Removing shoes indoors

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Am interested to know how many people actually have the rule of no shoes indoors.
We've had this rule from when I was young and have carried it on when I moved out. I think it makes sense not to walk all over the house with shoes that have been worn outdoors, who knows what you've stood on and then bringing all that in to your home.
I have shoe covers that I provide to workers.
Especially with young children I think it's even more important not to wear outdoor shoes indoor, carpets/rug will harbour all that dirt no matter how much you Hoover up.

My actual aibu is, if someone came to my house as a guest would it be U for me to ask them to remove their shoes? Obviously in a polite manner.
I feel quite embarrassed having to ask when these people already know.
My current house is all flooring with large rugs everywhere, the main living room is carpet.
I've noticed certain extended family members get annoyed at my request but the way I see it, it's my house, if I don't walk with shoes, why should you when you've chosen to come to my house.

No shoes indoors ever. Really can't understand why you would. I have wooden floors downstairs but same rule. Will make an exception for workmen

Yeah I get people to take them off tbh - we have bloody white hardwood floors (it’s a rental so not our choice) they get filthy otherwise

@HeyDemonsItsYaGirl

If your guests have any manners they'll walk in, see the shoes by the door and you barefoot, and take theirs off without being asked. If they don't have any manners you shouldn't feel bad about reminding them to take off their shoes.

If you have manners you don't tell guests to remove shoes. Very rude.

I take my shoes off whenever I enter someone’s house, totally on instinct. My friends and family all do the same. Thinking about it, I can’t think of the last time I wore shoes indoors anywhere. Very much the default around here, and considered rude not to. I wonder if it’s regional??

I never ask people to take there shoes off. My Ddad can't walk without shoes after a bad break to his foot. He's also no so mobile anymore so can't take them off without sitting down. YABU

The shoe rule helped to move some nasty family from my life lol. They thought rules didn't apply to them because you must respect your elders. My house, my rules, if you don't like it don't visit.

I provide covers for anyone who wants them. Also have an assortment of washable slippers/socks including ones friends have found on their travels.

I started removing them when I was a child as it make no sense in school we had indoor and outdoor shoes. At home track everything around with you. When toxic family used to take the piss, I would sit silently smiling as I grew up believing the hypocritical tripe if you have nothing nice to say don't say anything, thinking oh I'm gonna have fun with you when I'm old enough haha

Got cream carpets, you come into my house with your shoes on I'm going to scream at you 😂

Here family know it's shoes off so I don't have to ask. I wouldn't ask a professional though to remove their shoes. Have had SALT, OT Ed Psych LA people visit and would never have asked them to remove their shoes.

I have somewhere to sit near the door, always have even with it was just a foldable chair. The foldable ones were a pain to get as a lot start to collapse if you don't sit on them correctly or start to tip over. If I didn't I would be either walking around with shoes on, or falling over lol.

No I do not ask my guests to take their shoes off because I'm not rude.

"I have multiple Ikea slippers in small and large size for guests kept in basket by front door."

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I have no interest in your IKEA slippers. Would prefer a shoe cover to be honest. I can't walk in bare feet. I think it's fine if you let your guests know so they can bring something they are happy to wear indoors.
I think with dc you do get used to taking shoes off indoors as they are messy sods.
I haven't seen a shoe thread since before covid so I feel this is maybe a sign things are getting back to normal

Agree.

Shoes indoors is disgusting.

Lots would disagree but horses for courses and all that...

I allow shoes in my home.
However, when visiting friends, family etc I always offer to remove my shoes.
I certainly don't get offended if I'm asked to remove my shoes.

@Clymene

No I do not ask my guests to take their shoes off because I'm not rude.

How is it rude to not want scummy carpet and people bringing muck inside?

Why don't you just wear socks if your embarrassed of your feet. Or bring plastic shoes covers.

@Ginevere

I take my shoes off whenever I enter someone’s house, totally on instinct. My friends and family all do the same. Thinking about it, I can’t think of the last time I wore shoes indoors anywhere. Very much the default around here, and considered rude not to. I wonder if it’s regional??

I've always thought of it as more of a class thing.

Shoes off here. And if I visit I will take my shoes off too. I would not ask a visitor to remove shoes but I would hope that me wearing slippers, and the shoes at the door would be enough of a indication to please take off shoes.

I don't ask but most people do.. except for my mil who wears shoes all day!! Don't get it. She trailed mid all through our house once. I feel really uncomfortable with them on inside but love my slippers

Mumsnet is always quite polarised on this. I think people need to respect other peoples views, meaning the if people prefer shoes off in house - then everyone who visits take their shoes off. If people prefer shoes on, then everyone who visits keeps their shoes on. The hosts rules are the ones that should be followed in my opinion.

Shoes off in my house. It’s vile wearing shoes indoors.mi like to keep my carpets and floors clean. Shies off for all visitors too - I find it very rude when someone attempts to walk in my house with shoes on.

All my friends houses are shoes off too. Apart from one person, who is lovely but is not arsed and her carpets always need a good hoover anyway.

Shoeless here, but I have a huge basket of slippers in various sizes so nobody gets cold feet.

I didn't have a shoeless house growing up, but now I really do see how much worse it is for dirt and wear on the carpet. Always take my shoes off in other people's houses.

I think it’s a class thing. I’m shoes off. Even in my kids school it’s shoes off, even adults. (Not in the U.K. ) Everywhere is always nice a clean, much nicer. My family are shoes on - not for me thanks. I take slippers with me when I visit them. I don’t ask them to take theirs off here, but they must have noticed it’s a no shoes house and choose to take theirs off when at our house.

Shoes on but I have hard floors throughout. I take my own off if I want to relax though.

We're shoes off and pretty much all of my friends are too but we weren't brought up that way and I can't for the life of me work out when we all switched over.

I don't actually care what other people do. I find it more comfortable but I don't value super cleanliness, so I don't care if other people have walked in shoes where I'm walking barefoot, and I'm happy to go outside barefoot if it's a nice to walk on surface.

When people come round I tell them they can leave their shoes in the closet if they like, but it's fine if they want to keep them on (then I take mine off). If I visit I follow the cues from my host (I.e take shoes off if they are barefoot, keep them on if not).

100% agree. Shoes in your house is gross. Most of my friends and family automatically take their shoes off when they come here because they do the same at their home. We have one couple who come and keep their shoes on. I would never say anything to them though.