Am I being uptight or is she a cheeky sod?

[HarryorHas]

Neighbour has had insulation in house and shouted over to Dh on Saturday that the builders needed to do some work. Huge scaffolding has been in our garden, by the back door since then and only two hours work has been done on the wall by the builders. That was the first thing I'mgetying a bit 😩about. I have an active toddler Dd who needs to get out in the garden and can’t.
Second thing is, I looked this afternoon and a section of the wall that divides us, part of her house, yes, but also into our back garden is jutting out and will stay like that? 🤷🏻‍♀️
She hasn’t even asked if that’s ok, is that normal? It’s just been done, but goes into our garden. That wall section has chairs and table for sitting out.
I spoke to Dh about it and asked did she ask him, does he think it’s ok like that etc..cue huge argument, where he said I need to chill out and it’s not a problem at all.
Whatsapped mum and dad who said they wouldn’t like it either.
Aibu? will add pics and hopefully it makes sense.

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Can’t see any pics

Ah got them now. I can’t work out where the boundary is and what is yours/theirs

Our back door is on the left and that’s her house with the wall, where the scaffolding is a where our table and chairs etc go

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Ok. So the scaffolding is in your garden so they can get to their extension? I would be asking for a finish date for this.
The overhang looks like it is in their garden though so not sure what you can do about that.

Is it that she's having external insulation put on so it's making her wall thicker? But the wall is the boundary, so now her wall is over the boundary by the thickness of the insulation? Trying to understand what's going on in the pics...

@WeatherwaxLives

Is it that she's having external insulation put on so it's making her wall thicker? But the wall is the boundary, so now her wall is over the boundary by the thickness of the insulation? Trying to understand what's going on in the pics...

Yes - looks like neighbour has nabbed an inch or two of OP's patio.

@WeatherwaxLives Yes that’s it.
So our back/kitchen door is on the left, and that big wall, part is her house but also the wall that divides us. So now that part juts out. We have the table and chairs there and then another wall, so the walk part there, that walks down to the garden/grass etc is less. Hope that makes sense! We live in another country so it’s also a different set up to the U.K.
Dh is looking at me like I’m some whinging old woman, but he basically lacks balls in any situation like this and cba..shouldn’t she have even asked/ran it past us properly 🤷🏻‍♀️Xxxxx

Not an overreaction, YANBU.

You need to ask for a timeframe re the scaffolding on your property and ask why they didn't notify you before work proceeded.

Read up on the Party Wall Act.

Sorry x posted and see you're not in the UK.

Yes your husband is lacking balls. How pathetically unattractive.

it’s like an inch thick 🤷🏻‍♀️

I wouldn't find this to be a massive problem. Did you expect her to remove her wall, rebuild it a couple of inches over and then add the insulation? Or not insulate the section on the boundary?

Maybe I'm missing the point?

She wouldn't be able to do that in the UK because her house now juts out onto your land. There would also have to be a party wall agreement to make sure that your property isn't damaged by the work and to give her permission to access your land for the work. I wouldn't be happy either but without knowing where you are and the local law, it's impossible to say whether she can do it or not.

What is that lead? Are they using your electricity?

Object now. Our neighbours did this shortly after we bought our first house many years ago when we were young and naive and didn't know what to do.
It was only a bricks width over our boundary and it felt petty to complain.
Some years later when we wanted to put in a downstairs loo and shower and couldn't because we were a bricks worth of space too small to pass building regs, I wished we'd been more stroppy.
It's very cheeky, and they should have got your permission and a party wall agreement in place to regularise how and when the work is being carried out.
Just tell them that their wall is encroaching on your land and it's not OK, they'll have to redo it. It was a gamble on their part, they should have discussed it with you.

I couldn't bring myself to get worked up over losing an inch of my garden, what a non issue!

I am actually with you husband . It looks like a tiny overhang . Ultimately has it stopped your enjoyment of your house and garden. Or has it devalued your property . If the answer to both of these is no I would let it go for neighbourly peace. If the answer is yes then absolutely peruse it

Also, of she has nabbed some of your land, will this not become a problem when you come to sell in the future? People can have massive disputes over boundries etc. Not to mention the huge inconvenience and hazzard of the scaffolding. I would demand a timescale in writing, and have the situation of boundry clarified. Just say that you are considering moving so need to know.

I think it fine, until you want to build an extension or sell your house. I would ask them to appoint and pay for a party wall surveyor. However, if you do take action it could cost a lot. They are CF.

Its 1 inch. No it wouldnt bother me.

I wouldn't find this to be a massive problem. Did you expect her to remove her wall, rebuild it a couple of inches over and then add the insulation? Or not insulate the section on the boundary?

I would expect them to consider the thickness of the wall plus installation when building and extension. You can’t just build on someone else’s property even an inch or so because you can use a calculator.

You know what they say ‘give someone an inch they take a mile’

Didn’t mean to put kisses there! Putting Dd to sleep so messaging in between

So that wall is the boundary, and they've built on your property. Doesn't matter that its only one inch, you can't build on someone else's property, not in England anyway. Id definitely challenge them on it

Nope, not uptight at all. They can’t encroach on your property and I wouldn’t be having that at all.

Stop it now before they get any further on.