Removing shoes indoors

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Am interested to know how many people actually have the rule of no shoes indoors.
We've had this rule from when I was young and have carried it on when I moved out. I think it makes sense not to walk all over the house with shoes that have been worn outdoors, who knows what you've stood on and then bringing all that in to your home.
I have shoe covers that I provide to workers.
Especially with young children I think it's even more important not to wear outdoor shoes indoor, carpets/rug will harbour all that dirt no matter how much you Hoover up.

My actual aibu is, if someone came to my house as a guest would it be U for me to ask them to remove their shoes? Obviously in a polite manner.
I feel quite embarrassed having to ask when these people already know.
My current house is all flooring with large rugs everywhere, the main living room is carpet.
I've noticed certain extended family members get annoyed at my request but the way I see it, it's my house, if I don't walk with shoes, why should you when you've chosen to come to my house.

Sorry but I hate it. I'd hate being asked to do it because id feel awkward and uncomfortable, not to mention unwelcome. and I'd never ever ask anyone to do it. Obviously if you're talking about very muddy wellies or dirty footwear then that's different. But normal footwear never. Floors are meant and designed to be walked on. (It screams posh to me. Sorry if I offend anyone but it does).

I was brought up by a snob of a mother to believe that asking people to remove shoes is very working class.

It's kind of stuck tbh.

If you have manners you don't tell guests to remove shoes. Very rude.

Luckily our guests have manners so they don’t need to be asked.

@Covidatemyhomework

Mumsnet is always quite polarised on this. I think people need to respect other peoples views, meaning the if people prefer shoes off in house - then everyone who visits take their shoes off. If people prefer shoes on, then everyone who visits keeps their shoes on. The hosts rules are the ones that should be followed in my opinion.

if people could follow this simple concept, how much easier would life be!

Why do people start taking someone else's choice as a personal attack, and start passive aggressive or snarky remarks about "class" is beyond me.

Some people love carpets, others wouldn't have anything else than hard floor. Do you take that personally too?

Sorry but anyone who gets offended by being asked to take their shoes off needs to grow a thicker skin. How precious.

I don't think it's part of English culture to remove shoes .
Just wiping feet properly on a doormat is the norm.
I'd only do it if I was provided with foot coverings

We never wear shoes in the house but we also don't ask guests to take theirs off. It's appreciated if they do, though.

It’s gross. If they won’t take their shoes off they put shoe covers on or they don’t get in.

Makes me wonder what the point of wearing nice shoes is when you go to someone's home

We encourage every visitor to remove their shoes, in fact we go further and ask them to remove all their clothes! We're not animals of course and so we have a plentiful supply of Mawashi to preserve everyone's modesty - well that's what we do at our Bible classes but we do understand that it may not suit everybody.

I will always oblige if asked to take shoes off, but it's so rude when people make you take them off before you've even crossed the threshold. And even worse if they have hard floors and make you remove your clean shoes while they walk around in slippers

I grew up in a culture that has a store of guest slippers for this express purpose. Usually in the form of open flip flops rather than fluffy. I can’t think of the last time someone came into my house and didn’t automatically take off their shoes to be honest - workman aside.

We are a shoes off household. I lived overseas for 25 years in countries where nobody would dream of keeping their shoes on, anyone coming to your home for maintenance would bring their own shoe covers.
I ask everyone to remove their shoes or use covers and always take my shoes off when I visit someone’s home.
When ds was at school in Austria all kids left their outdoor shoes in the cloakroom and wore slippers in the classroom.

I think it's disrespectful to wear shoes inside someone's home.

@Shrivelled

Sorry but anyone who gets offended by being asked to take their shoes off needs to grow a thicker skin. How precious.

Or maybe it's the people obsessing about their impractical cream carpets who are the precious ones?

If someone refused to take their shoes off I wouldn’t let them in, I don’t want your dirty shoes trampled all over my house. If someone is offended and doesn’t want to come back, I’m quite happy with that

Definitely a shoes off house

@Dkfhenzkghsm

I think it's disrespectful to wear shoes inside someone's home.

It’s only disrespectful if the homeowner doesn’t want you to wear shoes. If the homeowner would prefer you to wear shoes (and some do) then surely it would be disrespectful to go against that and take them off?

@Dkfhenzkghsm

I think it's disrespectful to wear shoes inside someone's home.

it's disrespectful to wear shoes inside someone's house WHO ASKED YOU to remove them.

There, fixed it for you.

It’s only disrespectful if the homeowner doesn’t want you to wear shoes. If the homeowner would prefer you to wear shoes (and some do) then surely it would be disrespectful to go against that and take them off?

exactly.
I can't stand people who take their shoes off in my house, I don't want your grubby and smelly socks thank you. It's even worst in the summer if someone decides to walk bare feet It's gross.

I judge at lot inside if I have to take my shoes off, and I tend to get cold, but I wouldn't be so rude as ignoring your request!

If keeping shoes on indoors is "posh" then I'm fucking glad I'm not posh.

My mother always makes a huff and puff about taking her shoes off but they are always so dirty and she isn't the most hygienic person. She doesn't care that she has a rat infestation or her dogs control the house and I'm not having her bring those germs inside especially when my husband prays on our floor.

In my personal opinion, it is VERY dirty to have your outside shoes on inside

If someone won’t remove their shoes or wear shoe covers they simply won’t be allowed in.

The only exception is someone with a disability, I would just make sure to vacuum and clean the floors afterwards.

@therealteamdebbie

It’s only disrespectful if the homeowner doesn’t want you to wear shoes. If the homeowner would prefer you to wear shoes (and some do) then surely it would be disrespectful to go against that and take them off?

exactly.
I can't stand people who take their shoes off in my house, I don't want your grubby and smelly socks thank you. It's even worst in the summer if someone decides to walk bare feet It's gross.

I judge at lot inside if I have to take my shoes off, and I tend to get cold, but I wouldn't be so rude as ignoring your request!

And I'm sure they wouldn't want your grubby shoes all over their floor?

We don't wear shoes indoors but I don't enforce it with guests.

First world problems eh 😆

How on earth do people cope in offices? Or shops? They must be ill all the time from all the horrific germy shoes being worn!