Cognitive dissonance on MN

[Wondermule]

...is getting worse.

Here is an example I see all the time

Moving from central London to a rural village for the ‘slower pace of life’, then complaining that the village has ‘no culture or diversity’ and a ‘lack of things to do’. Although the villagers are smiley and polite, they ‘haven’t made any lifelong friends’ in the twenty minutes they have been there, and it’s got to the point where they believe the village Illuminati is plotting to ostracise them. They are skint as there is a lack of job variety within a ten minute walk of their house, so they can’t afford to do up the crumbling Victorian wreck they decided to buy. Posters then pile in with ‘omg poor u’ ‘they sound awful’ ‘really feel for you this is me at the moment.’

Well what did you expect? 😂😂

Is it me? 😬

Looks like it is just me actually... 😐

No it's not just you .....

@MajorMujer

No it's not just you .....

Thanks 😂

Irritates me as well.

See also people specifying they want recommendations of a 'nice' area of their specified town/city to move to.

I would have thought that goes without saying, unless you are specifically into gangs of feral kids, upturned cars, rampant crime etc. I live in hope of one day seeing a 'can someone recommend an absolutely horrific part of Edinburgh, with terrible schools, no amenities, massive drug consumption issues, and shit weather?"

I've never known ànyone move to the country without a job. Thats just not do- able for most. And it's a 1Osecond Google to suss the job market where you're relocating to. And yes villages are really cliquey so unless you are very outgoing & sign up for church or school stuff or neighbourhood watch pretty quick it will take a lot of time to find friends.

I live in hope of one day seeing a 'can someone recommend an absolutely horrific part of Edinburgh, with terrible schools, no amenities, massive drug consumption issues, and shit weather?"

Nobody needs to ask that question, the answer is obviously everywhere.

@XDownwiththissortofthingX

Irritates me as well.

See also people specifying they want recommendations of a 'nice' area of their specified town/city to move to.

I would have thought that goes without saying, unless you are specifically into gangs of feral kids, upturned cars, rampant crime etc. I live in hope of one day seeing a 'can someone recommend an absolutely horrific part of Edinburgh, with terrible schools, no amenities, massive drug consumption issues, and shit weather?"

Quite. I see lots of posts asking after ‘diverse/cultured/vibrant’ areas of London to live in, but when suggestions are made, they are dismissed as ‘rough’. So what they mean is they want to live next to a diverse area so they can swan in once a week and feel cultured/vibrant, but not in the place itself

I would have thought that goes without saying

Well, it doesn't. Nobody actively seeks out "bad", but people do sometimes prioritise "cheap", which often works out to be the same thing.

Yes but they’re often asking for the impossible.

@Wondermule

Quite. I see lots of posts asking after ‘diverse/cultured/vibrant’ areas of London to live in, but when suggestions are made, they are dismissed as ‘rough’. So what they mean is they want to live next to a diverse area so they can swan in once a week and feel cultured/vibrant, but not in the place itself.

This. ^ Typical of some PC, liberal-leftie MN posters. They like to gabble on about how much they love a diverse area with lots of varying cultures, but don't want to actually live in the same street as said 'diverse communities' and 'varying cultures...'

And YANBU (in your OP,) about people on here and their cognitive dissonance.

[quote littlepattilou]@Wondermule

Quite. I see lots of posts asking after ‘diverse/cultured/vibrant’ areas of London to live in, but when suggestions are made, they are dismissed as ‘rough’. So what they mean is they want to live next to a diverse area so they can swan in once a week and feel cultured/vibrant, but not in the place itself.

This. ^ Typical of some PC, liberal-leftie MN posters. They like to gabble on about how much they love a diverse area with lots of varying cultures, but don't want to actually live in the same street as said 'diverse communities' and 'varying cultures...'

And YANBU (in your OP,) about people on here and their cognitive dissonance.[/quote]
It’s the same with schools. MN posters saying schools should represent the community around them, be accommodating of SEN, promote equality etc. Then in the next breath talk about how shit their local comp is and how they’re moving house just to live in the catchment of somewhere oversubscribed

It's on a par with those who buy a lovely doer-upper over-looking the cricket pitch then complain about the cricket balls breaking windows or a house near the lovely quaint church then complain about the bells ringing.

It's also not allowing for how long it takes to become a 'belonger' in a proper village. You're looking at decades, and incomers don't realise that.

I was accepted staightaway as the funny foreign bride (from the next county!) of a proper villager. Others who had moved there a mere decade before were still newbies

My favourites are the real life people who have complained to my farming family that:

• the footpath was muddy and their walking boots got dirty
• the church they moved next to has bells that are rung
• the noise from the tractor working in the field was disturbing their Saturday afternoon in the garden

I really do wonder if they did any research at all before moving out of the city.

You're not alone OP.
So many people, now, are finding that they can work from home, therefore, they should sell their cramped London semi and move to a large sprawling farmhouse, replete with a field, on which to plonk some yurts, shepherds' huts and a pizza oven ( yes, I've read this!) but then go on to complain that 'people' dare to walk through their field, that people dare to park anywhere near their new homestead, and that the villagers are hostile to them.

My favourites are the people who assume every place has an Aldi, Lidl and Iceland on the corner, and use terms like 'just' or 'surely'.

Or the people that bemoan having no friends but then post to say someone had the NERVE to knock on their door in passing.

@1Morewineplease

You're not alone OP. So many people, now, are finding that they can work from home, therefore, they should sell their cramped London semi and move to a large sprawling farmhouse, replete with a field, on which to plonk some yurts, shepherds' huts and a pizza oven ( yes, I've read this!) but then go on to complain that 'people' dare to walk through their field, that people dare to park anywhere near their new homestead, and that the villagers are hostile to them.

Yes the hostile villagers 😂😂 MN is the only place I have ever encountered them!

My favourite was an MN poster who wanted a "left leaning" village in North Oxfordshire.

Move to a nice rural community then complain that the farms smell of shit, I know the type. I take complaints from them at work and have to keep a straight face.

@FaceyRomford

My favourite was an MN poster who wanted a "left leaning" village in North Oxfordshire.

I would actually be able to suggest one for this, Chipping Norton. Obviously I have surveyed them but does seem very left leaning lots of middle class labour supporters.

*My favourites are the real life people who have complained to my farming family that:

• the footpath was muddy and their walking boots got dirty
• the noise from the tractor working in the field was disturbing their Saturday afternoon in the garden. I really do wonder if they did any research at all before moving out of the city.*

Move to a nice rural community then complain that the farms smell of shit

This made me laugh, sounds like me somewhat! And the answer is No I didn't do any research. My husband's from here and I just sort of went with the flow moving here as I've done everywhere else in my life. My grandparents and extended family are farmers so I wasn't a complete towney before coming here but fuck me since having DC I hate living rurally! I get so ridiculous about things my husband doesn't even notice. I find this whole way of living a huge, unnecessary inconvenience and can't wait to escape.

Yanbu.

Fifteen years on mn, and I have come to the conclusion that the vast majority of posters aren't, for a lack of a better term, very socially very bright. It's like when you read a post about someone being owed money, or need to something delivered, and you get without fail several posters piping up with 'Just TELL them that they are.'

Tell them? The world is not a video game, Sharon. You can't just stamp your foot and expect somebody to roll over because you TOLD them.

Don't even get me started on the 'call the police' everytime somebody sneezes in their presence. Like the police don't have better things to do with their time than investigate a 7 year old pinching another 7 year old.

@Sickoffamilydrama Chipping Norton is a classic champagne socialist paradise

My MIL came out with a corker whilst driving down a country lane behind a tractor a little while ago (we live rurally and love it, and she has in the past so has no excuse!)
"I really do think tractors should be banned from country lanes, how on earth do they expect people to be able to get around with them clogging up the roads?" thankfully we love her but I do wish she'd think before she spoke.

I think a lot of city people expect the countryside to be like a cross between Emmerdale and the Famous Five - handsome rugged men and a dramatic social life, wrapped up in stunning surroundings and a lot of time frolicking outdoors.

When reality is it stinks of pig shit and it’s an hour round journey for a pint of milk.