Would you attend a wedding in July?

[Workyticket]

Yanbu: yes, I would
Yabu: not a chance

We're on our 3rd wedding date. Mid July - supposedly social distancing will be a thing of the past -doubt it like-

Trying to decide what to plan for. We're booked for a farm in Northumberland. Outdoor wedding under an open barn

Potentially eat outside but massive marquee booked in case the weather is shit

80 day time and 140 evening original guests

It's very laid back - nowt sorted really despite it being our 3rd date and nothing that can't be sorted or cancelled in the last couple of weeks if necessary

@Workyticket it must be so tough, it's not just the small numbers it the total inflexibility that means you can't just invite so and so's DH/DP/DC you have to be brutal and understandably people are hurt at being left out. I have 25+ cousins even my aunts and uncles wouldn't fit into 15 once by parents and siblings were included that's before I asked any friends. I hope you can have the day you want and that Northumberland is at its beautiful best for you.

Thanks @DigOutThoseLemonHandWipes
I've just messaged my best friend of 25 years to say that if we have to cut to 30 she's still invited but her husband and 2 boys, all of whom I adore, won't be

Yes I'd go

Roadmap permitting, my friend is having a huge party at the end of July (100+ and counting!) I can't bloody wait! A new outfit, meeting loads of friends and new people - the more the merrier once we can properly get back out there 💃💃💃

@Workyticket

Thanks *@DigOutThoseLemonHandWipes* I've just messaged my best friend of 25 years to say that if we have to cut to 30 she's still invited but her husband and 2 boys, all of whom I adore, won't be

Same. I’ve said to close friends they can Come but sadly partners /hubby can’t

It’s either have 7 couples , or both df and I can have 7 friends each if numbers are 30

The other 15 is immediate family

We've just done our 30 list. It's brutal and a million miles from what we want :(

It may go to more .,,,,,,,,

@Workyticket

We've just done our 30 list. It's brutal and a million miles from what we want :(

have an un-Mumsnetty hug.

I’m going to a wedding on 3rd July, have no problem with this whatsoever.

@Shareddriveagghh

I don’t especially hate weddings but don’t understand the sentiment of being desperate for a big party. I miss many relatives as they live overseas but for meaningful chats I think seeing small groups is way further up my list.

Me neither.

To me, the point of a wedding is the vows and the two people making the commitment of a lifetime together. Everything else is just set dressing and not essential.

We're going to a big wedding (100 or so) on 17th July. We're both double vaccinated now.

Most of our guests are double jabbed. Dp is. I'm not - 2nd one booked for the week after the wedding 😪

@AlwaysLatte

We're going to a big wedding (100 or so) on 17th July. We're both double vaccinated now.

I would love mine to be 75

End of July

I’m still wary they won’t increase number and have numbers for 30

Find out think in a week or two

Wales have changed their rules to lump outdoor weddings in with the "4000 people allowed" rule!

Hoping that if we still have restrictions they'll be similar in England. 2 sides off the marquee means it's classed as outdoors!

I’ve lost hope altogether after seeing the times this morning. However, our reception venue (a pub with lots of outdoor space) has told us that if the restrictions don’t lift they’ll let us have as much space as they would be using for normal customers anyway which would allow for nearly a hundred…which is a bit of a relief and also shows up the ridiculousness of these rules that all those people can be there, right now, safely and happily, but because I’ll be wearing a white dress there should somehow only be a third of those people in the vicinity.

Totally agree @breadbinbaby

If the venue is allowed to open for several groups of 30 so say 100/120 people all outside

Then why is wearing a white dress so a wedding suddenly only 30

Exactly. It should be based on capacity, some wedding venues (especially dedicated ones) are absolutely enormous!

Yup. Some days there are more people rammed into my classroom than we'll be allowed at our outdoor wedding if restrictions stay in place.

I am meant to be going to a wedding in July. I am a bit worried about it from a covid point of view. I've had one jab and I think most of the guests will have by then, but very few will have had two.

Where as most at ours would have had two

Prob as we are old farts at almost 50/54 and second wedding

@Blondeshavemorefun

Where as most at ours would have had two

Prob as we are old farts at almost 50/54 and second wedding

Most of ours have had 2

Were 43 and 50. First wedding for us both.

I’m due to go to a wedding the first week in July and believe me if I can go eg restrictions are lifted I will be there 100%. I understand the benefit of pushing things back a few weeks but at the same time I’m desperate for a bit of normality. I would not like to be my friend if restrictions aren’t lifted as she’ll have to tell at least two thirds of her guests that they can’t attend.

I planned this very big wedding so I could just invite everyone, not have to make hard choices and not hear everyone’s two-pence worth about the guest list. Worked successfully for over a year when no one was the slightest bit interested in talking about it, and now with less than three weeks to go I’ve ended up getting my ear bent from all angles about my guestlist anyway. Fuming!

Aw I really feel for you @breadbinbaby
I won’t even raise the subject with my friend never mind ask her directly if I’d make the cut should the worst happen. She knows there’s a chance she won’t get the wedding she wants but I think until next week when it’s announced she’s trying to put it to the back of her mind.

I've already been to a wedding and cried tears of happiness.

It was small and minimal, basic ceremony only as the current logistics were too awkward to make other arrangements.

A marquee wedding in July sounds heavenly