Page 3 | My sister and Facebook [Titled edited by MNHQ]

LouJ85 · 27/02/2021 10:10

The irony of these FB whinge threads always amuses me.

People come on here to complain that others are sharing details of their lives with others, for validation. Then, instead of simply unfollowing said people, ignoring it, or coming off FB, they come on a different internet platform to share the details and complain.

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partyatthepalace · 27/02/2021 10:14

@User3covid

Some people don’t get that ‘social media whore’ is not a ‘whore’.. they’re not the same thing.

A social media whore is someone who cannot bare to not upload their entire life to a website and wait for approval from strangers rather to an actually live their lives.

Microdosing themselves with dopamine all day/everyday.

I know what social media whore means, as a light term. The aggressive way the OP is using it calls to mind the use of whore as a really unpleasant insult. Bitch has similar duel uses.

As soon as they are used in anger or frustration they become aggressive words.

Eckhart · 27/02/2021 10:15

@LouJ85

The irony of these FB whinge threads always amuses me.

People come on here to complain that others are sharing details of their lives with others, for validation. Then, instead of simply unfollowing said people, ignoring it, or coming off FB, they come on a different internet platform to share the details and complain.

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That's a very good point. It's all about external validation.

LouJ85 · 27/02/2021 10:17

@Eckhart precisely! And not one person who's made a FB whinge thread so far that I've seen, can see the blinding irony of accusing others of "needing" validation, then doing the same on here albeit anonymously.

ChancesWhatChances · 27/02/2021 10:17

So I get jumped on for calling a prostitute floating over married men having affairs with her and blaming the wives of cheating scumbags a whore, but OP calling her sister who is not selling herself for sex a whore is ok?

ChancesWhatChances · 27/02/2021 10:18

*gloating, not floating

Branleuse · 27/02/2021 10:19

I dont like the idea of posting from a funeral, but this sort of etiquette can be hard to decipher for some groups of people. I remember all sorts of massive social faux pas i have done throughout my life and cringe about them at 3am. Noone tells you this stuff. You just kind of work it out along the way by how much everyone hates you

Doingitaloneandproud · 27/02/2021 10:20

@LouJ85

The irony of these FB whinge threads always amuses me.

People come on here to complain that others are sharing details of their lives with others, for validation. Then, instead of simply unfollowing said people, ignoring it, or coming off FB, they come on a different internet platform to share the details and complain.

🤦🏼‍♀️😂

I agree, I think they want to post somewhere where they will get people agreeing with them. If you don't want to use FB don't, if you don't want to see someone's post, mute or unfriend them. It really is not that complicated.

lolulop · 27/02/2021 10:20

Yuck super distasteful to post from a funeral. Is she related to the deceased?

PurpleFlower1983 · 27/02/2021 10:22

Just unfollow her.

Ginfilledcats · 27/02/2021 10:22

For people who are horrified by op calling her sister a whore, the term "Facebook whore" is a term used to describe someone who just posts for attention and to get "likes" and prides herself on having 1000s of "friends". It's not very nice terminology no, but she's not calling her an actual whore

Op - as others have said, message her to take the pic of you down, then unfollow her!

lolulop · 27/02/2021 10:23

I don't understand why people get so worked up about things you can change in the click of a button

I don't use fb but still get worked up
about people filming accidents or the Kardashian's promoting pregnancy drugs or weight loss things.

MNHQ

YetAnotherBeckyMumsnet · 27/02/2021 10:24

Hello @thecheekofitagain. We've edited your title as it was getting a lot of reports and would have probably derailed your thread.

lolulop · 27/02/2021 10:26

A lot of posters on MNs seem to like social media attention & see nothing wrong with posting from hospitals, accidents, funerals etc & think you should just unfollow so you probably won't get much advice OP.

LouJ85 · 27/02/2021 10:26

I agree, I think they want to post somewhere where they will get people agreeing with them

Exactly! Sister is apparently getting validation from others on FB in the form of "likes", OP is seeking validation here in the form of anonymous posters agreeing with her viewpoint.

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lolulop · 27/02/2021 10:27

Can't you say that about every mumsnet thread though? Surely the point is not so much validation but why the need for validation at a funeral?

SnottyLottie · 27/02/2021 10:28

I know a few people like this. Unfortunately, DH’s cousin found out from a family member that their grandmother was terminally ill and decided to post it this news on Facebook. This was how DH found out! The cousin was told off by family members and deleted the post but the damage was already done and a lot of their family found out this way. All because this person (an adult man) got his kicks from facebooks likes and wanted to be the first to make it Facebook official, getting all the sympathy comments and likes that posts like these generate.

I would ask her to that the photograph of you down as you don’t want randoms you don’t know viewing personal photos. I think you can even report it to Facebook and ask them
to take it down (maybe look into it, I’m not 100% sure)? Then either block and delete her (harsh but effective) or simply unfollow her so she doesn’t appear in your newsfeed.

LouJ85 · 27/02/2021 10:31

@lolulop

Can't you say that about every mumsnet thread though? Surely the point is not so much validation but why the need for validation at a funeral?

I'm specifically referring to threads where it goes down the route of "they're just seeking attention / validation on FB by wanting people to like their photos" etc (given the title was "My sister the Facebook likes whore", I felt it relevant). OP is complaining that she's posts details of her life for others to see, etc.

My point is - why has OP posted here, other than to seek others' validation of her viewpoint about her sister? It's not in the form of photos and "likes", but it's a form of seeking validation.

And - you can very easily hide another person's FB content if you so wish. But no one ever does - they just come here to complain about seeing it every day. 🤦🏼‍♀️

I just find it ironic.

RickOShay · 27/02/2021 10:33

There’s nothing you can do about the amount she posts, but you can ask her not to post anything about you.
Deep breaths. You can’t control what other people do, however annoying you find it.
Think about why you are so angry. Might be helpful for you.

lolulop · 27/02/2021 10:35

The OP specifically says Most of it I can ignore but Funerals and anniversary's of people passing are just wrong.

and the trigger was a photo of the OP.

I don't understand your point because of the photo of the OP.

LouJ85 · 27/02/2021 10:35

Surely the point is not so much validation but why the need for validation at a funeral?

I don't believe posting at a funeral is about seeking validation as such - I wouldn't personally do it, but each to their own. People express grief in different ways I suppose, so I wouldn't judge someone for posting at a funeral if I saw it on my newsfeed. It's not the same as seeking "likes" on a filtered selfie, I think the motivation for posting is likely to be different to that ...

but I'm not really debating the "appropriateness" or not of posting from a funeral or what motivates someone to do so. I'm commenting on the irony of these threads where posters say it annoys them that others share every last detail of their lives on FB - then come here to share it.

LouJ85 · 27/02/2021 10:40

@lolulop

The OP specifically says Most of it I can ignore but Funerals and anniversary's of people passing are just wrong.

and the trigger was a photo of the OP.

I don't understand your point because of the photo of the OP.

The original title gave away OP's feelings on the matter quite clearly, though - she views her sister as someone desperate for "likes" and SM validation. And the fact she types "everything" in capitals in her OP - it clearly irritates her that her sister shares so much of her life with others via SM. I don't think the funeral issue is the main one, at all. I think it's broader than that - I think it's a general irritation at her sister, in her view, oversharing on FB.

lolulop · 27/02/2021 10:41

I was on a thread talking about the killer from don't fuck with cats. Now we may have all be seeking validation that are opinions that he was a weird attention seeking awful human being were correct doesn't mean we were wrong though.

I think it's distasteful to post from funerals & accidents and particularly when family members have yet to find out sensitive information like in pp example. I don't understand why people do post these things. I don't care whether people disagree with me or not, it won't change my opinion.

lazylump72 · 27/02/2021 10:41

She sounds very childish,insecure and attention seeking to me OP. However I look at fb it is barmy! I have people posting poems to dead husbands on my thread and selling stuff and well its just such a load of old tosh and quite distasteful.My way of dealing with it is to keep quite and keep scrolling!! Dont pander to any of it ,do your own thing and keep your comman sense and dignity,,,think thats all you can do. I look at fb as a pathetic game playing platform,Either people are bragging about their best lives,trying to scam you or making themselves look inept,its nothing more than that to me.

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thecheekofitagain · 27/02/2021 10:41

My post is hardly sharing details of my likes. Oh and I was trying to understand why it makes me angry. I don't need anyone's validation thanks

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