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To think hairdressers should try to make you feel good?

146 replies

Opal93 · 10/03/2021 17:43

Writing this thinking of how much I miss my hairdresser 😭 I’ve finally found one who does exactly what I ask and when I leave I feel really good. I can’t wait to finally go! But before I found her, I went to many who seemed to think insulting you is somehow a good business tactic! I also hate it when they begin to criticise the cut/colour you currently have. I once went to one and she said “your roots are a disgrace” erm, that’s what I’m paying you for! What’s your best and worst experiences of the hairdressers and are you excited to finally go after lockdown?

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HeathIns · 11/03/2021 11:50

Stay away from the thinning scissors!!!

Oh God yes... Whenever I visit a new salon I always ask them at the start not to use the thinning scissors. They are the worst.

ScrambledSmegs · 11/03/2021 13:05

Blimey, some of you have been so unfortunate with your hairdressers, I'm so sorry. My last hairdresser was absolutely lovely, and my current one is fab too.

However the worst I ever had was a new place that a friend raved about, I wanted half head highlights and trim of my longish hair, ended up full on banana-yelllow with a limp attempt at a 'Rachel' cut - remember them Grin. I was very young so paid far too much and only cried after I left. Thank god my mum had some toner stuff that brought the brassiness down. I found a better place after that, they were more expensive but they listened to what I wanted and did a good job.

FYI, for everyone who's found their hair has been thinning due to illness/post pregnancy etc - I've been taking Kelp (for the iodine) on the advice of my GP in order to support my failing thyroid. Besides all the other benefits my weak, fine, thinning hair has been growing back thicker and stronger than it's ever been. Even my eyebrows! So if you haven't tried it before do check with your GP and see if it would be ok for you to take. But ONLY on the advice of your GP because it is possible to overdose and the side effects are not nice.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe · 11/03/2021 13:09

My hairdresser is amazing, a very lovely woman and I won't let anybody else near my hair {Sarah}

I would give that hairdresser a piece of my mind, imagine telling her customer that their roots are 'a disgrace'? Shock. Not nearly as bad as her customer service is and she wouldn't be getting my custom.

You don't have to take that insult lying down, OP. Vote with your money and let her go out of business.

EKGEMS · 11/03/2021 13:40

I had a bitchy hairdresser last year lecture me for waiting so long for a cut even after I explained that due to Covid I couldn't risk myself or my child contracting it. She just lectured about my hair and complained that I had such nice hair but didn't know how to style it. Never going there again.

WithLoveFromMyselfToYourself · 11/03/2021 13:54

Anniecott - that’s awful!

I’ve had a 60/40 split in favour of the good over the bad with my hairdressers, however the bad includes some grim experiences.

I have loads of fine but strong, stretchy hair, and in days gone by I think it had a hypnotic effect on hairdressers at the blow dry stage. I’d emerge with enormous Dynasty hair on my tiny, young frame. On one occasion it was almost perfectly spherical like an astronaut’s helmet and I’m not curly.
I used to leave the salon, bend forwards and frantically run my hands through to regain some semblance of normality.

The worst was when my lovely stylist left and I was bumped without warning to “Sam”. Sam was thick as mince but opinionated, my favourite combo. She regaled me with her endless puerile rows with her sister.
My youngest has CP and severe motor and learning difficulties, but hey! Sam didn’t blame me! Because it’s not something I knew about before she was born, but the thing is, not all of them are nice. She helped at Rainbows and there was a disabled girl there but she wasn’t very nice at all.

This woman had no self awareness, luckily, she planned to leave hairdressing .... to become a counsellor ...

Pukkatea · 11/03/2021 13:55

Oh I forgot as well, went to get brows waxed. Have a peak in my brows that they ALWAYS try to take off and I don't allow as it makes me look really strange.

Anyway, most are fine with not doing it. This brow woman immediately started ranting about whoever had previously done my brows, what a weird shape they were, no brow person should ever do this to someone etc etc. I explained that the weird shape was in fact the natural shape of my eyebrows and she wouldn't believe me, said she had no idea how she could possibly work with such strange brows and I must have done something to make them that way because noone has brows this shape. I thought they were pretty normal but seems I'm a brow freak.

iluvpickles · 11/03/2021 14:01

Usually they always go on about how lovely my hair is. It's dark not coloured and long/straight. Usually even try talk me out of taking more off, I'm like but there's a lot of split ends they always shocked if I want like 4inches or more off the length.

I actually found a hair dresser that cut my hair really nice, in particular around my face it just sat so much better when she'd done it compared to others I've went to in the past. She used to go on and on about shampoo though, how the ones U can pick up in supermarket etc are awful (think Aussie/loreal etc) Said it left a plastic coating on ur hair and ur hair got used to it didn't clean properly yada yada yada. She cld talk about it for 10mins every time I went.

She recommended a particular one that I bought (not from her) coz she was doing my nut in lol. Then she still went on about shampoo every time I went to her. I was like I'm using the shampoo u recommended! Oh must be as the coating still coming away then 😆

BrilliantBetty · 11/03/2021 14:32

Mine's lovely. She's even said she thinks I did a great job of cutting my own hair over lockdown (saw her in the supermarket) And was happy to give my hair colour details to me when I had to temporarily use another hairdresser last year who could come to my home.
Very easy going, v nice.

ZombeaArthur · 11/03/2021 14:54

I’ve had lectures before on the condition of my hair. One was particularly judgmental, I’d been bleaching my hair for a few years and decided to give it a break and had gone for a darker colour. I then went to someone else for a cut and for the entire time I was there, the only thing he could talk about was how bad the condition of my hair was, that he wouldn’t have bleached it, and on and on. The thing is, my hair wasn’t in poor condition at all and every stylist I’d had in the time I’d been bleaching it mentioned the fact that it was actually in really good condition.

I had a really crap experience a couple of years ago at my usual salon. I’d been going for a while and absolutely loved my stylist who was also the owner and, for once, looked forward to going. Then she left hairdressing and sold the business. The new owner hired all new stylists and I ended up going to a young guy. He was actually very good, however he spent the whole appointment bitching with another employee about other staff and clients and generally making conversation that I wouldn’t consider appropriate in a customer facing role. While it’s not a massive issue, it didn’t make for a relaxing few hours. Anyway, he’d finished the colour and the cut and was about to start drying/ styling when the coworker announced she was going out to get lunch. He put down the hairdryer, picked up the mirror and asked if I was happy with his work. I told him I’d let him know when he’d finished. Not only was I paying for a cut, colour and blow-dry, but with a short style, I don’t feel like I could really know how it looked until was styled. He was clearly unhappy and really rushed the end of my appointment and the whole experience was really stressful.

I’ve had so many stylists over the years remind me that I have fine, thin hair, like after three decades I’d be surprised by this revelation. They also remind me that the style I’ve chosen won’t look exactly the way it does on the model, usually after I’ve said this myself. I’ve also yet to find a stylist who doesn’t try to pressure my into growing my hair, like it’s some sort of taboo for a woman to have short hair.

Like many posters, a trip to the salon is something to be endured for me rather than enjoyed.

CounsellorTroi · 11/03/2021 14:56

I love my hairdresser. He's in his late 40s. I have very thick hair and he's the best cutter I've ever had, Good colourist too. Re chatting he takes his cue from me - if I'm not in the mood he won't talk. The salon does people of all ages and has a nice friendly vibe.

LilacsFreesias · 11/03/2021 14:58

Worst was I went to one in a department store years ago. She was in a bad mood and said to her colleague "I feel like punching someone" Confused She didn't mean me but it was still pretty poor.
Best was probably the woman who did my hair and makeup on my wedding day. She was helping out generally by doing washing up which was nice

NotFabulousDarling · 11/03/2021 15:07

I'm a beauty blogger. When I was in my late twenties I wanted to retrain at a hairdresser, and was in the process of putting in applications to do it (but obviously still had to pay my mortgage). An apprenticeship would have been ideal. So when one came up at my usual hairdresser I asked about it after my cut.
"You? But you're far too old to train as a hairdresser."
It hit my confidence so hard I never got the bottle to put the application in anywhere else.
I was only 27.

NotFabulousDarling · 11/03/2021 15:08

Sorry that should have said "I was a beauty blogger when I was in my late twenties and I wanted to retrain as a hairdresser." Arrgh.

maybemu · 11/03/2021 15:11

I love my hairdresser! I thinking how much I miss her the other day. She has been doing my hair for about 7 years now and I always leave smiling. I believe being nice is part of the job and if I could give any advice it would be keep looking till you get one you gel with. Now it's like going to see an old friend

maybemu · 11/03/2021 15:12

P.s. I felt like most the commenters before I found her. I hated the hair dresser and would cut my own hair most the time

VaizyCrazyDaizy · 11/03/2021 15:14

I never go to any hairdressers as awful places - I am lucky that I have curly hair which is easy to cut myself! The curly hair was a nightmare at hairdressers when I was younger as they always messed it up cutting so much off I looked awful. Hair dye easy peasy with all that’s available in the shops.

hippychick11 · 11/03/2021 15:15

@NotFabulousDarling same thing happened to me. I was only 24 and was told I was 'too old' to become an apprentice. Ridiculous

SunshineCake · 11/03/2021 15:29

@Opal93

Writing this thinking of how much I miss my hairdresser 😭 I’ve finally found one who does exactly what I ask and when I leave I feel really good. I can’t wait to finally go! But before I found her, I went to many who seemed to think insulting you is somehow a good business tactic! I also hate it when they begin to criticise the cut/colour you currently have. I once went to one and she said “your roots are a disgrace” erm, that’s what I’m paying you for! What’s your best and worst experiences of the hairdressers and are you excited to finally go after lockdown?
If your roots didn't need going, in your mind, then you wouldn't have gone....

I've rarely had a good hairdresser and tbh can't see myself ever going to one again. The last one is great with the kids, and I do like her, but it is a chore not a treat.

ColdTattyWaitingForSummer · 11/03/2021 15:38

I love my hairdresser! I hated my hair for so long.. I remember as a teenager literally sobbing because it made me so miserable about my appearance.. And well into adulthood I couldn't find a cut that worked. Even if I liked it when I left the salon, the minute I tried to wash, dry, and style in myself it was a disaster.
The woman I see now isn't expensive, and doesn't work out of a posh salon, but she is amazing. Pre Covid I went in for a quick blow dry most weeks. Sounds extravagant, but at £20 it's cheaper than therapy, and does wonders for my mental health. I love my hair for the first time in my life, and I can't wait until she reopens.

SunshineCake · 11/03/2021 18:31

This thread is making me want to post my hair and ask for advice on colour.

CounsellorTroi · 12/03/2021 10:50

I feel so relieved, my hairdresser has just been in touch and I have an appointment for Monday week! Yippee.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe · 12/03/2021 13:38

Mine too! I have an appointment for Good Friday. I said 'yes, yes, yes' without even checking the date... I would have moved anything already in my diary. So happy! Grin

miserablecat · 12/03/2021 15:02

When are hairdressers allowed to open?
I thought it was sometime after Easter? (in England)

CounsellorTroi · 12/03/2021 15:15

In Wales, from Monday 15 March. Don't know about England.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe · 12/03/2021 15:18

I'm in Wales.

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