In theory I dont think it’s a problem having 2 fruit snacks a day. I agree fruit can be bad for the teeth but you can have your DCs brush their teeth when they get gone from school.
I do have a problem with no other snacks especially cheese and crackers. My older DCs always brought snacks into school because neither of them eat fruit AT ALL. My oldest hated it from a baby they are almost 9 now and won’t touch fruit, they have always gagged at it even as babies. They will try veg and will even eat an odd bit of certain veg. The 7yo I can’t even get to try anything with out fits of tears and gagging and I’m certainly not going to put them or me through that everyday.
The oldest would drink smoothies until they were given one (by someone else) with chunks of fruit in at when they were 3 and made the self’s sick from it, and refused from that point on to drink them again. They will now drink one kind of smoothie and will eat yogurts as long as there are no fruit bits in. It took 5 years to get here with the smoothie all because someone else completely disregarded my instructions and knew better than me with my child, but that’s a whole other thread🤬
Before people berate me, it’s nothing to do with pandering to my children. I’ve tried fruit and veg and they would gag and make themselves sick from almost as soon as they started solids.
My 3rd child is the polar opposite, they love all fruit and veg, even stuff they are allergic to, that’s our biggest problem, they will eat anything but have food allergies and at 3 they don’t full understand why they can’t eat everything.
OP I’d send them in with what you feel comfortable with and just ignore any shitty letters. If they say anything to your children tell them not to speak to your children about food you have chosen to send in, take it up with you. I’ve done this before with the school, I’ve told them I make all the decisions not my children if the school has a problem with anything they talk to me not my children.