'That's more a Christmas present' aibu?

[Whosamawotsits]

Its one of my children's birthdays coming up (DS11) he never wants anything, hasn't asked for anything other than a couple of cheapy things he likes. I'm planning on getting him a games console, he loved playing on them at family and friends houses (when we could go over there!) and has nothing but a knackered old tablet at home.
When discussing this with family and friends I've had a few say a 'big' gift is more of a Christmas present! I've never heard of this and can't seem to wrap my head around why they'd think that.
I personally don't think it particularly matters when you'd gift a big gift, but surely if you're going to think any kind of way about spending a little more money on a gift for someone, it's that itd be nicer to give it to them on their birthday rather than Christmas and make their day special?

YABU- Big presents- Christmas
YANBU- Big presents- Birthdays

Tbh we spend about the same for birthdays and Christmas.

Weird! Birthdays are more special than Christmas, surely, as only 1 person gets presents!

Birthdays are special as you only have to buy presents for one person.

Id do this at Christmas but just because if would be a joint gift to our 3 DS.

Both are special, I wouldn’t judge a present to be Christmas or birthday worthy!!

I've never heard of this theory.

Never heard of this. Growing up if something was big it would be a joint bday-xmas so we wouldnt get a big present at the next occasion.

Big presents could be for either in this house!

Very odd. We spend about the same, but I’d also S ay birthdays are more special that Xmas, because it’s singular, but I don’t think that way.

Weird! Go for it. Big presents for birthdays are brilliant. Mine probably have equally big presents at birthdays and Christmases.

I have heard people say this before as well, but it’s nonsense. Spend what you can afford and get your son what he will enjoy. It’s no one else’s business. Hope your son enjoys his birthday!

Both, but we gave a console at Christmas so it could be a joint gift.

We sometimes alternate with DDs big presents, especially if she's had a properly big Xmas present. This year her big present was part of her santa list (usually they are just small gifts) and for her birthday she is getting a relatively large value present. It's just the way it's worked out this year.

I would think a games console is a fantastic birthday present. Ignore the naysayers, clearly none of them will be accidentally duplicating so just get him it.

They are both special. You say he is one of your children, so the only thing I would be careful about is whether you are treating all your children the same. So if DS gets a games console and other children get a toffee then you are BU and setting up resentments but if all get “big” gifts this year then crack on YANBU.

I have never heard of that as a thing

Your family and friends are weird. Buy the console if he'd like it.

Are you trying to get a ps5 though?

I can't vote as I spend on birthdays and Christmases equally. If I had more than one child then I suppose Christmas could be a larger gift if it was something shared.

Nah birthdays should be special. The fact he never asks even though he enjoys them. Says he probably never thinks he'll get one in a million years. It'll be a face I would want to see on his birthday.

Your choice. Just set some rules as to when the games console can be played and stick to them despite all the protestations you will get.

Big gifts for both here (for Ds)

I tend towards 'big' presents being more of a Christmas present, largely because that's how I was brought up. I know it's a bit daft though and it wouldn't stop me getting something bigger at a birthday if it seemed appropriate.

I only have the one though - will
It set up expectations from your other children for more expensive presents?

Get your kids whatever you like. My Ds had a console for his bday one year. Same reasons you mentioned. I wanted to spoil him so I did.

Makes more sense to me to buy big gifts for birthdays as you only have one person to buy for, rather than loads at Xmas so money is generally tighter

Thankyou all, always spend equally for Christmas and birthdays so never any favouritism between them. Though DD could write a list as tall as her for what she wants and DS would be happy with the toffee and a lie in!

It's not your families decision is it! He is your child, it's up to you what you spend.