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to ask if you ever wonder about certain posters/threads?

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mxmxm · 26/02/2021 13:39

i’ve used MN for years, and i often think about particular threads or posters that stuck out to me or i interacted with ages ago that i haven’t been able to find (or just seemed to stop posting without a trace) since then.

anyone else get strangely nostalgic/curious thinking back to threads/posters and wonder what became of them?

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okletsdothis · 27/02/2021 00:46

I often think about the poster whose husband ended up having some kind of psychotic break, and being admitted to a psychiatric facility.

I think the original thread about her husband started out fairly innocuous, but over the course of many months and several different threads the situation escalated, and it became clear that he was suffering from a serious mental illness. OP later discovered his notebooks full of delusional and paranoid thoughts.

The last I remember was that he was still hospitalised, and OP was pushing on with a divorce. I really hope she and her dc are okay now.

DolphinsAndNemesis · 27/02/2021 00:48

Many of the threads referenced here were troll threads. MN is a magnet for trolls, alas. I really feel for MNHQ, it must be a nightmare dealing with them all.

gurglebelly · 27/02/2021 00:48

There was one about a couple that split up and he refused to let her and her older kids in the living room, but was obsessed with the toddler who was his daughter. He was refusing to take her to nursery, and was taking her to work with him etc and the OP was having real issues with him

gurglebelly · 27/02/2021 00:54

@okletsdothis

I often think about the poster whose husband ended up having some kind of psychotic break, and being admitted to a psychiatric facility.

I think the original thread about her husband started out fairly innocuous, but over the course of many months and several different threads the situation escalated, and it became clear that he was suffering from a serious mental illness. OP later discovered his notebooks full of delusional and paranoid thoughts.

The last I remember was that he was still hospitalised, and OP was pushing on with a divorce. I really hope she and her dc are okay now.

There are still updates on this one but not so regularly as the legal process is taking a long time - the OP is Jamaisjedores or something similar
smellyolddog · 27/02/2021 01:00

I sobbed over a thread maybe 18 months ago where a poster lost her 7 year old boy to cancer. It was heartbreaking and I wonder how she is.

And is stealth polarbear still around? I remember anyfucker and stealth being regulars, I've seen anyfucker recently getting some stick fit having a second home and struggling.

I do get invested, but only a few stick!

I think my favourite one is in classics when someone accidentally sprayed half a pigeon with cresote..

Rubybluesy · 27/02/2021 01:06

Who remembers When will I feel normal

freckles20 · 27/02/2021 01:06

I remember years and years ago a poster who had lost her partner / husband and was desperately struggling to care for herself and her DC. She needed help to declutter, sort her home, and get herself back in track. Some days she couldn't get up.

There were lots of threads full of lovely mumsnetters willing her on, and more than once several visited her in person to help.

She was lovely, I often wonder about her and I hope she is ok.

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mxmxm · 27/02/2021 01:12

[quote Oldat40]@SEE123 My pregnancy went really well thank you and I had a wonderful home birth. She's now 9 months and a very, very special little girl. I still live in fear that she will be taken away from me as were my boys, but I'm having help with these feelings and allowing myself to love her without so much fear x[/quote]
this is lovely and i’m so glad you’re getting help and have your beautiful baby girl. sending you so much love Flowers

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mxmxm · 27/02/2021 01:16

OH! anyone remember the ones from years ago (we’re talking prehistoric here) where OP walked in on her husband masturbating to pots and pans in German?? it turned out to be a regular poster who’d NC’d just for fun and everyone had a laugh, it may be in classics now but i’m not sure

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BluePeterVag · 27/02/2021 01:18

I enjoyed reading ESD’a posts.

I remember the family that paid for a garden building and it all went wrong. I wonder if they ever got their money back.

Oldat40 · 27/02/2021 01:18

@mxmxm Aw thank you so much. Life is still incredibly tough but I have to keep going for the sake of my kids 😊

GeidiPrimes · 27/02/2021 01:21

Who remembers Gabby Loggon? He would get all worked up about Kew Gardens and Gabby Logan.

Tavannach · 27/02/2021 01:45

There was a poster in January who’d been admitted to hospital with pre-eclampsia at 37 weeks. It was her first baby and she was a bit scared and lonely. Her DH could only come in to the hospital in one of the timed visiting slots because of restrictions. She posted regularly for 24 hours and then nothing. I often think of her and hope she and the baby are okay.

HeyDemonsItsYaGirl · 27/02/2021 01:51

Sometimes I think about the one who said she was in a polygamous relationship (though it really just seemed the man was screwing around and his wife didn't have the energy to divorce him) and had several long-running threads about it. She constantly insisted on involving her children in the 'relationship' and wouldn't listen to anybody. I often wonder if her kids are in therapy yet.

TheLittleRedToothbrush · 27/02/2021 01:54

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JamesMiddletonsMarshmallows · 27/02/2021 02:05

I miss ESD. I remember a thread where she was concerned she was posting too much on MN because someone in a shop shouted "Derek" and she turned and said "yes?" GrinGrin

Also have wondered where expat and BupcakesandCunting went

JamesMiddletonsMarshmallows · 27/02/2021 02:12

Obviously the person in the shop wasn't talking to her but someone who was actually called Derek!

kittensmittens1 · 27/02/2021 02:32

Sending love, you are all in my thoughts OP.

SEE123 · 27/02/2021 02:33

[quote Oldat40]@SEE123 Oh my goodness. That was my old username and I honestly am touched (and surprised!) you remembered me.
My situation is now sadly worse with my ex taking me to court for further custody so I see my boys just EOW. He has turned my 13 yo against me so much I fear it may happen.
I battle on... x[/quote]
I'm so pleased to hear that you had a healthy and safe delivery. Thanks for popping up under the new username to update. He's such a bastard and you've done amazingly well to keep fighting. Your kids are lucky to have you ❤️ all the best

Alexindiamondarmour · 27/02/2021 02:38

Does anyone remember the lady who went by the name coatsprotectionleague? She had found out her husband was having an affair, but didn’t tell him she knew. She was so disgusted by him, he would send cringeworthy selfies to the OW whilst the OP was outside the house and could see what he was doing through a window.

So she made a plan to leave and was spending up big at supermarkets etc on stuff and was storing it all in a storage locker.
It was about 5/6 years ago now. I always wonder how she got on and if she got managed to leave.

Dontforgetyourbrolly · 27/02/2021 02:38

The one where someone was using a washing machine or tumble dryer in the op's outhouse . Did that mystery get solved ?
I sometimes wonder about the trolls too ....what is going on in their lives that they have to resort to things like that ?

AlternativePerspective · 27/02/2021 02:58

@ @mxmxm** that poster with the friend called Tom was a troll.

I’ve been around for ever and tbh I consider the vast majority of dramatic posts to be trolls. When I first joined mn was more of a real community because there were so much fewer then, so people followed threads.

Such as misdee whose h had a heart transplant.

I’ve often wondered what happened to Riven, but tbh I think that Riven’s story brought out the worst in MN. She posted on here that she was struggling, and before she knew it posters were tweeting it to the daily mail and similar because they felt it should gain attention but Riven was harassed by the tabloids after that. In fact IIRC that was the reason why Riven left mn because she had essentially been outed and posters did it believing they were doing it for her benefit, but she’d never been asked if that was ok. Far worse than the Daily mail actually lifting threads, posters were throwing it at them.

The one with the “smelly minge” was “UCM is that you?” Grin

Bloodybridget · 27/02/2021 03:18

I wonder why BertrandRussell stopped posting, she was a prolific poster, and certainly not a troll.

OldGreyBoots · 27/02/2021 03:20

I sometimes think about the first thread I got invested in on here, it was a suspected cheating husband and the OP was finding train tickets that didn't add up, odd receipts etc. OP was getting ready to confront him, I think she maybe did confirm he was cheating. Think OP was Scottish, I had such a strong urge to offer to meet up! Would have been 4-6 years ago and I'll never find out how she is now, but I often wonder.

ReadingIsFundamental · 27/02/2021 05:26

BeegeeTee Thanks so much for the update, I’m glad to hear it all worked out so well.

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