Removing shoes indoors

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Am interested to know how many people actually have the rule of no shoes indoors.
We've had this rule from when I was young and have carried it on when I moved out. I think it makes sense not to walk all over the house with shoes that have been worn outdoors, who knows what you've stood on and then bringing all that in to your home.
I have shoe covers that I provide to workers.
Especially with young children I think it's even more important not to wear outdoor shoes indoor, carpets/rug will harbour all that dirt no matter how much you Hoover up.

My actual aibu is, if someone came to my house as a guest would it be U for me to ask them to remove their shoes? Obviously in a polite manner.
I feel quite embarrassed having to ask when these people already know.
My current house is all flooring with large rugs everywhere, the main living room is carpet.
I've noticed certain extended family members get annoyed at my request but the way I see it, it's my house, if I don't walk with shoes, why should you when you've chosen to come to my house.

I agree with you but lots of people don’t

We don't wear shoes indoors but only ask guests to take them off when they go upstairs as the carpet is fairly new.

I agree with you but I do find it awkward to ask people to remove their shoes.

I always ask people to take off their shoes.

We used to with cream carpet and the traffic always having to go via the living room.
Now we've got grey vinyl planks so don't always remove shoes. Much more practical and welcoming..... If we ever get visitors

I am always faintly horrified when guests don't take their shoes off without being asked loo

I don't mind removing them in other people's houses but my house is shoes ON

I don't want to see your socks or feet, so it annoys me when I say "please don't remove your shoes" and people still do

Downstairs is either wood or tiles and very few rugs. We all remove our outdoor footwear and wear slippers indoors and have croc type shoes in the utility for nipping outside to do outdoor jobs.

However, I don’t ask guests to remove their shoes although children visiting always seem to follow DS’s lead and remove their shoes.

I think you should give your guests the option to remove their shoes or provide shoe covers. I don’t think it’s reasonable to expect guests to walk around with bare feet or just tights/socks.

Hate shoes indoors - my carpets are light throughout the house, I have no pets and don't want outdoor mess trampled through. My house, my choice. Fortunately my friends and neighbours just slip off their footwear when they arrive - as I do at theirs.

If you have regular visitors who object - keep some of those pull on shoe covers at the door (the ones show homes have).

DH is from a shoes off culture and I was raised in a shoes off house. I don't insist, but most people offer. I also have to go into homes myself as part of my job and always carry shoe covers.

Don't people know any Canadians, Japanese people and North Africans? A lot of the world is shoes off!

We don’t wear shoes in doors, but I’d not dream of asking a guest to remove their shoes, I prefer them to do what they are comfortable with.

Why would anyone wear shoes inside? It's just getting dirt everywhere, just take them off!

To answer the question, it's perfectly polite to say "you can leave your shoes over here" if you don't want to actually tell people. But I'd expect guests to at least offer, not just walk in

We always wore shoes in my house when I grew up but I personally hate it and since having my own house, I’ve always had the shoes off rule. I have a stack of new hotel style slippers that I bought from a wholesalers for those who aren’t a fan but I think in five years, I’ve only used two pairs and they were both for people who were staying over and had forgotten their slippers.

I really don’t like the idea of the outside dirt being on my carpets where I might sit, play with my baby, do exercise etc.

Our ground floor is completely tiled - so vac and mop. We come in wearing shoes but change into slippers, guests can wear shoes inside on the ground floor. No one goes upstairs (carpet) with shoes on though.

We were raised to take our shoes off as soon as we got home, but that was for for comfort thought. Maybe it was cleanliness.

I leave my shoes on if I'm in and out, but take them off if I'm in for the day. But then we have tiles throughout and dogs anyway.

If I go to other people's houses I ask if they want me to take my shoes off.

I think it seems normal in most houses to take shoes off even though we don't always.
I would always assume I had to take my shoes off in someone elses house even if they said nothing because it just seems the way everyone(else!) does it!
After spending a day rug doctoring our light colour carpet when the kids were small I mooted the idea and DH was against it, so we never adopted the practice ourselves although I do tend to wear slippers or socks mostly and the kids have bare feet.

I agree. Shoes off always indoors, i’m slightly more lenient with my son as he can rush inside and I like to pick my battles.. But anyone old enough to know, does know shoes off at the mat when you first come inside.

It’s one of the first things I ask people when I first go to their home or meet the parents/friends/family. Before we even get to the house, “Do they prefer shoes on or off indoors?”.

I'm not sure I would ask, but I would place a mat outside and another one inside, along with shoe covers.

I think people should check when they visit. There are usually all sorts of clues about shoe expectations when you visit someone, which should at the least lead to the question, 'Would you prefer if I took off my shoes?'

A lot of people are pretty rude and entitled though, and many have a chip on their shoulder about ' forrin' habits.

We don't wear shoes in the house, we all have slippers. But we only have carpets upstairs so I don't ask guests to take theirs off (though most do).

I ask most people to remove shoes. I only started when a visitor walked dog shit throughout downstairs and on my rug. Not a good mix with young children.

Shoes on here. Mostly wood flooring, only ours and babys room is carpeted. I dont like peoples feet out in our house, it's weird and too familiar.

I take my shoes off if asked, if I think your house is particularly nice I will ask if you want me to take my shoes off. But I like my shoes on.

We take our shoes off but I don't ask guests to.

Shoes on here. I think it's rude to ask people to take their shoes off. Fortunately none of our friends are that sort of person.

@MrsTerryPratchett also pretty much all of Asia! Raised in a culture where shoes in the house is seen as a sign of disrespect to your hosts so whilst I wouldn't enforce it I do prefer it.

Luckily most people who come over to my house are the kind who'd take their shoes off anyway and make themselves comfy.