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If I say we're bad parents and he says he's not a bad parent, he's calling me a bad parent?

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SleepingStandingUp · 10/03/2021 11:05

DS is struggling. He's 5 so it's clearly out fault not his. He told me he likes being naughty and hel Ike's telling lies. I don't think he means it as such but he'll contradict himself a lot - whether he enjoyed school, if he's been to the loo,l etc and has a tantrum every morning about going to school.

I told DH we're bad parents to have made him like this as in we need to do something to fix it as he got annoyed telling me to not call him a bad parent, he's not a bad parent. Which means he thinks it's all on me doesn't it?

I know it shouldn't matter, the only thing that matters is us fixing it so we can sort out DS bit how can we if he won't shoulder any blame?

DS is awesome but he's constantly telling me he dislikes school, the uniform, learning, being clever. He won't approach other children at play time and can be quite isolated but is then upset he's alone. We both parent him, how can I fix it on my own?

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BonnieDundee · 11/03/2021 04:04

I think blame is a very unhelpful concept in this scenario. Some children are just not plain sailing.

Just be bright and breezy while insisting on the no negotiable things- like uniform. Kids sense any sign that you're struggling to enforce the rules and some will play up more IME. Keep being firm but kind

But get out of the mindset of blaming anyone including yourself

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