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To not want to book bestival

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Mumof3girlygirls · 04/03/2021 19:08

My husband and I have just massively fallen out and I don't know who's more right....
So he's a hospital manager, has had his jab and has seen covid 1st hand as he's been in work every day! I have been locked up at home with a 4 yr old who's only just gone back to nursery. He wants to book Bestival tickets for this year in July/August! 🤔 We are in full lockdown currently with no sign of restriction lifting in Wales anytime soon..... And just the thought of going CAMPING with a virus in a pandemic where the toilets are plastic vile boxes with a 4 year old makes me start to shake! The thought. Disgusts me I can't believe he even suggested it and he's got mad saying he's worked all year with no breaks and needs a holiday..... I think surviving is more important than sitting in a flimsy fabric tent with the virus wooshing past our heads!!! Am I being unreasonable??

OP posts:
Gizlotsmum · 04/03/2021 19:10

If it wasn’t for covid would you happily go?

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Mumof3girlygirls · 04/03/2021 19:12

Possibly I would have given in if we were not in the middle of covid ..... I wouldn't have been happy

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RandomMess · 04/03/2021 19:16

He goes to Bestival and you go somewhere with friends whilst he looks after DD??

Ileflottante · 04/03/2021 19:17

Is it more that you’d rather hate going to a festival? I can’t imagine ‘shaking’ at the idea of it.

ohwaitthatwasme · 04/03/2021 19:18

You are massively over reacting to be disgusted with your DH suggesting you go to a festival.

Personally I am of the opinion now that if an event is happening I am going.

Builtthiscityontoiletrolls · 04/03/2021 19:20

Totally overreacting

Haggisfish · 04/03/2021 19:22

I’d let him go but wouldn’t go myself, if I felt as you do. Personally I’ll be going to as much as I can this summer!

DavidsSchitt · 04/03/2021 19:23

We're not "in the middle of COVID". We're near the end where most adults will have been vaccinated.

He wants a break and quite right too, can you compromise and book something to suit you both? Or take a she-wee with you?

Can't imagine shaking, feeling disgusted or imagining at this point that the virus whooshes past heads Confused

Aprilx · 04/03/2021 19:23

Reasonable that he wants a holiday, lots of people do, why not come up with something else that you would both enjoy. I don’t understand the drama.

Ileflottante · 04/03/2021 19:24

You think the virus will be ‘whooshing past’ your head? Confused

Gizlotsmum · 04/03/2021 19:28

Ok so in reality you won’t get covid from the toilets (use hand sanitiser etc) the virus can’t survive in sewage so that isn’t a risk. It will be open air so again minimal risk. However if you don’t want to go can you suggest an alternative break or let him go with friends?

Biker47 · 04/03/2021 19:33

I'd be going to Download Festival in June this year if it was allowed, past giving a fuck now. Have to wait till next year now.

HelloThereMeHearties · 04/03/2021 19:34

@Gizlotsmum

Ok so in reality you won’t get covid from the toilets (use hand sanitiser etc) the virus can’t survive in sewage so that isn’t a risk. It will be open air so again minimal risk. However if you don’t want to go can you suggest an alternative break or let him go with friends?
Actually, the virus is passed on via faeces.

Fresh air good, dirty loos bad.

HelloThereMeHearties · 04/03/2021 19:37

That's why the Chinese are now doing anal swabs Confused

Gizlotsmum · 04/03/2021 19:39

Is it? Not what we have been told in work must be short lived or fresh faeces

DaisyDreaming · 04/03/2021 19:40

I wouldn’t want to go either but I’d there anything you can do to reduce risk? My friend takes a camping toilet with her and a tent when they go to the beach to avoid having to use public ones although not so nice if you need more than a wee! I wouldn’t book myself but I know a lot of people would

Gizlotsmum · 04/03/2021 19:40

Actually it can be used as an early sign of an infected population but is not active in sewage

DaisyDreaming · 04/03/2021 19:41

I’m sorry people are giving you a hard time on here. As a shielder I get it but lots of people are past caring or worrying about covid

WetJan · 04/03/2021 19:42

I work in a hospital too OP. I have booked a CAMPING holiday and would go to Bestival/Camp Bestival like a bloody shot... except it's well out of price range for a lowly band 6 nurse. Grin

GreenSlide · 04/03/2021 19:44

I wouldn't book it either but only because it's still a bit iffy if any big events will be allowed to go ahead this summer.

Dkfhenzkghsm · 04/03/2021 19:46

That's not my idea of a holiday.

HelloThereMeHearties · 04/03/2021 19:48

@Gizlotsmum

Is it? Not what we have been told in work must be short lived or fresh faeces
Which is exactly what you'll be surrounded by in one of the lovely loos Hmm in Camp Bestival Smile
HelloThereMeHearties · 04/03/2021 19:49

We've all been told to keep the lid down when we flush, to prevent faecal shedding. Surprised you didn't know that, being medical!

HelloThereMeHearties · 04/03/2021 19:51

@DaisyDreaming

I wouldn’t want to go either but I’d there anything you can do to reduce risk? My friend takes a camping toilet with her and a tent when they go to the beach to avoid having to use public ones although not so nice if you need more than a wee! I wouldn’t book myself but I know a lot of people would
The problem with that is that Camp Bestival is big. And you spend most of the day a long way from your tent, using the lovely Hmm communal Portaloos.
HelloThereMeHearties · 04/03/2021 19:52

So, having been to Camp Bestival a couple of times, I can see both of your sides here. Maybe you could compromise? How about going to Eweleaze Farm?

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