Am I being uptight or is she a cheeky sod?

[HarryorHas]

Neighbour has had insulation in house and shouted over to Dh on Saturday that the builders needed to do some work. Huge scaffolding has been in our garden, by the back door since then and only two hours work has been done on the wall by the builders. That was the first thing I'mgetying a bit 😩about. I have an active toddler Dd who needs to get out in the garden and can’t.
Second thing is, I looked this afternoon and a section of the wall that divides us, part of her house, yes, but also into our back garden is jutting out and will stay like that? 🤷🏻‍♀️
She hasn’t even asked if that’s ok, is that normal? It’s just been done, but goes into our garden. That wall section has chairs and table for sitting out.
I spoke to Dh about it and asked did she ask him, does he think it’s ok like that etc..cue huge argument, where he said I need to chill out and it’s not a problem at all.
Whatsapped mum and dad who said they wouldn’t like it either.
Aibu? will add pics and hopefully it makes sense.

@ChangedName4TheSakeOfIt I know! It is pissing me off, more about the way it’s been done? Like, never mind, don’t tell them much about it, stick all that scaffolding there, leave it there, build onto our sitting area so it sticks out and looks odd, I mean 🤷🏻‍♀️

Where we are many people do it and risk it without permission, she’s done so much to her house, so I’m guessing no permission,

[quote HarryorHas]@MessagesKeepGettingClearer Yes of course people are entitled to do work on their property, but it’s all being built on our property 🤷🏻‍♀️Shouldn’t be have a say in that[/quote]
How is it all being built on your property? Of course they need scaffolding that's normal. Most properties with shared boundaries need to use neighbours space temporarily. But as far as I can tell, the actual building is an inch or two on your property. Now that's not acceptable but that's why I'm saying contact the council. Trying to send your husband around isn't going to resolve anything.

The council can order her to amend it if it violates law and regulation.

You don't get a say, no. The Council and Building Control do.

We used to have a lovely view our the back of our house/garden. Now it's new builds. We didn't get a say (well, tried but we're ignored) the Council made the decision. That's how it works.

it would bother me, its darn un-neighbourly for one thing! not sure where you are though op. if it was me i would have been over there asap asking questions, sod what husband said.
i had neighbours who casually said they'd sent a fence man to do our joint fence, fence man said 'your garden will be decimated when you get back from work' and i calmly said no i didnt want that and sent him packing (did it ourselves later on our own terms). was smiling but firm with neighbours.
what can you do now?
nothing ... its too late...

@mamaoffourdc Surely when the builders are doing it they’d see though?

All I want is for Dh to talk to her and let her know it sticks out, but he’s too mardy

@Stovetopespresso That’s what bothering me also, it’s really un neighbourly. Is it too late now anyway, I mean they’ve come in and just done it

Would this affect any future sale?

I'd be objecting ASAP. She doesn't just get to pinch your land, no matter how small an amount.

And won’t our wall just look bloody weird with a part sticking out and then into smooth wall 🤷🏻‍♀️

yeah. is the issue you're really passed off with dh? he really missed a trick to question further. I guess they'll have to ask you to come and paint the side of their wall now.

I don't get this. In UK, you get notice from planning and are able to object. Check your deeds for the boundary, call the planning dept and get a solicitor.

pissed off not passed off!!

Skip your husband and go straight to the planning department of your council or whatever it's called where you are. Inform them and they should do the work for you, making the neighbour remove her newly extended wall from your property.
A huge number of houses in our village have had this type of insulation put on and it can only encroach onto the pavement where the council has agreed. Each house had individual permission from the local authority.

Is this in Spain ? Where most things are mañana?

Also, as it's obviously not finished, is there perhaps another layer yet to go on too? Or just painting? Ours were boarded and foamed, then rendered and then to finish off, a layer of pebble dashing, though that is only because it was in keeping with the village houses. In your case I'd say at minimum a paint job. Let's hope they at least don't drip it all over your patio like ours did.

@Adultfemale2020 Didn’t receive anything from the council, am guessing she’s fine with no planning permission like the rest of her house, like many do here.

@Thisgirlcanrun Portugal, where Yep most things are also ‘Amanha’ 😔

@ChangedName4TheSakeOfIt That’s what I don’t know? Surely they don’t just leave a layer of foam sticking out on the side of our wall? But if they’re doing more, it will stick out more? Making it even worse or not 🤷🏻‍♀️
There’s already white plaster/paint drops all over the floor

Right, messaging with Dh now (Dd in bed with me and I don’t want to go down and argue with him)

Apparently it’s a foam core paintable insulation?

Hello. If you were in the UK you'd at least need a party wall agreement.

Just had a google and same issue here:

forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/5288751/party-wall-boundary-question

Basically she's nicking part of your garden which could have consequences down the line. What if you wanted to extend?

Foam? Sharp implement and scrape it back to her property line?

@MessagesKeepGettingClearer did you miss the part where OP said she's not in the UK? Could have saved yourself a lot of self-righteous posts.

OP your neighbour is being cheeky and she should have informed you well in advance. I don't see how she can take that inch from you.

[quote HarryorHas]@MessagesKeepGettingClearer My Dd and dog can’t go in the garden as it’s not safe with a great big, unsafe piece of scaffolding out! Dd is 2,5 years old,[/quote]
But it’s secure, it has to be to of any use to the builders

What I don’t understand is if you are the one with the issue and your DH isn’t bothered then why are you insisting that he speaks to your neighbour? Why don’t you speak to them yourself?

yes you could say calmly you've changed your mind and ask to have it removed/pay to get it removed. calm as.
all depends on what your dh agreed.

@crapbuttrue But could we ever extend that way anyway as it goes into her house on that side?

Eurgh, what the hell is a piece of bloody foam going to look like jutting out from my nice, natural straight wall