To wonder if other SAHM feel guilty

[Rosebyanothername19]

I know looking after children isn't exactly a holiday, but I still feel guilty for not having to go to work.
We are in a very fortunate position that I don't need to and for that I am extremely grateful.

We are renovating a house and I still do some work for our company and I'm in the process of setting up another company but I dont have the day to day stress that my husband does and juggle everything he has to. I also have help from my mil and my dm a couple of times a week. I really enjoy everything I do and I try to get a couple of hours to myself a week.

Just wondering if anyone else has SAHM guilt?

You don't need to feel guilty. I work full time and I would not trade places with a SAHM even if I won the lottery. I find being at home day after day with only young children for company to be such a grind. Conversely, I really like my job. I find it hard but interesting and I like the busy-ness of it.

@Holly60 that is a very good point! I will do! Thank you!

As long as you're happy that's all that matters.

I found it so very boring, so much so that when I gave birth to my 3rd child on a Friday night, I was back at my desk the following Monday morning.

what do you feel guilty over? I couldn’t spot the reason in the op

Op enjoy if it works well for you. Im home for now. Have worked too. House runs easier at moment. Chased our tails both doing FT.

When I was a sahm I felt not a jot of guilt. I thought my DH got the good side of the deal and still do. And, so does he.

Is the issue that you feel guilty because your DH isn’t enjoying his life and you are, and his work funds you to live a life you enjoy?

I think I would feel guilty about that, yes. But it isn’t necessarily your fault - maybe you need to look more closely at why he’s unhappy.

For what it’s worth, I think a lot of women (well, mothers) feel guilty, whatever they do.

Nah, next!
Boasting not guilty. Could it be that you have your words mixed up due to ya know talking to a toddler all day

No.
But I am currently a trailing spouse and it is taking forever to sort my work stuff out.
So I feel rather grumpy and a bit fed up that everyone else gets to work/school and I'm stuck at home.
I volunteer but it isn't quite the same.
This is a sacrifice I've made for the good of family.

I stopped "working" when my DS arrived 13 years ago. No guilt. It's our choice

@OhGodNotThisAgain that my husband has the lions share of the stress of running our company, managing our staff and keeping a roof over our head where I just have to make sure I manage 1 small person and keep what is under that roof in order.

Look if people really think I'm just boasting or being 'goady' the reason I'm asking is that my DC was very ill when born and spent a long time in hospital. I didnt cope very well for a long time after and was eventually diagnosed with PND and PTSD. I'm recovering now and doing so, so much better and almost back to being me but I wasn't sure if the guilt I'm feeling was a 'normal' thing or part of the PND/PTSD.

Hope that clears it up!

Thanks to everyone for their help and for those who have given words of advice and support! I appreciate it!

depends on why your a SAHM, we can't really afford childcare and my parents still work so no childcare there, i dont really have an option, its not always a privilege