My sister and Facebook [Titled edited by MNHQ]

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My sister is driving me mad and I can't understand why her behaviour makes me so angry. I know it doesn't affect me and I try to ignore but grrrrrrrr
She loves FB and posts several times a day about EVERYTHING. Most of it I can ignore but Funerals and anniversary's of people passing are just wrong. I think it's so distasteful and now she has used a photo of me with the person who passed and I'm livid.
I'm not sure there is a solution but I would be interested in why this makes me so angry.

just block and ignore and stop being a judgypants

oh and tell her to take the photo down or you'll report it to facebook - tell her clearly that you don'T give´her permission to upload photos of you

I'd ask for the title to be changed. Hardly a whore for using fb to much. Just unfollow her or block her it's that simple.

If I had to choose between someone who posted on facebook several times a day, and someone who called their sister a whore for posting on facebook, I would choose the facebook poster

You really wouldn't

Omg she's not saying her sister is a literal whore , some people are willfully stupid
You have to ignore or block op, but I get how you feel
I also call the cat a food whore and the dog a treat whore

Oh and it's not using FB too much, it's the subject matter she is using to get likes.
I know I should just ignore but I want to understand why it makes me so angry.

A lot of people post on the anniversary of someone passing. Lots of times they post a photo of the person or they do a written post. I've come across it lots of times.

Her account so she can post whatever she likes on there. Maybe she didn't have another photo of the person apart from the one that had you in it? For lots they like to know that people have been remembered on their anniversaries.

For that, if you don't post any photos of yourself type thing then maybe she should have asked you but I suspect she doesn't know you disapprove of posting for someone's anniversary.

Others also share funeral arrangements so people know.

Lots are using social media a whole lot more for basic social interaction due to lockdown and it having been going on for as long as it has done.

Mute her posts if it gets you so worked up or be honest with her and I suspect she will be happy to remove you!

Sorry I don’t really understand what she’s done, what’s the background here?

Some people do post their entire life on FB and if it doesn't harm others then let them be. Ask her to take your picture down though.
I think some are bored or lonely. Some previous to covid might have like to show off. Other reasons no doubt.
Sometimes people might like life to look better than it is and create an online life.

If it is hurting no one else I'd say try to scroll past

I have a friend that is very conscious of how she looks and craves likes and posts pictures that are so filtered that barely look like her (think no wrinkles, perfect skin, changed face shape etc) and people say how beautiful she looks etc. Again not hurting anyone, unless she goes missing, they would never find her! I think she us just lonely, no harm though

I’d bet lots of people have quietly unfriended or unfollowed her, you won’t be the only person who is thinking this.
It’s quite self centred to keep posting like this but you can choose whether to be in her audience so unfriend/unfollow.
There will be lots of posters along soon who will tell you YABU - she can do what she wants without you judging what she posts. Ignoring that it is a public platform, specifically made for people to judge each other. They are the ones who post this rubbish relentlessly, most of us just unfollow them.

Go and have a walk outside in the sunshine OP.

It will do you good.

Lots of people share anniversaries of people passing and funerals. 🤷🏻‍♀️

But to post from the actual funeral?

If she's your sister just message her straight and tell what you think. 🤷🏻‍♀️

How does one ‘post’ an actual funeral

From the funeral, while you are there by checking in

Well, you can try to change her, or you can change yourself. As an adult, those are your options. So, tell her you want her to take down the photo of you and tell her why. If she doesn't respect your feelings, leave her to it and take matters into your own hands; report it to FB.

Then, STOP LOOKING AT WHAT SHE POSTS. You're an adult. Stop visiting a (virtual) place, if it pisses you off. You are responsible for how much time you choose to allocate in your life to things that make you happy and things that make you unhappy. Just start choosing better.

I believe you can choose to see fewer of people’s posts, without actually unfriending them?

It’s distasteful to post from a funeral I agree but more distasteful to use disgusting derogatory language towards another women let alone your own sister. Neither of you come across well.

Sharing a photo or a few words on FB on the anniversary of someone having died is totally normal. In the olden days people would often put the same kind of thing in the ‘In memoriam’ bit of the local paper.

Has she always been this way or has it got worse during the past year?

Oh get a grip! I didn't mean she sells her body

That's right - I remember that part of the local papers! Every year relatives of mine would be mentioned. As standard.

It is very wrong to be posting on face book from a funeral.

However we all express ourselves differently and that is ok. You are unreasonable to be so nasty about someone who just uses social media more than you.

Ask her to change the photo she has used and unfollow her.