very fine and a lot fell out and snapped off this autumn due to stress and post partum hair loss and very uneven regrowth. My hairdresser is very nice and does the best with what she has to play with but last time I was in the salon the owner was making a big deal of taking photos of everyone else's finished hair and putting it on the salon's Instagram page. Not mine obviously but that made me feel pretty shit.

My lovely eldest daughter, in her mid twenties, pulls her hair. She had several experiences in hairdressers that traumatised her . I found a lovely young woman similar age to her to do my hair and booked her in with her.
The difference an empathetic person who goes that extra mile is amazing. She literally came out a different person.
I follow her on Instagram so if she moves salon we can still find her!

This is enlightening! I’m actually in May training in hair (total U turn in already formed career 🤣). I was offered an apprenticeship in a very noiiiice hairdressers when I was 16 but so desperately wanted to further my education ‘because that’s what all the other kids are doing’ - why, oh why. Now, I’m going to retrain and see where it takes me.

This is huge help for me actually, insight into what people hate. I hate hairdressers - so much. Many of the ones I’ve used are flakey, bitchy and scathing. Oh and, bloody sly, with hair and money.

I hope I can be different, I’m going to bookmark this!!!

I have thick, curly hair that hairdressers are either in awe of or irritated by. I always warn them how long it takes to deal with and suggest a longer appointment is needed but they know better. Until they get their hands on it then they complain it takes too long as they don’t have time.

The last hairdresser I went to razored the sides of my hair (I asked her not to) and cut my hair so badly that when I straightened it the next day for an interview my wife had to cut another 4 inches off it to level it out.

My wife now trims my hair and dyes it, but I’m saving up for an appointment with someone who comes very highly recommended for long curly hair. fingers crossed she’s not a let down.

One of my favourite things about my hairdresser is that after my cut and colour is finished the two stylists walk me round the salon to show my hair off to their colleagues. It's always a good end result but this part of it makes me feel fabulous! I love going there, it's such a morale booster.

I asked a hairdresser to cut a good four inches off my daughter's hair and my dd confirmed it was what she wanted. Hairdresser kept saying are you sure, are you sure, making it obvious she didn't believe we did want what we had asked for. My son was also booked in so they lost two lots of money plus a lot of future business when I said we are leaving. I couldn't sit there and give money to someone who was treating us like idiots and a nuisance.

We went into the salon four shops down and she cut one of the kids hair there and then and we have used them ever since.

I have a brilliant hairdresser now but I stopped going for fifteen years because of a terrible experience. At eighteen, I used to do hair modelling. Nothing massive. Just for regional competitions, usually styling ones because my hair was waist length, thick and straight. As payment, they did all my hair appointments free. Back at that time, Christina Aguillera's blonde and dark streaky hair was ever so popular, and I'm mid blonde, so that was my look, which suited them for the competitions too. It was a very well known salon (high end then but not so much now). One day I went in to have the split ends taken off and have my roots done and the lot toned. Sat in the chair, read a book and gave myself over to them as usual. The stylist asked if she could cut first and take some photos for examples of her work. I said yes as it happened a lot, and I wasn't concerned at the amount of swishing my hair around for the photos of the cut or the style director coming over for a look. She got on with colouring and wrapped the lot in foils. I said I only wanted roots but she said she was doing a refresh before the toning. I mentioned that it felt a bit tingly and she said "oh that's weird. Let me know if it hurts." I did tell her after ten minutes that it was burning and she took another twenty to get me to the sink!

When she washed it off, toned it and then and got me back over to the chair, she was really quiet. Something about the vibe from her made me look in the mirror and tell her to take the towel off. My hair was mushy and looked like it was melting off in places where she'd overlapped bleach over the already dark parts of my hair, and it was clearly breaking just below the shoulder where she'd folded the foils she'd put on the already blonde parts. Parts of it were a weird grey/blue colour. She'd cut my hair about five inches shorter rather than taking the split ends away, my scalp had blisters and I can still hear my voice suddenly and loudly demanding "WHAT THE FUCK HAVE YOU DONE?!?!?" The style director flapped, the stylist cried and admitted she'd tried mixing things differently and with different strengths to get a brighter colour, and had chosen to try a different pattern, but I shouldn't be complaining because I didn't pay for it!! I refused to leave looking like that and I just sobbed and sobbed.

I left with my hair cut just below the shoulder, semi permanently dyed dark brown and a bag of hair care products and possibly the rawest throat in the world from crying so hard.

FuckingFabulous, that sounds absolutely horrific! And to try to suggest a cock up that big was ok because you didn’t pay for it!!??? Just awful. That would have put me off for years too. And why on earth was the go to remedy for a messed up colour just to mask it in dark brown or black?? They did that to me too once and it created a build up of so much unwanted colour it took years to get rid of it completely!! Must have been a thing back then

The worst one I can think of didn’t happen to me but my poor lovely Nan when she was about 70. She’d saved up and booked in at a new hairdresser to cheer herself up after a stroke.

When I picked her up, she was breaking her heart crying. He’d basically used this as an opportunity to rip her appearance to shreds. Of course he started with telling her she needed to drastically change colour and insisted on cutting a very full very square fringe (when she said she hated full fringes and preferred a side fringe). From there he criticised everything about her face. She was sensitive as her face was visibly affected by her recent health problems. Her eyebrows, the colour of her foundation, her choice of lipstick colour etc. “You do realise you’re wearing the wrong colour of foundation don’t do? It’s all wrong. Look at the state of it.” “Why is a woman of your age wearing bright lipstick? You need to switch to a frosted pale pink. Your style is all wrong.”

He was just a plain bully. I’m not just saying it because she’s my Nan, she’s a beautiful woman and regularly gets stopped and told she has great style or younger women say they hope they look like her when they are her age etc. She wouldn’t be my Nan without her bright lipstick and Parisian chic look, it’s her trademark and she’s fabulous. But she was feeling very low after her stroke and wanted cheered up. Not an assassination of her looks.

Even worse she had suffered many years of domestic violence with an awful husband who mocked her appearance and controlled how she looked. It brought it all back to her. Nasty little twerp that he was. I’m so tempted to name and shame on here! I’m still angry by how much of a bully he was.

If you are thinking of getting your hair cut in the middle of Blackpool Town Centre by a man who’s name is the title of his salon (NOT Jon Anthoney - he is LOVELY and a good hairdresser), then DM me so I can warn you off.

I've been quite lucky, mine are not usually insulting even though I have such a dry scalp and thin hair.

A make up artist did once insult the redness on my face though - I have eczema not like I can help it

For people with curly hair try this DIY cut. I've done it numerous times and get a great cut.