Well over a decade ago when I was 13 (possibly coming up to 14, I don't remember the month) I was pursued by one of my parents neighbours who knew exactly how old I was.
He was a man in his 20's living with his partner of a similar age and their small child.
He groomed me which resulted in him taking me to his house when his partner was away, I won't go into details but my OP says it all.
It wasn't until I got older that I realised what exactly it was.
A few years ago he tracked me down on Facebook and sent me a message asking if I still live nearby. I pretended not to know who he was as I was hoping he would incriminate himself and he did. He said he was the neighbour who slept with me "from number 3"
I replied "oh yes I remember now, I was 13"
He acknowledged that and carried on messaging, asking for my number and being a pest. I blocked him. He was married to a different woman at this point and had more children.
I didn't feel able to do much about it but every now and then it comes back to me and I feel sad/angry.
I'd only ever told one other person, until today.
I spoke to somebody today who knows him and their automatic reaction was to blame me and say I must have chased him (not true) even if i did what the fuck - and that it's not right to blame him when he was young himself, mid 20's isn't young in my book. 13 is young. They harped on about how he has ADHD and has had problems, poor him.
She went on to say she slept with loads of older blokes when she was in her teens and it was just the done thing. I pointed out that actually if she was having sex with men in their 20's when she was 13 then she was being abused, not having sex.
I wish I didn't say anything now as if that's the response I get from another woman, what would be the point in talking to anybody else.
AIBU to still believe this wasn't my fault?