To not want to book bestival

[Mumof3girlygirls]

My husband and I have just massively fallen out and I don't know who's more right....
So he's a hospital manager, has had his jab and has seen covid 1st hand as he's been in work every day! I have been locked up at home with a 4 yr old who's only just gone back to nursery. He wants to book Bestival tickets for this year in July/August! 🤔 We are in full lockdown currently with no sign of restriction lifting in Wales anytime soon..... And just the thought of going CAMPING with a virus in a pandemic where the toilets are plastic vile boxes with a 4 year old makes me start to shake! The thought. Disgusts me I can't believe he even suggested it and he's got mad saying he's worked all year with no breaks and needs a holiday..... I think surviving is more important than sitting in a flimsy fabric tent with the virus wooshing past our heads!!! Am I being unreasonable??

You are completely over reacting. YANBU for not wanting to go to a festival if it’s not your thing. Your DH should find someone fun to go with and have a blast. I would if I was him.

I think that if you haven't told him that, actually, you don't really want to go to a festival full stop, covid or no covid, then you should. You need to have an adult to adult discussion. He wants a holiday, and no wonder, but does it have to be this one? Can you reach a compromise?

There are two separate issues here:

1. Your fear of Covid-19. If large-scale festivals are going ahead by August, as a country we are effectively saying the pandemic is over. Everyone will have had their first jab by then and the majority will have had their second. Although I would keep using hand sanitiser for hygiene reasons!

2. Going to a festival. If your horror stems from staying in a muddy field (compounded by Covid-19), then talk to your DH about a compromise. It may be attending the festival and staying nearby. Or renting a caravan/motorhome. Or even going on a traditional "family holiday" nearby in a cottage or holiday park and making the festival part of the trip.

DH is not in the wrong to want a holiday. You are not in the wrong to want one with clean toilets. Talk to him and see if you can both compromise.

Can't he have a break where you'd both enjoy it rather than something just he wants to go to?

You’re being quite ridiculous

It was the public toilets that were a problem for the beach goers etc. When swabs were done, they were covered in Covid. So if Covid is a worry, perhaps don't go. We all hope that there is much virus circulating, but flights will be open, so we don't know.

Aren’t there glamping areas at Bestival?

Yes, but as I said before, CB is very big and a four year old is going to have to use the Portaloos.

Although there are nicer ones you can pay extra for, now I recall.

Let him go to it.
Book something else you can both do
Stop shaking and get a grip?