Help - Pregnant or Menopause?

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Advice/insight needed...
I'm 42, periods as regular as clockwork and I'm 10 days late. Have never used contraception for well over 15 years (withdrawal) I know, I know, I know it's not impossible and really need to take a test but it's just I suppose I'm just kind of in a not knowing/denial state of mind. I've had my usual pre period issues, felt crampy but no sore/achy boobs (which is my main symptom) I'm not stressed out out, have no health issues, have put a little weight on during lockdown - who hasn't 🤷🥰, only issue I'm having at the moment is broken sleep.
I haven't told DH I'm late (it's his birthday today anyway so don't think that would go down well as he blows out his candles) I just don't know if I'm too old to get pregnant or too young to be the start of Menopause. It's 24 years since my last pregnancy and I can't recall my early symptoms at all. Any kind words of encouragement or comfort appreciated 😌

Get a pregnancy test. Sorted.

^ that

I would get a pregnancy test. I found periods didn’t stop suddenly, it was a process over time, getting lighter and slightly less regular over a few years.

No one can tell you. My mum got pregnant at 42.

I had my first late period leading to the menopause 6 years later the month I turned 42.

Either is possible.

What advice or insight could anyone possibly offer you? You are probably pregnant but may have missed a period due to stress. Doesnt sound at all like perimenopause- you are v young for that and it doesnt usually start w skipping periods.

• get a pregnancy test
• use contraception if you want to be sure of avoiding pregnancy.

And good luck.

Doesnt sound at all like perimenopause- you are v young for that and it doesnt usually start w skipping periods
It did for me!

Just take a test. Simple.

At 42 you're more likely to be pregnant than be starting Menopause I would think

Get a test

i was told the withdrawal method didnt work when I was about 13

I just had my first as I turned 40 so sincerely hoping you’re not too old, selfishly

I would say pregnant.

Let me just dust off my crystal ball....

Seriously though, get a test and then do what most women figure out as teens, get proper contraception sorted.

You need to take a test.

Taking a test will give you the answer

I started the menopause at 43 and my periods just stopped. Never had another one.

You need to do a test. And if you are not pregnant then sort actual contraception rather than trying for a baby if you don't actually want one.

Cannot believe anyone thinks withdrawal is contraception and then acts shocked when it doesn't work. Baffling.

@BrumBoo

Let me just dust off my crystal ball....

Seriously though, get a test and then do what most women figure out as teens, get proper contraception sorted.

😂😂

I had my first at 42, and second at 44, so yes, pregnancy is entirely possible, particularly if you think withdrawal is a sensible contraceptive option. Just get a test, and if you don't want to tell your DH on his birthday then tell him tomorrow.

I find testing more accurate than asking randoms on the internet.

Seriously..... just go buy a test 🙄🤦‍♀️🤷‍♀️

My menopause is now 4 years old......... although I am now perimenopausal (and I was when I fell pregnant looking back) and on HRT.

Sounds like you've just run out of luck with your Russian roulette contraceptive method. You did well not to get pregnant for 15 years.

Get a test.

Pregnant, with twins.

Have a pint of water, pop to the chemist, buy a test, come back, wee on it!

FWIW this exact thing happened to a colleague altho their periods had become erratic but not stopped. GP also sent her for cancer screening, where they found out she was 15 wks pregnant. She’s 44.

You need to test so you know either way.