What to do about this wedding?

[Onedaysomedaynowadays]

We've been invited to a wedding in the Canaries which was supposed to be this summer and is now next spring.
It's no kids so lots of our friends are making arrangements to leave kids with grandparents etc.
We don't have anyone to leave our toddler with and I'm pregnant so we'll also have a 5 month old baby by then. I think the options are:

• DH goes on his own and I stay home with the kids (the groom is his friend)
• we all go and make a holiday of it for a week and I just stay at the villa/hotel with the kids the day he goes to the wedding
• I try to find someone here to have the kids - we have a babysitter who used to come pre covid but I feel weird about leaving her in our house for several days

Feels like option 2 is the obvious one but don't know if it will be crap if everyone else is having a kid free holiday!

@giggly

Who has friends like these in RL Option 4 ditch the selfish cunts

Because they didn't make their wedding about op and her needs?

A lot of extreme over-reactions in this thread to something that shouldn't involve any drama. Couples who want child-free weddings (and destination weddings) are perfectly aware that this means some guests can't come. They don't mind. They're not offended if it doesn't work for you.

This says it all. The OP said early on that she isn’t bothered about her husband going without her, and didn’t see the point in none of them going when he can go alone... yet still people pushed an option four they’d invented. I’m guessing the sort of people who have a massive chip on their shoulders about child-free weddings.

But it's OP's husband who doesn't want to go on his own... not the fairly chilled "come if you can" bridal couple".

I have no chip on my shoulder about child-free weddings.
Family holidays are precious. Finances for most of us are limited.
I wouldn't be happy about my husband using either of these for something that excluded me and our children.

I don't think people have chips on their shoulders about child free weddings. They just happen to be massively inconvenient for a lot of families.

I'd not go. I think the kids are far too young to be left with someone and if you're like me youd worry too much to enjoy yourself if you did that. If the bride and groom valued you and wanted you there, they'd make an exception to their rule. Having a wedding abroad with a no kids rule is an exceptionally shitty thing to do imo. I'd have declined immediately.

@Voice0fReason

I have no chip on my shoulder about child-free weddings. Family holidays are precious. Finances for most of us are limited. I wouldn't be happy about my husband using either of these for something that excluded me and our children.

Well that’s fine for you - but unless I’ve misread the OP’s posts, it’s not how she feels.

@StopGuacAndRoll

Since we are just adding options we feel like, I suggest:

Option 5 - RUDELY decline

@StopGuacAndRoll this made me laugh more than it should have 😂